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Topic: question for the ladies
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Mon 03/17/14 03:29 PM

Live and learn. As the French say, I will go to bed less stupid tonight. :-)

Please don't listen to anything the French say.

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Mon 03/17/14 04:15 PM



Live and learn. As the French say, I will go to bed less stupid tonight. :-)

Please don't listen to anything the French say.
but they sound so cute

We surrender, you mean

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Mon 03/17/14 04:27 PM

Maybe I should just write in my profile, she decided she was a lesbian. I'm a university associate professor and my wife is a lesbian. I'm frickin Ross.



LOL, oh Ross, I'm so sorry. But I read your profile and I think it's perfect. I always judge by the feeling I get from a profile. If they're not saying much, I move on, if they're separated and talking goo about living a long happy life with... etc... I move on. Your profile feels genuine and I think you should be true to you, and not change it because of the insecurities other people complain about.

My break up was amicable too. Heck, I even love the guy. But it is definitely over. I still get together with him and hang out and whatnot in a friendship capacity, and I think that is extraordinary. I'm not interested in a relationship with someone who wants me to be LESS of a loving person, cause that's not who I am.

The only thing I would personally be cautious about with a person newly separated is that they're secure in themselves and not rebounding. But that's something I would personally not worry about until I got to know the person well enough to gauge that.

The most admirable qualities a man, or a woman can have are honesty and open communication. You seem to have them both. I like your profile.

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Mon 03/17/14 05:14 PM
.wow. double.wow
............hmm...........
. and me wanting you to text before you phone.. makes me a horrible person..lol..omg... I am separated I am doomed.. to linger in limbo for ever... overlooking the deadness of a marriage 2 years prior to separation.... yes I should be made to wait even longer...hmm... I am packing my bags... and catching the next bus... too lonely town...yes.. that's what I'm going to do... one way ticket.... because nobody wants to sit beside me...

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Mon 03/17/14 09:53 PM


Maybe I should just write in my profile, she decided she was a lesbian. I'm a university associate professor and my wife is a lesbian. I'm frickin Ross.



LOL, oh Ross, I'm so sorry. But I read your profile and I think it's perfect. I always judge by the feeling I get from a profile. If they're not saying much, I move on, if they're separated and talking goo about living a long happy life with... etc... I move on. Your profile feels genuine and I think you should be true to you, and not change it because of the insecurities other people complain about.

My break up was amicable too. Heck, I even love the guy. But it is definitely over. I still get together with him and hang out and whatnot in a friendship capacity, and I think that is extraordinary. I'm not interested in a relationship with someone who wants me to be LESS of a loving person, cause that's not who I am.

The only thing I would personally be cautious about with a person newly separated is that they're secure in themselves and not rebounding. But that's something I would personally not worry about until I got to know the person well enough to gauge that.

The most admirable qualities a man, or a woman can have are honesty and open communication. You seem to have them both. I like your profile.


Thank you. :-) She grew up in the Soviet Union, we met in Sweden. I'm sure she always knew, on some level, but wouldn't admit t to herself. Did she hurt me? Yes! The important question is, did she mean to hurt me? No, she didn't. Think about everything she has gone through. We're friends, but that is it. Now I'd like to try again, the end and someone special.

I've decided not to change my profile, I also like it.

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Mon 03/17/14 10:05 PM
Edited by NorCalSwe on Mon 03/17/14 10:06 PM

.wow. double.wow
............hmm...........
. and me wanting you to text before you phone.. makes me a horrible person..lol..omg... I am separated I am doomed.. to linger in limbo for ever... overlooking the deadness of a marriage 2 years prior to separation.... yes I should be made to wait even longer...hmm... I am packing my bags... and catching the next bus... too lonely town...yes.. that's what I'm going to do... one way ticket.... because nobody wants to sit beside me...


The one problem see with sites like this is they are full of walking wounded. Many won't take a chance, they've been fulled before and they won't let it happen again. That makes it tough to meet someone. Love is like money, if you're not willing to invest it, you won't gain much back in return. It's a gamble and yes you could lose, but what you gain if you win is definitely worth the chance.

I'll take a chance, maybe no one will invest in me. That's OK, I'll chat with some nice people and learn a thing or two. But maybe I'll get lucky (no not like that) and meet someone amazing, who'll think I'm amazing as well. It's a gamble, I could get hurt, totally worth it.

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Tue 03/18/14 08:22 AM
That should have said, they've been fooled before.

Note to self: Don't start writing before you have that first cup of coffee.

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