Is there such a thing as being too nice? Just when I thought I heard it all. If people don't want to be bothered then why don't they just come out and say so.

Yes there is a such a thing as being too nice. When you give and give of yourself, and you don't receive back, but little encouragement to be a friend, then you start to back off, and go into your shell.

Just being you, the ones who care about you will accept you for you, don't change to please anyone but yourself.

sometimes you can be too nice...just make sure you take care of yourself too!

I agree. You have to think about yourself sometimes, otherwise people may start to take advantage of you.

Yup, done it and seen it in others. The last guy I dated seemed 'too nice' at first. Then he showed his true colors. Such is life. Live and learn.

M

Careful who you reach out to.......you can pull back a bloody stump. I've grown back a few stumps but it still hurts every time.

TY!

No...If being nice is being yourself and people don't appreciate that then I say...ehem..."Don't let the door hit you in the ass on the way out"!!!!!!!!

Being too nice can be deceiving. I have been a people pleaser before but had to learn that some people would rather I just be myself. I can remember always trying to open the doors for others coming behind me. Really didn't think nothing of it. Then one day this lady told me she didn't need my help by opening up the door for her. She shut the door and opened it up herself. I had never met her before it my life. Didn't know what her problem was. Didn't change me about opening up doors for others but did stick in my mind. It taught me that the song lyrics, "You can't please everybody so you might as well please yourself." It helped me to understand that opening up doors wasn't so much as a chivalrous thing as it just made sense to be nice towards others.

yes it's true...you can be way too nice. My Ops. manager told me i didn't get a lead position because i was too nice and people wouldn't take me serious

I can see now that we need to send you to the naughty chair till you can see the error of your ways.

Urrr grrrr uh

Being too nice, you will feel USED after a while. I hope you know how to say NO...

YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Thank **** Im not too nice!!!

"being too nice" is double secret code for giving unwanted attention. this is what makes the recipient "uncomfortable"..



just enough niceness is a learned behavior in reading people.
hard to do via the web - even tough via the phone.

but you get used to it. drives you crazy when it is just
about the right level of niceness. but in a *good* way....

heheheheheh



and Gypsy, you are just not nice enough for me - (and my
porcupine) remember?

I've never thought of the term "too nice". I didn't think it was possible. I believe we can be "too naive", or "too blind" when it comes to relationships, but not "too nice".

I think most of us have been burned by someone who took advantage of the fact that we were givers, it happens and when it does shake yourself off and go again. It may make me stupid, or crazy, but I'm not going to change what I like about myself because someone else didn't appreciate it.

OH YEAH!! my sister's that way -_- irritates the hell out of me cause ppl do take advantage at times and she almost never speaks up T_T

Crap.

Too nice....what a load of crap.

Anyone that tells you, that you are 'too' nice, is not nice enough.

You can never be 'too' much of anything, when it is in a positive way.

Go ahead, be less, for that is what they are asking of you.