The partner we choose in marriage usually symbolises something that we ourselves lack. Once the illusion that what someone else has cannot satisfy you is broken, troubles begin. Or, living together in harmony for sometime the husband and wife gain from each other what they had initially lacked, and thus outgrow each others'"needs"(or "love", if you like).

There are only two ways a man and woman can remain happily married. The first is sacrifice of personal growth even after outgrowing each others' needs for old time's sake. This isn't very true happiness, indeed. The second is accomplishing the fine and difficult task of keep growing together - once one sets of needs are outgrown, delving deep within to discover the next set, and keep on doing so synchronously till all lust is transformed to love. Many couples take the easier path of changing partners at every set of needs is exhausted.

This state is a perpetually satisfied feeling in the heart and body when the presence of a member of the opposite sex ceases to excite us in the way it used to, yet we relish the company in a deeper, more comprehensive and more joyous fashion. This not repression, but the sublimation of the sexual instinct into love. Sex may happen, but it is totally under our control and with our discretion.

Lust like love is universal. We can only delude ourselves thinking we have lust only for our respective spouses. So until we learn the art of sublimating our lust into love, marriage cannot have strict "honesty" and once we attain the state of love, marriage becomes redundant.

wow

exquisitely presented,, very wise

Thank you MS Harmony