You can't fix the past. You can't predict the future. Memories will give u the strength to move on to bigger and better things in your life... I for one live with no regrets. This is why I am still friends with my ex's. Boyfriends from long ago and my husband. Live remembering the good things that happened in those relationships will help u to be a stronger person. We're here for a good time not a long time! So have a good time the sun can't shine every day!!! (Trooper)...... Oldie but a goodie!!!! to everyone on M2.....

those song lines at the end i was singing as i read them

I to have this song stuck in my hard now...
Keep dreaming, keep believing!!

i started to lv on my schooling.end up n clg. bt she s ly n my heart forever. 8year and stil am wakeup with her memories
nobody 4get their lv.tatz t best lv.

I was with my ex husband for 17 years when we split up. There are some memories that I will keep close to my heart. and the bad... I learned lessons from them. He was the only person that I ever knew that made me so mad that I threw a pot at the wall as I was talking to him on the phone.

so being off topic ... off of THIS topic is best for you then....go out and laugh with friends :)

How long will a breakup effect you?

It depends on the circumstances.

If it was a long term marriage and certain aspects of the divorce require ongoing affiliation with the ex, I can be reminded of the issues every time we interact.

If it was a short term relationship that ended because we realized we had very little in common after the infatuation phase was over, I've already distanced myself emotionally before the final goodbye.

Breakups don't always have lingering effects, again, it depends on the circumstances.

4 months to get over a relationship??? Was it a 3-night stand? A serious relationship that lasted some time, usually takes longer to get out of your system. Depending on whether you lived together, if it was really serious etc.
My experience after a long term relationship, so living together as well, takes at least a year.
Now I'm talking about relationships that lasted 11 years, so I guess that has more impact than a 1 year relationship and no children, but I'm still saying about a year.

You don't want to end up feeling estranged. The very reason I stay friends with ex's. It's like ignoring the fact you still really like them, even though you try your hardest to deny it, in case he/she is with someone else. You still end up missing the small things about them. So wouldn't it be nice to still hear their voice, or just to see them, know what they're up to in general? Denial looks like jealousy. I prefer to make peace with my past ;)

It took me five years and meeting somebody else to get over my ex.

I remember all of them. A lot of it has to do with how it ended though. I never got any closure or even a proper breakup with the last one and that can make it harder to move on. I feel sad that she doesn't even want to be friends anymore but I don't think that it's that easy to go from being lovers to just friends and with the ex that I am still friends with, I had to stay away from her for a long time before I could do that. I don't think that that bond can ever be broken but I don't feel hung up on her anymore and I am able to just enjoy the friendship for what it is.

I konw thats right.