My Kids are 23,20, and 18...

no more diapers to change, runny noses to wipe or boo boos to kiss.

Now, it's Mom can I borrow your car, you got any extra cash I could " borrow" yeah right, and I'm going to Florida for the weekend.

So, When is it time for the "It's time to move out" talk?

Our policy was that if the kids lived at home after graduating high school while going to college, they could stay with free room and board as long as they made passing grades. They were required to work part time to provide the money for dates, car payment, and personal needs. We paid for their school and car insurance. They understood that if they chose to live at home and not to go to college, they would have to work and pay rent. This worked very well. Two stayed and went to college. One chose to move out on her own and not go to college.

I think that as parents, we have a duty to raise kids who know the value of a dollar, and who know how to take care of themselves. We have a duty to teach them responsibility. There are no free rides in life.

.. I'll have to come back to this one! in another 10 years..lol... I trust you will.still be here right..lol

I hope I won't still be here! Lol

I'm happy to say that my kids turned out pretty well. The oldest was a Harrier pilot in the Marines, which makes me feel like I did something right as a parent since only 1% of the thousands that apply for the flight program are accepted. Then only half of that make it through the program. Now he's out of the military and has been hired as a pilot for Southwest Airlines. Part of his benefits is that his parents get to fly free anytime we want! Woohoo!!!

.. Feistygal...hmmm.. you seeing anybody at the moment...lol.. free flights,sounds like a great dating perk .jk.lol.

When they turn 18 and don't plan on moving out :)

I thought the benefit was too good to be true, and of course it is. I have to go standby! But I'm going to try it in May to go to Boise to get some face time with my two best friends.

... sounds exciting.. far away friends. exotic places...
. enjoy your trip fly safe... that would be so cool if your son was your pilot...

Yes, that would be very cool, but it won't be likely. He thinks he will initially be based out of Oakland or Phoenix. And he will have to fly co-pilot for however long SW requires.

We don't want to hijack this thread, do we??? Lol

I'm sure I will... I have no pesky dating life to get in the way!

As soon as as they don't qualify for medicaid and food stamps.

So I've heard.

.. as soon as you can't watch' what you want to watch on TV... out the door with them..

just kick them out even if they have nowhere to go. Why do you want to get rid of your kids anyway?

I always wondered the reason behind it.

I think it must be cultural programming or something.

we humans have different culture for as one like me who was born in Asia ,the kids can stay with their parents till they want it's not that we are lazy to work or whatever it's about family love

Tee you know i love you as a friend,You changed their diaper as a baby? You stopped breastfeeding and went to bottle then food? You devoted your life to raise them proper and i'm sure they are good Children, But now as Adults themselves its time for them to get into the swing of supporting themselves. You need your time and it seems this is almost impossible as they are still needing their butts and noses wiped. When a Man looks at you and sees Adult Children still depending on Mommy it either sends them running or you may end up with another Dependent by seeing you as an easy mark!! They will always be loved by you but its long past the time to cut the embiliculecord! Later they understand but now you are an easy ride in life, but how would they survive if something happened to you? Yes there is Welfare as well as other assistance originations out there that supports those who "can't" support themselves but do they qualify? Upstanding Citizens are needed in society, not another Burden to bear for All ! My Daughter has been on her own since she was 18. Yes i help when she struggles, but Haven't we All Struggled? That's Life. I won't give handouts unless their earned! Makes a Stronger Adult!! Your judgement, Your Children, Your choice!! (Will) graywolf55

am already having problem with my 3yrs old son...he has refused to sleep alone....so we still sleep together!!!!! i guess I'd make him work to pay for his bills

Does he? Or do you prefer to not sleep alone? There is a space for Children and Adults. You as a woman is the nutering one and its hard to distinguish. My x wife wanted me to take my Daughter in the shower with me when she was 3 to show her how to do this? That's not right in my thoughts to expose a 3 year old by seeing my genitals. I didn't mind giving her a bath but there are issues that Adults should show what is Right or Wrong!

in our family, once one is allegedly 'grown' (I can do what I want to do , its my life) ,, they are grown enough to pay their own bills

the time to ask them to leave is when one feels ready for their home to be THEIR home,,, and/or when they no longer feel they should have to listen to or abide by the rules or contribute to the household maintenance/bills,,,



just my opinion

its just sleeping,, my son wasn't comfortable sleeping alone until about 7 or 8 and my daughter seems to be on the same track,,,


if you are determined though, to have her in her own room , you just have to do the work and keep putting her there until she gets tired of fighting it,,,maybe use positive reinforcement and get REALLY EXCITED when she wakes up in her room,,,,


sometimes psychology is helpful, when my daughter didn't want to give up the pacifier after her first birthday, we used new years eve , when all the fireworks and parties were gonna happen

we took her to the park where the fireworks were visible and people were laying out, and we told her it was a going away party for the pacifiers. We tied them all to balloons and we set them off at the end of the countdown and during the fireworks, worked like a charm,, when she slept that night, she was saying 'wow' in her sleep,,lol

just get creative, sometimes you can find good ideas on parenting sites too,,