Hi all,

I was guilty of criticizing members who asked the community to "rate" their profiles. So my apology...why? Because I think I have a possible issue with my own profile.

I don't get much initial contacts or dialogue with women. Could it be because of my current status as "separated?" Well I'm not gonna lie about it.

Or could it be because I offer too much info up front, and it is overwhelming the reader?

If you're serious about helping out a fellow Mingle2 member, please take a gander. If you're just an opportunistic-basher, then move on...this is not the profile you're looking for, as in "these are not the droids you're looking for!"

Thx in advance.
Cheers,
Danny.

Very informative profile, can't complain :-)

'Separated' will indeed keep the flock away,
so either explaining it a bit in your profile
or relying on honesty-seeking gals will help.

(My nephew-in-law flies for Delta out of Orlando :-)

Hi Soufiehere,

Thx for chiming in and the suggestion. I'd thought about explaining the "separated" status -- I'm one official document away from getting a court date, i.e. I owe my lawyer a parental plan sign by both of us before all required paperwork can be submitted to the court. But I thought that was too specific to disclose, and who would want to read about that anyway.

I'm as honest as can be on my profile and am always hoping to make new friends; but I guess people, nowadays, are always suspicious first in any possible contact with strangers. I don't blame them at all.

Cheers,
Danny.

Hi KLC, now that's constructive criticism, much appreciate that.

I've been chatting with a few women, including one who said she found me very interesting because of my "proper" English. Another wants to meet and was very aggressive about it, so that raised a red flag. Only one has been doing things with me and we've become platonic friends; but that's one out of a couple of dozen who've written me.

My "serial killer" disclaimer is my way of telling people right up front, so as to put them at ease (due to scammers and bad experience they may have had).

The headline is quite provocative if you don't know what 80s movie it came from, one of my all-time favorite.

Again thx for your insightful remarks. I'll give it some more thoughts before revising it.

Cheers,
Danny.

The movie is "Sixteen Candles" and I agree with klc, you could come up with something a little more appealing ...Your profile is great...Love how you captioned each of your photos ...Many members are separated and that status does carry with it the possibility of reconciliation, but it also says you are being honest about your marital status...Luck, love, and happiness Danny!!

Hi Leigh,

Yup...that's the movie. My military callsign is "The Donger" so I thought to have that as the headline. I think I'll put something else on later.

I will have to bear with it and wait 'til the divorce goes through. Believe me there is NO possibility of reconciliation in my case; but I didn't want to put that on there.

Thx for the positive remarks (great profile and captions to photos).

Cheers,
Danny.

Klc,

The gal wanting to meet me sounded too good to be true. Even I want to just keep email exchanges going before deciding to meet my current online-friend. But you're right, I'll give it a try! Thx for the encouragement.

I'm considering removing the "scammer" sentence to see how others will react.

I find it a bit weird that you would no answer the smoking question (especially when you say that you smoke cigars) and say that you are seperated. And yeah, "seperated" isn't something that I ever want to see on a profile and they are generally not worth bothering with in my experience.

It doesn't come across to me that you're ready to move on. You're saying that you're looking for friendship and you turned down a date on a site where most of the rest of us guys are on here fighting to get these women to date us.

OK, I just revised my profile. Let me know what you think! Thx.

To me, smoking is "cigarette smoking" whereas an occasional (once in a blue moon) cigar is not; but that's just me.

Yes I am separated and will not lie about it just to "score" more profile-looks from other women. And yes I turned down a date because I will not be ready for a relationship after my divorce (need time to readjust my life). I got a feeling the woman wanting to meet wants a date/relationship; hence my hesitation to meet her as I don't want to mislead her. Finally, I've been ready to move on for 3 years now.

Hope that cleared up your confusion.