Stuff on the list in the OP? No. Leaving the seat up? Leaving the lights on? Things like that, sure.

Some of the ones you could tolerate would probably involve dishonesty, though.

yea, they are all pretty close to the same

I draw the line at any physical abuse or mental abuse. I don't honestly have the time for toxic people. I want to be treated the same way I treat them. I don't expect some Mr Perfect, or that white knight in shining armour. I just want to be respected, is all. And we don't have to be all serious about it. We can make everything fun.

Mate, here's the thing. Relationships are inherently subjective in the extreme.

Well, that's what I do. There are people in my family that I've had problems with over the years and from time to time I have just decided to stay away from them and let them get on with it. It's taking a stand and saying that you don't want to be treated like that anymore, or saying that you don't like their behaviour and don't really want to be around them if they are going to be like that.

I had a girlfriend who had a bad temper, mood swings and she gave me verbal abuse. At one point I got so fed up with it that I went to stay with my family for a couple of weeks and when I got home I wouldn't take her calls for a while when she kept ringing. I eventually picked up the phone though and we talked. Now, that woman thought that I was lazy and that I didn't listen to her and it made her angry. There was something in that other thread that you posted about how a man will stop trying when he gets no apreciation and that was what it was like. Nothing that I did seemed to make that woman happy and I was so fed up with her telling me that I was a crap boyfriend when I really was trying and putting up with her moods and constant negativity. I believe in working on relationships though and not just giving up on people unless it just gets so bad that it isn't worth it anymore. When it was good and when we were getting on I was happy with that woman and I wanted her to be happy. It isn't all black and white. I see a relationship as a series of challenges. It can't be fun all of the time. I even got used to her tantrums. She would phone me every f**king night and I knew that those conversations were always going to end with her losing her temper with me, giving me abuse and slamming the phone down. It got to the point that she said to me that I was deliberately saying things that would set her off and I kind of was because I knew that it was coming sooner or later and I just wanted to get it over with. Perhaps it was a form of laziness when I couldn't be bothered to sit there listening to her for hours when she kept saying the same things over and over again. Perhaps it was a form of laziness when she said jump and I didn't ask her how high. Perhaps it was laziness when she told me that she wanted to spend a romantic weekend in a hotel and I told her that I've got a bed here. Perhaps it was laziness when I said that I was going to do things and I didn't do them quickly enough for her because I wasn't as enthusiastic about them as she was and had other priorities.

I could go on but if I really couldn't have been bothered like she said I would have ended it a long time before I did and I wouldn't have kept putting up with her being the way that she was. She put up with me too. My last girlfriend was worse than her in a lot of ways but I put up with the way that she treated me and when it was good it was good and I wanted more of that. People that have mood swings and anger have issues. Couples that have problems in their relationships have issues. People in families that aren't getting on have issues. Issues can be resolved but somebody has to give a bit or you just get stuck in a cycle where it goes round and round and nothing changes.

Speaking of tolerance/intolerance, I get sick of others trying to instill their beliefs onto me. As if they will get me to change my mind. Honestly, if you can't stand the heat, get out of the bleedin kitchen. Trying to change someone is just lame.