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I embrace my ugliness......it's part of my charming masculine persona that encourages the rejection from others which I've learned to enjoy.
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That was quite mean of you calling someone else ugly. Still, just look at all of the men wanting you because of your looks. Beauty fades, though. I'd rather keep the soul. ^5 on the Soul retention. I am not sure that many have said they "wanted" her: they have said she is attractive in appearance. BIG difference. Now, ladies, I have not come here to either judge you or anyone else. I have as much right to be here as you do. I have not in any way attacked or demeaned you in any way shape or form. Why would you feel the need to do the same to me? Is it possible that the pot is calling the kettle black and passing judgement without any good basis for that judgement? I have made no self revelation that I am beautiful. I have not indicated the physical prowess of my ex's girlfriend. In fact, I did not say physcially ugly at all. What made you feel as though you should be in defense mode? "Experimental Post", calling another woman "UGLY" are direct quotes so YES YOU HAVE called the Ex's girlfriend ugly and you are judging Mingler's: seeing how we would play your thread. You want to put some kind of symantic spin on it now then you are not only attacking her appearance but something else and deluding yourself but few others. Anytime someone comes in making negative remarks about someone not present to defend them-self a wise person moves to "defense" mode and questions motive. Yours about the exboyfriend's relationship were clearly based in jealousy. Want to say you have not attacked or demeaned a Mingle poster may be be accurate. But you have attacked the "girlfriend" who is not here to defend herself and you can like that attack did not go unnoticed, and was reflecting badly on you, or not. It is relevant to the comment you made about "treading lightly". Someone else, I think Argo, said you were beautiful very early in the thread possibly before your subsequent comments. But that is not everyone's opinion; and I stand by my post that you may or may not be. Which is an observation not an attack. As were the following posts about presenting yourself in a less than flattering light. A wise person does not automatically go to "defense" mode of someone else, the only reason a "wise" person would go into this mode is if they personally knew the other person. So here is my observation, People on here have "stereotypes" of every type of individual, and because of those stereotypes we tend to attribute characteristics to that that type of person. I think the only reason, that anyone is in "defense mode" is BECAUSE Gingerrabbit IS attractive, many of us have grown up with those people around us that are very pretty, and yes many of them are judgmental, so because of that when someone makes a statement "left me for an ugly women" we tend to just assume that this person is one of "those" people, when that may not have been the case at all. If this was reversed, if a really unattractive person said "my ex left me for a much prettier woman" this thread would be full of "I think you're pretty" "you didn't deserved that" "he doesn't know what he's missing" when in reality they are both the same statements, just from different sides but both sides are judging equally, but because one is attractive she will get jumped, and because the other may not be, she will get a bunch of bs sympathy. So before judging anyone, or attributing stereotypes, how about giving everyone a chance, and getting to know them first. |
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I think you all have been duped...Promised one thing and sold another.
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From Page #1 of this discussion thread:
My last boyfriend left me for an ugly woman and my pride hasn't been the same since then.
The second half of that statement, "my pride hasn't been the same since then", explains the first half of the statement. Proverbs 16:18 (ESV) says, "Pride goes before destruction, and a haughty spirit before a fall." |
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Edited by
isaac_dede
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Wed 02/19/14 02:01 PM
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I think you all have been duped...Promised one thing and sold another. bait and switch....it's possible. The experiment may have been a guy trying to determine the difference in the number of replies he got to a post with no real topic, compared to an attractive woman making basically the same post, the hypothesis may have been that the women would get far more replies(and the experiment probably validated his theory) |
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When you say ugly, by who's standards, or perception? Isn't it in the eye of the beholder?
Or, ugly is what ugly does! (Forest Gump!) |
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I can't speak for others but some gal came in here whining her man left her for a prettier woman I would not buy that Balogne either.
I would think she is a drama troll fishing for compliments which is generally my go to place when people, male of female, come in and say looks are why they get dumped. If you had the looks to catch them it just comes off as sour grapes and missing the point the real you couldn't keep them. Sorry I could not more disagree more that red flags should not go up and wise people will move to defense posture immediately, when someone pretty or otherwise, starts bidding for sympathy, talking trash about others, trying to play off the purpose of a thread as anything but what this one turned out to exactly be. Sour grapes because OP got dumped. Could have been an interesting premise if she could have kept it going but OP cut her own nose off to spite her face irrelevant if it is pretty or otherwise. |
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Let's spray this all over this thread.
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Woman "A" tells others that Woman "B" is ugly, because Man "Z" decided that Woman "B" would be a better girlfriend for him than Woman "A".
Karma's Response: The others conclude that Woman "A" has an ugly attitude, thus, they side with Woman "B". Isn't Karma a wonderful thing? 
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