I have a feeling some people out there are missing out on knowing what your really about. They have very little in common with your profile and think because they find so little in common with it that they won't have anything else in common with you. If you have at lest 3 common interest with someone why not message them to find out if you have more in common. Also you may find some of what write about them self neat too, but I feel like because there is so little there you think your short message won't catch that persons attention. It might, but if you don't try you won't know. I mean you clicked on the profile for a reason and see you have things in common(A lest 3.) so why don't you send a message of some kind because it can't hurt you. Who knows in the end you may have more in common with that person then you know and may end up becoming friends or even dating. So next time you click on a profile and find things in common message them because if you don't then why did you view them?

can you explain this in more detail please

yes I too feel like I need more details.. especially the middle part.. could you elaborate!!. sincerely a m2 member..

Women seem to get a lot of attention on these sites from what I'm told. But if a woman views me and doesn't contact me I take it as a sign that she isn't interested and I won't contact her, even if we have everything in common. A lot of people here are looking for specific attributes, don't take it personal.

I agree, don't take it personal it happens on all sites. Keep mingling.

You need more explanation?? I think u need a dictionary and a person personally to explain you

there may be something else in the profile that is a deal breaker. Why start something if you know it can't go any where? not always the case, but just as likely as not.

This is an excellent point.

thank you. I can see both sides of it though, The OP I believe is wondering how can we know whether it will go anywhere if we don't ask, and sometimes that is also a valid point. So for me a lot of time it is something they have said either on here, in a message, or on a profile (tho I seldom read those lol) that is the deciding factor

Once again I agree with you. The forums can provides more insight than a profile. It is the advanatge Mingle has over the other sites. Other dating sites you have to rely on the profile unless it is by a person who solely relies on pictures.