What say folks ?

What does her husband think of it?

Ya just got love little boys trying to fit into men's pants.

i feel like its okie to desire them uptil a certain level.
Nothing wrong in that, until we keep in mind the boundaries.

You see nothing wrong that her husband is the one who will get hurt? He is the one that is getting betrayed and you see nothing wrong with that? Wow, what does it feel like to have no conscience?

I did mention boundaries, boundaries include ''not doing something to hurt her husband''.

Desiring can also be in terms of friendship , hangouts etc.
Or you saying that a married woman should never be befriended ?

Desiring a married woman, tagged as a social taboo , is a byproduct of a feeble minded society.

A married woman is a forbiddin fruit but worth a shot to try to get

Desiring something isn't the same thing as having it. I desire being a millionaire or richer and there is nothing wrong with desiring something. It the actions you take that get you into trouble. So if you make a move on a married women and the husband gets pissed at you, beats you and or kills you. Don't expect any sympathy from me. I am of coarse talking about if you have sex with her.

If you find her really sexually attractive by the way. Even if you just intend to be friends. the temptation to take it further is probably always going to be there. So it could be best to avoid it. Unless the hubby is the type who doesn't mind sharing his wife.

Well,OP,I only want to see you get married,and another guy desiring your pretty wife-you,ofcourse,gets to know about it too.... That's when I'd want to hear your thoughts on this topic!

Uh, Joeboy89, your profile says that you are Catholic, and what you say in the above-quoted statement would be appalling to devout Catholics. What gives?

This is why healthy relationships do not thrive nowadays, cuz its being misunderstood.

By desiring i meant , cherish the moments with them in good faith , with due respect and care.

I have like 50 married women as my best buds.

All i wanted to see, how the word "desire" would blemish one's mind and opinion instantly without even leaving any scope reasoning.

I believe this is what is missing in all of us nowadays, we act and respond hastily before analysing anything in depth.

The keyword you used was desire and when you talk about desiring a woman that implies wanting someone in a sexual nature. Desiring someone and caring for them is not the same thing and you obviously knew that when you made your original post.

I did think it through as to what desire meant before giving my response which is why I said desiring something isn't the problem. Its the actions you take to get it that can get you into trouble.

Don't get mad when people react the way you know they will because of the words you choose.

I have a lot of married men as friends but I certainly do not desire them. Meaning of desire: a strong feeling of wanting to have something or wishing for something to happen. So, of course people are going to think you want more than friendship. Now if your topic said what do you think of having a married woman as a friend; that would have been completely different. You need to be careful how you word things as Izzy says; if the husband hears the word desire; he may beat the crap out of you as he may think you are after his wife.

Gotta love those chicks that still believe in fairy tales and "happily ever after"..

Actually; I don't believe in marriage but I also don't believe in being a home wrecker which is what I thought this guy was but I realize now he was just referring to her as a friend. Before you make a silly comment; why don't actually read the posts. Also; I am not a chick; I am a woman as this is 2014 so you need to get with the times.

terms are easily confused

what is the difference between attraction and 'sexual' attraction

or the difference between desiring or finding attractive or seeking a relationship with? does desire mean one requires something physical?


Id say, controlling our emotions is harder than controlling our actions,, but the latter is easier when we learn to control the former

Most ridiculous pedantic semantical BS I've ever read.

But to take the question seriously; I know a very nice lady that is a friend of the family. She's still married but her husband deserted her. We get on well as friends and I have felt desire towards her. The problem is that for whatever reason, she's not filing for divorce and doesn't seem to be interested in dating. Well, she made an excuse about being too busy with family stuff when I asked her if she wanted to go out for a meal sometime.

In a case like that I would care not a jot about the husband but it's what she feels that matters and what she wants, which is what desire means, for those of you that don't speak English very well. Desiring a woman that isn't ready to move on is a waste of time if you're looking for anything serious.

I'd say it's rather more feeble minded to waste time desire something you can't have and inviting the associated drama

People are attracted to each other thats true, however that ring carries a lot of weight with me so for myself it ends right there.

on several occasions I have experienced the phenomenon where I am attracted to a guy but as soon as I find out he is married I just stop being attracted...it's like a light switch that I can turn off...it happens just like THAT...married? not attracted.