Having read some very sad stories posted in our community, how can we support those who grieve?

Loosing a loved one is never easy but when they are so far away from home and loved ones and they are so suddenly taken away from them.....how can we help?

We can be here for them and we can listen to their stories.

we can come forward ( as with this posting ) and say tell us we want to know.

We can wait until they are ready to share this with us.

What else can we do? Any suggestions? Come on people this is the time to stand up for those who stand for us.

If you are out there and are hurting and you want to share your story I for one want to hear it....if I can... I want to help. So many families are having their lives shattered by world events, it isn't something small anymore and it isn't going to go away.

respectfully yours
Lucky57

Your sweet!

We can help sometimes by just being there for people...

I agree teddy......sometimes just reading what others have written for you can be very uplifting to some. It won't make the pain go away completely.....what does? But it can help........

Do you feel people's energy on line??? I believe you can....and it can be brought forth here.

We can empathsize with the suffering of others because we have all suffered at sometimes in our lives. It is not always in what we say but sometimes in giving others the opportunity to say what they want or need to say. Human compassion is a wonderful thing because who knows better how humans suffer than other humans.

well cats and dogs do but.....

They sure do, Gypsy. I just wish I could understand my dog better. I have tried my best to teach my dog to talk and he has tried his best to teach me to chase cars. Sometimes I think we are just incompatible but he will feel sorry for me and just lick my hand.

Your dog doesnt speak???? geeeeez I can understand my cats....and read their minds too!!!

Hi LUCKY, My name is T, I will SHARE some with YOU.
This poem is the ONLY poem in my life that I REALLY worked on THAT TOOK me over a 10 year period to FINISH.
And I have been here for a year, TRYING to show my TRUE compassion for ANYONE in pain here, and I had a great FRIEND HERE who I was so hoping to SEE her THOUGHTS of MY ONLY TRUE WORK, at this game of words and THOUGHTS.
As I HAD GAVE HER "ALL' of my best for ALL that SHE ever done on HERE. But In the replies to THIS POEM, HERS, WERE "NOT" THERE

This was written to help ME cope with MY personal LOSS of one of my real FAMILY members, my NEICE.
KILLED by a TRUCK DRIVER, when she was 15.

And with dealing with loss, it was FINISHED through two other
people who have passed away from HERE.
Are ANGELS, Lonelyteardrop, and Nascarcutie...




If it took tears to get you through the gates of heaven,

Then I know your beside the LORD today,

For I never saw so many tears fall,,,,

As I did on that day when you heard JESUS call.

All of your family and all of your friends,

Came to see you , once again.

Knowing this would be, their last "good-bye".

All that anyone could say, was "WHY".

So many hearts have been broken,

So many words left unspoken.

In my heart, you'll always be,

And in my thoughts, I'll always see,

Your smiling face, looking back at me!

So if it took tears to get you through the gates of heaven,

then I know your beside our LORD today.

For I never saw so many tears fall,

as I did on that day, when you heard JESUS call.

Now at rest and in GOD's PLACE, with only smiles on your FACE.

We will never forget the LOVE you had to SHARE.

And all the ways you showed us, your special "CARE".....

So if it took tears to get you through the gates of heaven.

Then I know your beside the LORD today.

For I never saw so many tears fall,

as I did on that day, when you heard JESUS CALL........






Dedicated to my Niece, who died in a car wreck, Twelve years ago!
Sabrina Morgan, age 15. at her calling.

And also for TWO other Angels that we have lost here on JSH.
LonelyTearDrop, and, Nascarcutey.
All With our LORD today.
But IN OUR HEARTS "FOREVER".....


And THANK YOU Mr Lucky for REALLY showing all of US,,
YOUR "REAL" COMPASSION.....

Hey Lucky, wonderful thread.


Grieving has so many stages, a lot are physical as well as mentally.

Support, and an ear is the gentlest way of allowing another room to grieve...

Anger, denial, sadness, a desparate sense of loss, fear, so many stages, and no rules...none...if it takes 20 years to mourn a loved one, then it takes 20 years.

We just lost a young one here, within this tiny community, and his passing has affected a large number of the people here, of all ages, including my own.

Tears, disbelief, anger, fear, and many other emotions have been expressed.

This whole village here does raise a child, so losing one affects us all...

What I have seen start to emerge after a week, is story telling, sharing moments with others that knew him...the young people of this town are with some assistance by some adults, are compiling a story book, a book filled with their experiences that they had with this young person...

It will be bound and offered to his family, who for the most part live along way away, and did not know the young man he was when he lived here...


Allow others to share their stories...when they lose someone...for as long as it take...

There is no statue of limitations on grieving.

My wife committed suicide in October last year. I told her I was leaving because she wouldnt get her habits under control and stop. Came home from work the next morning and found on the front deck of our house out in the country that i promised i'd get her. We were married for 10 years. The way i see it, I failed miserably. I cuss at every day I wake up and see that i'm still here.

Boozer, losing a partner under those circumstances must be so devastating...

the sense of responsibility...the pain is still palpable....even across this medium.

I know that you would have heard over and over, how it is not your fault, how you were not responsible...and I would agree with that sentiment completely...however, I understand the sense of responsibilty, and a sense of failing the other.

My heart goes out to you.

Actually, our 10th 10th wedding anniversary is the 24th of this month...we thought it was so nice to get married the day before my birthday.....god, what a fowl up.

Boozer, There is NOTHING I can say to YOU to HELP ease your PAINS..I can ONLY tell YOU that if YOU EVER NEED A FRIEND,,My hand will ALWAYS be raised for YOUR, "FRIENDSHIP"....

TIME heels some of OUR UNLIVABLE PAIN, but still EACH DAY THAT PASSES, WE MISS THEM......

You have probably already HEARD THIS, but NO "ONE" can LEAVE
US BY "THEIR" ON DOING, Without "THEM" being the "ONE" ,,
who "DID THIS", IT WAS "NOT" ,,,,,,YOUR DECISION TO HAVE HAPPEN.

SO "EMBRACE", "THAT" and LET IT BE YOUR LIGHT, to show YOU how to WANT-TO, GO ON..Talk with GOD alot and let HIM also
EMBRACE YOU...

YOU can email ME,,ANYTIME!!!Peace and LOVE to ya, MAN..

GOOD NIGHT PEOPLE,,,,

Our world is full of sadness and it is down to us to make it a better, brighter place...somehow...anyhow...reading the postings on the thread confirms this...

I truly am sorry for those who have loved and lost or those who have had their worlds touched by grief. The loss of the young is so hard to take...no parent should ever bury their child. Are you listening Mr Politician? Not just in the USA but in the UK and worldwide....to many lives have been cut short and so much potential has been lost...

I thank all of you who have taken the time to read my posting and I think some of the comments are supportive and helpfull..
keep it up...someday we all need a little help