well... something has helped this a bit, his cell phone got cut off. He doesn't remember his own number, so I know he don't remember hers. I found the myspace she emailed him from and sent her a little note stating "I thought I told ya to back off" I do know that SHE contacted him. Our computers are in the same room, he cant' hide much from me that way. Anyway, he's made an effort to always let me read anything else she's sent and show me what he's saying back, if anything. I have told him that me of all people understand the whole "plan b" concept, but that I'm his plan A-Z and he needs to remember that. I also had to let it slip that "Wait...I'm like... 6 days late.. wouldn't worry.. I'm sure it happens all the time without it meaning anything." We had a looooooong talk. I can understand his fears of another failed relationship as well. I sat him down and said "Look, we can't have a successful relationship if you are sitting there waiting for it to fail. I've been good to you, and except for this whole Tia thing, you've been good to me. I can look past this ONE screw up, if you can look me in the eye and tell me that all contact with her is over. I will never bring it up again if I feel you are being honest with me." I took a few psychology classes online particularly to learn how to tell when someone's lying. I tested him on it the last few weeks but he didn't know. I made note of when I knew he was lying and when i was at least 99% certain that he was telling the truth. I only have caught one lie and it WAS over the fact that I asked him who contacted who first, and he said he did. His eyes drifted to my right, which indicated he was trying to come up with the answer. I am pretty sure he said it to protect her... I can see why cus I found her myspace and she's like 18 and very dumb.... Then I realized that I knew he'd told her he had a girlfriend. Granted, he could've said "wait, I can't talk to you about this, I have a girlfriend remember" She had no bones about thinking she was going to steal my man. He is a good one with a wondering eye, I'm taking it one day at a time. I also made him a deal that he can have ONE free pass to 'stray' for one night and 5 seconds to accept or decline. He declined, and I told him "okay, now if you cheat, your balls are mine" Wow, this is a looooong post. I'm going to bed. You all get the point.