So found out my ex and kids dad has been using meth for the past 8 months on and off... He lied to me about it and I couldn't even tell he was high... What would u do? I told him he can't take kids on the weekend anymore and if he wants to see the kids he can come over and see kids under my supervision and he says he has nothing to prove to me and doesn't care if I trust him or not and doesn't want to come over all the time bc he feels like he's being babysat... Am I making the right choices?

I would say yes, until he can prove he isn't using anymore.

I wouldn't trust him around my kids either. I don't think you're doing the wrong thing.

If it were me I would call the cops and report him. That's a very dangerous drug he's messing with. It makes it so you can't sleep and will eventually cause him to have paranoid delusions. I was told of a guy on Meth who thought his son was the devil and he shot him. It's not something to take litely.

I agree with this. I don't know much about drugs, but from what I've heard of this one, it's pretty awful and dangerous.

Well I've been clean from it for 7 years he lasted about 6 years "supposably"... I want to know like what u would do? He doesn't have any parenting visitation time established so he'd have to take that all to court...

Is there someone you can talk about about your options? If there's no visitation time established, can't you just tell him he can't visit until he gets clean?

Charges need to be filed so there is a record that he's using again. Congrats on being clean from it yourself by the way. If he trying to get visitation rights and they don't know he's using again then you're possibly going to have an unstable person taking your kids. Depending on how he is you might not see them again.

"You can turn your back on a person. But never turn your back on a drug. Especially when it's waving a razor sharp hunting knife in your face." -Hunter S. Thompson, Fear and loathing in Las Vegas

Good quote! I have proof in a text and he does have a record years ago but I'm documenting everything... We'll see what happens! Thanks guys!

It's a good movie and book too. I hope things work out for ya. Stay safe.

You should be active in seeing to it that you get him caught using meth because he will severly have his options at visitation limited but not stopped so you want to be ready for him to take you to court because he may well do that. Even try to get custody if he can support them with out public assistance; especially if you have to depend on it and have made public record here that you have in the past. You absolutely want to make sure you are prepared for a parental custody fight so use no drugs not prescribed for you,no pot, have completed parental training. Do the usual things like all the kids' vacinations and make all their medical appointments, use only licensed daycare, go to all school things no abscences or late pick ups from day care ect.ect. You get the state involved in your custody fight you better be prepared to win.

Take him back to court. They can make supervised visits, drug testing, rehab, whatever.

If you do it on your own, he could go after you for keeping the kids without legal proof

I am prepared for anything I've had his record pulled and made copies for the last two years and am ready when and if he takes it to court... I have him admitting to me he was using in a text message and am documenting everything... I've always attended my children's school functions and have been as responsible as can be :) I've never been in trouble with the law and don't know why I always pick the guys who r no good for me but I'm not putting my guard down and am making the choices I am in order to protect my kiddos... I don't want him out of their lives completely which is y I said he can come to my house if he takes drug tests and I see him trying but he just is making excuses and says he can't afford a drug test bc of all the child support he pays me... It's all such a mess but he says he hasn't used in a couple weeks but I'm not sure and am just taking precautions... I just know that I won't be ready for unsupervised visits for a while!!! How long would u all give someone before u allow unsupervised visits??