I feel that if a male and female were to engage in an argument a female should never assault a male. It teaches children that witness it its ok for females to be violent in a world where children are possessing and using guns to solve issues. Just talk it out, get counseling. Hell if you arent married and cant take it get someone else...
Or am i someone thats ahead of their time living in whats to me cavemen times w/ advanced technology?

Misdemeanor assault means "to give an apprehension of violence."

If I assume you mean felony assault, you'd need to qualify that with injury.

So I'm going to go with misdemeanor assault.

Was the big scary girl scary to you?

Let's say you do mean injurious assault, are we talking her nails scratched you whilst she hopelessly tried to (ahem) pummel you into submission with her gigantic fists?

i dont think i've ever seen or heard of any "battered mens shelter" ....
but they cant build them fast enough for the women who need them....
the premise of your post is ridiculous....

argo63, you are so wrong. Back when I was married to my ex-wife, I was a battered husband. I still have on my left arm the 2" scar that my ex-wife put there. I consider myself lucky. The next man who ended up with my ex-wife was shot by her. The local District Attorney had charged her with "shooting with intent to kill", but the charge was dropped because the shooting victim refused to cooperate with the D.A.

I agree with your statement 100 percent

I agree with you, and if a women hits you then you can file assault charge but I'd rather just hit them back. They do get away with it a lot, its just another double standard we have to deal with. The basis for society seems to be to pamper women

Edited for disparagement of other members.

soufie
Site Moderator

Do you mean to say that it's ok if male do that?


Yeah...so what's wrong if children learn that female too are strong enough to protect themselves?

i would bet the number of men in jail for assaulting women in response to being hit and verbally abused would astound you given your cavalier attitude toward womens ability to hurt a man. Some women could put a man easily in the hospital and its naive to believe women are all gentle creatures who only act kindly.. Here in houston i remember the dentist who married to a dentist found her husband having an affair and ran him over three times with her Mercedes i suspect his death made an impression on him and a few males who cheat...

So it's ok for children to witness their father (or other male) to hit their mother? It goes both ways and no one should be hitting upon another..If the argument gets that bad..leave for awhile.

well I for one, do not live in a world where children possess guns and my children were not raised in that world either.

I avoid people from that "world" and did not allow them around my children

no one should strike out violently against another except in self defense. I agree. It's not gender specific

I agree that women should be taught to protect themselves. In that way they will know that they are strong. It is unfortunate that we live in a society where statistically the most dangerous thing for a woman to do is live with a man. All girls and women should learn to protect themselves from physical violence. As often as not women striking out can be incidents of self protection or self defense. Most women are not strong enough to be a match for a man in a physical confrontation so they (we) need training in self defense

I guess I am little confused here. This is a dating site, however, you are consistently hostile toward women. It seems counterproductive when the goal here is to attract the opposite sex. just a thought....

I guess you could label punishment (and help) for physical abusers and victims a double standard, but there are two major contributing factors that make it "appear" that way...One is the severity of the injuries, the other is the greater number of physically violent men in comparison to physically violent women...And one of the reasons more men resort to hitting is because many have attitudes JUST LIKE YOURS..."If a woman hits me, I'm going to hit her back...Talk about a double standard....

Me thinks that cuts both ways!

I got assaulted several times and had a woman try to force herself on me when I lived with a woman also. Keeping a woman's body off you for like 30 min while she is trying to force herself on you is quite tiring and disgusting. A black eye and a bruised neck were about the only injuries I sustained other than stuff which didn't leave marks or I was quick to avoid/block. You have to remember that attacks can be verbal and not just physical. A verbal attack isn't that different than a physical attack. Anyways if someone attacks you or calls you names etc... take it as a hint they don't want to be with you and leave. Don't bother putting up with it. Put yourself in their shoes and then think what it must take (judge them) to make them act that way and what they must think of you.

Better the women find out about it now.

Yes!!....This is a great place for him to show his true self.....

Sadly there are fewer shelters for men, even men with children, but they do exist. And rightly they should. Because weather one wants to believe it or not men are abused financially, mentally, and physically in roughly the same numbers as women even with woeful under reporting.

If the case files I have read are any indication the abuse is chronic, pervasive, sadistic, and life threatening. Poisonings, burns, mutilations, stabbings, head injuries, and gunshot injuries which are permanently disabling are common. Spouse abuse injuries are so common that now even workmen's compensation insurers are starting to get into investigating injuries to see if the injuries actually happen at work.

Male abuse victims should be taken very seriously because victims often report if they do resist they often see the "punishment" redirected towards children. Sadly still the most common believed reporter of abuse are the children of male victims.

Two major reasons men do not just leave is (1) they are not believed and (2) even when proven the female abuser still retains at least partial custody and or visitation rights; even full custody.

The OP's hint at the usefulness of "technology" is still not really functional because it sounds good but is rarely "legal" or useful in persuading anyone.

Since the primary place a man with children will flee to will be to a female grandparent, parent, or sibling they know they endanger even more family. Family the abuser has often already abused or alienated.

Since the result of bringing domestic problems into the work place is almost always termination or career suicide regaining financial control before a female can file an emergency temporary custody and support order, usually by suggesting abuse or child molestation, is difficult.

A male abuse victim will often have the same absence of money for weeks or months unless he can disappear with the kids in tow with necessary documents which is even more difficult without the mother's immediate notification if they are school age. Probably the reason we are seeing more parental abductions.

It is also not uncommon for these female abusers to have already filed for public assistance with out proving they actually have the children in their custody they continue to collect which is often subtracted from the male parents pay.

Since female abusers are often more than willing to bring in family and or boyfriends with violent records, or they themselves have personal military or gang involvement they can be a LOT more intimidating than the little cream puffs they portray themselves to be in court and to the greater society.

Since the shelter systems are mandated to act in the best interest of the child they often lay up in the shelter "system" bending every rule possible for months if not years hidden from the father getting the full monty of support while the costs are deducted from his pay.

Sometimes even getting pregnant with additional children while they are still legally married that the male spouse will also be ordered to also support under "presumed parentage" laws that have still not been revoked because it is easier to collect from employed males than unemployed females that trade sex for housing ect..

AND the suggestion that children do in fact actually join in the abuse of male victims is also common. Especially in older children and teens.