Guys if u fall in luv with somebody, is each of u supose to work much on trying to change one another's way of life, or to just accept the way it is and adapt to the way one have been always taking his life? What does a true lover supose to handle it?

I AM not a man but i would would accept them for who they r unless there is some type of self destructive behavior that could hurt either of u!! I mean people spend lifetimes trying to change, shape or mold the ones they love into the perfect mate for them!! There is no such thing as the perfect spouse!!;-) there will always be at least 1 thing that drives us crazy about our mates!! IS;-)

I think that you just have to go along with what women want you to do a lot of the time. I'm a single guy and I live alone. Haven't got a girlfriend just now and I can be a bit of a slob but a woman isn't going to put up with that.

On the other hand, when I'm seeing a bird, I don't actually mind getting out of my bed early in the morning to walk her to the bus stop and if I get the brownie points for doing stuff that I can't really be arsed to do but she wants me to do and it makes her happy, then that makes me happy.

Women can be a bit of a pain sometimes but sometimes guys need a bit of a boot up the backside. It's for our own good. Or at least that's what they tell me but I can't speak for the rest of you guys I suppose.

Everyone that comes into your life changes you. Hopefully for the better. I think you should be open to change. I'm not saying you should try and change your partner or force them to change. It doesn't work. Sometimes though lifestyles blend and we change ourselves to adapt because its worth it. I think if you really love someone your going to change because your going to grow in your relationship.

thanx guys l heard u clearly, becoz l always think if a lover intents to have u change on everything that seem to be possible, is not worth enough to take u through thick and thin. Now l have understand its all about how both of u vallues the relationship, and what comes after wil just happen automatically from your will.

I think you should stay who you are

What do you think attracted you to them? Them, just being them.

its give and take,,


you continue to evolve as one,, just like you do when you are single