you can have all the wealth and other things you quench for in life but love, true love supercede them all.

Love reduces stress, it is the only best way to resolve conflicts, it heals the wounds of the 'thorns' of life that our hearts are subjected to at our workplace, home... Love looks beyond the physical stature of who is to receive or give it.
it comforts those that are worry and gives a courage to those who have been disappointed. it gives hope to the hopeless and joy tho the forsaken.
Love is so simple to 'see' but seems so hard to get. Most of Lawyers, celebrities, doctors, bank managers, name them...have managed to get all success and fame they have desired to acquire in life, but love? Is it because we have put certain conditions to give or acquire it. If love was a contagious disease, I wish it could infect the one reading this now. I, LOVE you!

Love doesn't pay the rent. Or the gas bill. Or the light bill. Or put food on the table. So yeah, love might be well and good, but it doesn't NOT supercede everything.

you're very right Mrs/Ms because that is definitely how you perceive it.

It's not about me perceiving it, it's how it is. I seriously doubt that calling up the bill collector and telling him/her how much you love them will make a difference, they want their money. Ergo, love is not everything, because it doesn't fulfill or take care of everything.

Unfortunately, not many want to commit anymore. I've come to the conclusion, that sex with a guy, is better than nothing. I'll be lucky if I ever find another commited kind of man. It's all self-fullfilling now.

True, every guy I talk to is a man whore with dubious taste in women, so you have the right idea, at least you won't get your heart broken.

If the number of female scammers is any where near the number of male ones it is no wonder the nice guys sign on, and fairly soon deactivate. I think somehow needs to be better filtering who comes in.

I really wonder why they don't just rename this Yahoo because all it seems to be is people minimally posting in here and then trying to get people to jump ship and follow them there. I don't know if they get a discount or what but they sure don't want to chat here.

I really wish they would put country of origin on the mini portrait.

I get this is and international site and only a few from each country are opting to post from each area which helps to build up membership in any one area but referrals will be the life blood of this site and I don't see that many people coming in.

folks the love am talking about is not the love that is in your minds right now. don't misjudge me :)
I am not talking about sex. I am talking about finding peace in your heart is for one to be loved and to love.
yes you need to pay those bills and they will stress you out so that you can find even more money to settle the bills, but the stress releaver you will need is someone telling you that hey, "I love you and you can definitely do this." Of cause not! you don't only need "love" from man, he is not the centre of love. you can get that love from your ofcause your husband or kids, that is if you have :), as well as your relatives and friends.
girls don't rush into sex you're a mile away already and that's what I love about you. so I hope you didn't think I was gay when I generalised to say I loved everyone reading the post nor bi. Straight.
I hope to write a post as to "Why most women think that men think that women are sexual objects." Especially people like you. hahaha! Just kidding because you can eat me alive!

I beg your pardon? I think some men want to hide their IDs because they have hidden agenders.
I hope you can sport my country of origin on my profile. that is if I have gotten you well. you know you folks can be witty in that other way. so I was wondering how this is related to my post.
I miss hearing from you M2*PacificStar48 *hug

OP your premise is about how valuable love is, and I agree, but then others and myself say that finding love here has not been fulfilling, at all at least recently, which I am attributing to the absence of people being able to find someone in their own area.

I have not written you but as articulate and thought full as you seem to be I think it would be frustrating for you also not to find someone comparable. I don't know where you live. Since it seems everyone is so spread out I am assumeing it is a great distance.

it is a great distance Mrs/Ms PacificStar48, I come from Zambia and from Lusaka to be specific but working in the northern part. I have been figuring out also why it seem so hard yes you're right. but I have discovered that if one is searching for specific people from their locality, what they need to do is to go on the search panel and enter those details. the nearest people are coming quite okay but they seem to be mixed up which is of cause frustrating.
I wish you good luck and hope to hear that you have found on out there.
just on a personal note: I have discovered that I seem to be interacting well with female folks who are older than me. they are understanding but I don't suppose to think otherwise. I need someone younger than me though the challenge is on the level of maturity, honesty and a contented well settled mind. what I think is that when or a lady/gent finds a guy/lady who is too much exploring and unsettled mind, it is hard to keep then a "burning" workable relationship...and this is one of the reasons why some ladies would not date a guy who is younger or the other way round. look at most of the girl's profiles between the ages of 20-30. they are like: just want fun...(They have their right anyway)
*just thinking out loud Mrs/Ms PacificStar48. good morning to you :)

Mrs/Ms, I mean my Shy_Emo_chick how do would you describe sex in less than five words? I say, 'my' because I joke with English for obvious reasons if it irritates you let me know "my wife." :D
Shy_Emo_chick, I wouldn't describe sex as love and I think it has to be redefined in the sense that some people do it while the other is not enjoying it. let's say, forcing my wife to have sex is that love, if on that day my wife is not in the mood of sex and if I really love her why should I force her? as humans we need to suppress some feelings to some extent I think.
so sex is not love and love is not sex. Love is more then sex itself Shy_Emo_chick ;)
you must come to Zambia so that I give you that love. but take note: no air-conditioning in my house. LOL :-*

To say "I love you" one must know first how to say the "I." - Howard Roark; The Fountainhead by Ayn Rand

I like that Sir. so true!
but some people have their "I" disturbed by some life experience making them to even fail to know/understand the "I" and other factors of life like one not knowing the meaning of it or just perceive it in another way.
:)