Topic: When to start dating after a death
Miss_meme's photo
Mon 04/07/14 08:53 PM
Just wanting to know how long should someone wait to date after they have lost their husband or wife?

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Mon 04/07/14 08:59 PM
Till he/She overcome from shock.
Till finished receiving all benefit from deceased.
Till new understandable person interact and convince to leave a life new way.
Till the situation or environment became fever able and able to handle with self confidence.

Thanks
Have a good life.

Dodo_David's photo
Tue 04/08/14 05:10 AM

Just wanting to know how long should someone wait to date after they have lost their husband or wife?


I'm a widower, and I still don't know the answer.

Dallas1999's photo
Wed 04/09/14 06:45 AM

As a Counselor who gave many Grief/Suicide lectures I'm of the opinion the answer is in the form of another question...How long is a piece of rope? Nonsensical for good reason. It is generally agreed there are 5 stages of grief. Yet no one goes through them the same way, length of time or same amount of setbacks. It is totally a individual decision. But life is for the living. I encourage those who feel stuck in guilt to write a letter to their departed one. This allows closure on things unsaid. Then take the letter out somewhere meaningful to you and burn it. The First Nations believed smoke took your prayers up to the creator. I lost 2 sons 27 months apart and it took me some deep thinking, journaling and talking with others to come out of that dark place. Lastly don't think of going out with the other sex as "dating" but as re-socializing yourself. Let it be what it will be...

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Wed 04/09/14 07:08 AM

Just wanting to know how long should someone wait to date after they have lost their husband or wife?


There is no specific time, grieving is a process unique to each individual...

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Wed 04/09/14 07:30 AM
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Wed 04/09/14 11:22 AM
Wait and see if they come back as a evil spirit, if they don't, then it's ok. If they do come back, then never date again.frown

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Wed 04/09/14 11:25 AM

Wait and see if they come back as a evil spirit, if they don't, then it's ok. If they do come back, then never date again.frown


So true!!!...I just assumed she already knew the part about the evil spirits:tongue: ...Hi (((((Alle)))))flowerforyou love :heart: waving :banana:

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Wed 04/09/14 11:28 AM


Wait and see if they come back as a evil spirit, if they don't, then it's ok. If they do come back, then never date again.frown


So true!!!...I just assumed she already knew the part about the evil spirits:tongue: ...Hi (((((Alle)))))flowerforyou love :heart: waving :banana:


Hello love!flowerforyou

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Wed 04/09/14 11:46 AM

Just wanting to know how long should someone wait to date after they have lost their husband or wife?

When you can honestly say your heart is free again,
for the taking.

willing2's photo
Wed 04/09/14 04:39 PM
Whenever you want.

Dating isn't any type of promise.

Dating can be just getting out and hanging with the opposite sex.

Being held on a date isn't cheating.

Having grief sex isn't wrong.

Stagnating and wallowing in your grief is not healthy.

It's normal to feel a little guilt about getting on with life, having fun and refinding love.

Best to ya.

oldsage's photo
Thu 04/10/14 03:35 AM
Date when you are ready.

Grief over what will never be again, can go on till the end of your time on earth.

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Thu 04/10/14 06:05 AM


Whenever you want.

Dating isn't any type of promise.

Dating can be just getting out and hanging with the opposite sex.

Being held on a date isn't cheating.

Having grief sex isn't wrong.

Stagnating and wallowing in your grief is not healthy.

It's normal to feel a little guilt about getting on with life, having fun and refinding love.

Best to ya.


Date when you are ready.

Grief over what will never be again, can go on till the end of your time on earth.

smitten
The men got it so right!!:thumbsup: :thumbsup:

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Thu 04/10/14 01:57 PM


As a Counselor who gave many Grief/Suicide lectures I'm of the opinion the answer is in the form of another question...How long is a piece of rope? Nonsensical for good reason. It is generally agreed there are 5 stages of grief. Yet no one goes through them the same way, length of time or same amount of setbacks. It is totally a individual decision. But life is for the living. I encourage those who feel stuck in guilt to write a letter to their departed one. This allows closure on things unsaid. Then take the letter out somewhere meaningful to you and burn it. The First Nations believed smoke took your prayers up to the creator. I lost 2 sons 27 months apart and it took me some deep thinking, journaling and talking with others to come out of that dark place. Lastly don't think of going out with the other sex as "dating" but as re-socializing yourself. Let it be what it will be...

Beautiful....