Here is another gender bashing thread. Why must it be that one is deemed inferior to the other in some aspect? Self control is something people choose to have. We all have a choice on how we want to perceive something. We can choose to negatively or positively perceive anything in this world.

Here is an example:
I have a friend that complains about her marriage. Her husband comes home and she says she wants sex tonight and he agrees. She is looking forward to getting sex. He has had a long day and by the time he gets all the "honey do's" done, he is exhausted. They are in bed, she is ready. He tells her that he is really tired and does not want to have sex. She gets mad at him and rolls over. She is still angry at him in the morning. I asked her if she tried to hold him or kiss him or do anything intimate instead of making it all about sex. She said no. Same scenario another day. She chose to look at it in a different way. He said no to sex. This time she held him and kissed him softly and told him she loved him. Just her touch and letting him know she loved him regardless if they had sex or not was what gave him the energy. They had sex that night.

Both females and males have the choice in the way they act. One can choose more self control over the other. Not all men act the same and not all women act the same.

Wonderful statement JP!

Custom and tradition has allowed men to believe they have less control, however, that is not a legally acceptable explanation surely, Nor it an adult one.

I think the tides are shifting tho, to where women are expecting men to be less promiscuous. It can kill a guy's chances these days to be labeled a "playa" as we all know that men are perfectly able to control themselves as well as women (or not as the case may b )

I think it is wrong to assume any gender to be more culpable than the other simply based on their sex alone.

Not taking into account obvious geographical differences, the food we eat for instance or the television we watch; or perhaps upbringing and how someone is raised, religion, culture.

We are more than just us, we are our neighbors and theirs as well. I fail to see the reasoning for not understanding this concept.

I am with on paragraph 1 and 2, but kinda lost me on three, unless it is a broader reference to the brotherhood of man or something. Otherwise I bear little resemblance to either of my neighbors...

I think our society looks for excuses so that we do not take responsibility for our own decisions and actions.

Of course, because I would be the one to imply a broad reference to man after I just got done putting out there that no one gender is more culpable than the other.

You grew up on a street, yes? And on that street you had neighbors, friends even...And through the years you developed who you are based somewhat off what you took from them.

A recently published study strongly suggests men succumb to sexual temptations more than women, for example, cheating on a partner�� because they experience strong sexual impulses, not because they have weak self-control.
Previous research has shown that men are more likely than women to pursue romantic partners that are “off limits.
One possible explanation for this effect is that men experience stronger sexual impulses than women do. A second possibility is that women have better self-control than men.
''��Overall, these studies suggest that men are more likely to give in to sexual temptations because they tend to have stronger sexual impulse strength than women do''�� says Natasha Tidwell, a doctoral student in the Department of Psychology at Texas A&M University.
''��But when people exercise self-control in a given situation, this sex difference in behavior is greatly reduced. It makes sense that self-control, which has relatively recent evolutionary origins compared to sexual impulses, would work similarly �� and as effectively for both men and women,''�� Tidwell said.
''When men reflected on their past sexual behavior, they reported experiencing relatively stronger impulses and acting on those impulses more than women did,'' says Tidwell.
However, men and women did not differ in the extent to which they exerted self-control.''��When men and women said they actually did exert self-control in sexual situations, impulse strength didn'��t predict how much either sex would actually engage in '��off-limits’ sex,'' added Tidwell.