Topic: Looking for profile ratings
DanLee1981's photo
Fri 12/13/13 04:55 AM
Hi,
I'm looking for women to rate my profile.
I don't mind where you're from but more focused on rates from the UK. Thanks.

DanLee1981's photo
Fri 12/13/13 06:31 AM
Im up for all feedback, pointers or criticism.

teebee79's photo
Sat 12/14/13 09:01 AM
Hi a rate from the USA

I like your profile.... The only criticism I have is your pic.

You're a nice looking guy. You should show more pics BUT show ones of you SMILING..not scowling! I don't know why guys think this is hot?

Welcome to mingle!

DanLee1981's photo
Sun 12/15/13 10:14 AM
Hi and thank you teebee79.

I actually agree now you have said it.

Better get the camera out and brush my teeth again lol.




DanLee1981's photo
Mon 12/16/13 12:32 PM
A few more photos up now so hope they're better.

Judging by the silence though maybe it is ok.

Please correct me if I am wrong.

Much appreciation x

teebee79's photo
Mon 12/16/13 01:07 PM
AWESOME PIC DANLEE love
If I was in the UK, I'd chase you down myself!


Good Luck, hon!flowerforyou

DanLee1981's photo
Tue 12/17/13 04:01 AM
happy flowerforyou . I'll keep an eye out for you just incase lol
sadly I cant come to the states to do the same

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Tue 12/17/13 04:49 AM
Well, gotta say it feels very pushy to me and I don't like that feeling. It feels exactly like you say in your first sentence "MY thing, MY way".
Is there any room for the woman and what she wants? All you state are demands: you have to be like this, you can not do that and so on. Basically all evolves around her pleasing you, doing what YOU like and want. And yet you manage to squeeze in the word "romance" (?) Dictatorship is not romantic noway Waffling? Don't think any woman wants to be told she's waffling, I know I don't.
I don't like a man who wants to squeeze the life out of me and leaves me no room to be me.
The text is congruent with your picture, the stern look.
Sorry, not at all appealing.

If this is who you are and what you are like, fair enough. If not, I'd seriously rephrase the whole lot!

DanLee1981's photo
Tue 12/17/13 07:44 AM
Thank you CrysalFairy. I respect your opinion. My thing my way doesnt refer to when Im with someone but i understand.
And theres always room for what a woman wants I will just do it the way I do and if I do it wrong its her way or vice versa. And demands? Theyre ideals actually. If they arent met it doesnt mean shes shot down. And almost every womans profile has these similar ideals or demands if you prefer. And with regards to waffling, if you talk too much without making any sense or about materialistc things that are irrelevant, Im going to tell you. I would want to be told the same and I have. And she can be and do what she likes i havent got it in me to control anyone but myself.

DanLee1981's photo
Tue 12/17/13 07:57 AM

Thank you CrysalFairy. I respect your opinion. My thing my way doesnt refer to when Im with someone but i understand.
And theres always room for what a woman wants I will just do it the way I do and if I do it wrong its her way or vice versa. And demands? Theyre ideals actually. If they arent met it doesnt mean shes shot down. And almost every womans profile has these similar ideals or demands if you prefer. And with regards to waffling, if you talk too much without making any sense or about materialistc things that are irrelevant, Im going to tell you. I would want to be told the same and I have. And she can be and do what she likes i havent got it in me to control anyone but myself.

Lest to say I can take control of a situation if needed.
I think hardly any woman wants a man to just let her do it all

DanLee1981's photo
Tue 12/17/13 08:14 AM
Edited by DanLee1981 on Tue 12/17/13 08:27 AM
Sorry i need to make a correction there. I never actually said anything about a woman waffling. It says someone to waffle with, about back in the day or the old times. I still stand by what I said in the last comments about it though

teebee79's photo
Tue 12/17/13 09:18 AM
Edited by teebee79 on Tue 12/17/13 09:21 AM

Well, gotta say it feels very pushy to me and I don't like that feeling. It feels exactly like you say in your first sentence "MY thing, MY way".
Is there any room for the woman and what she wants? All you state are demands: you have to be like this, you can not do that and so on. Basically all evolves around her pleasing you, doing what YOU like and want. And yet you manage to squeeze in the word "romance" (?) Dictatorship is not romantic noway Waffling? Don't think any woman wants to be told she's waffling, I know I don't.
I don't like a man who wants to squeeze the life out of me and leaves me no room to be me.
The text is congruent with your picture, the stern look.
Sorry, not at all appealing.

If this is who you are and what you are like, fair enough. If not, I'd seriously rephrase the whole lot!



laugh
I guess this is why you said UK, ladies preferably..
I was ok with the profile? It read to me like he just wants to hang back and let a relationship happen. I felt like he was conveying he was a laid back guy rather than, trying to convince us he's laid back, like someguys do on here.
He wants to have a real relationship face to face with a young lady as opposed to talking on the phone or texting all of the time.

But the scowling pic... Never show that one... you do come off as if you want to control everything!noway

DanLee1981's photo
Tue 12/17/13 10:03 AM
Thanks again teebee79.:smile:
And the photo, says I can't be controlled, to me anyway.
Your interpretation is spot on.
Hence "do my thing, my way".
I won't change it.
I've actually had a few interests and messages since posting from mainly women in the UK so I'm happy with that.

Its a shame I don't live in Brooklyn anymore. frustrated
I'd be over the river to take you on a date in a flash!!!



teebee79's photo
Tue 12/17/13 11:40 AM
Edited by teebee79 on Tue 12/17/13 11:41 AM

Thanks again teebee79.:smile:
And the photo, says I can't be controlled, to me anyway.
Your interpretation is spot on.
Hence "do my thing, my way".
I won't change it.
I've actually had a few interests and messages since posting from mainly women in the UK so I'm happy with that.

Its a shame I don't live in Brooklyn anymore. frustrated
I'd be over the river to take you on a date in a flash!!!




I'm happy to hear you're making out well!
and be ready to go, maybe not in a flash.. I have hair and nails to tend to 1st:wink:

Good Luck, hon!

DanLee1981's photo
Tue 12/17/13 03:30 PM
Edited by DanLee1981 on Tue 12/17/13 03:35 PM
Oh I believe that!laugh
Most of if not all of my ex's have been caribbean so I know how long that can take. Always been worth the wait though. Oh yes!:tongue:
And thanks again sweetness. I can already tell you are a very supportive and understanding woman and any man would be so blessed to have you. I would love to stay in touch with you.x

PacificStar48's photo
Tue 12/17/13 04:58 PM
I don't see how this profile would be a big draw for you unless someone wants someone who is laying out the rules 24/7. Very negative vibe. Sounds like the next bird is going to have to pay for the previous gal who got tired of being ignored while you played video games and watched the TV and found her own electronic way of entertaining herself. Romance, the way you describe it, sounds more like a command performance during the commercials.

I agree the photos are hurting you. They are about as engaging as seeing a cop walk up and demand your license. Body language comes of as distant, domineering, and cold. What might be your best asset, your eyes, are completely lost in the photos you picked.

DanLee1981's photo
Tue 12/17/13 06:25 PM
OUCH!
you couldnt be more wrong. And did anyone stop to think that i might always look like this naturally? Im happy and confident in the way i look and its not like ive suffered from it. And the next girl isnt paying for what the last did or didnt do. I dont hold grudges thats just stupid. The last wasnt ignored at all either. Video games and tv are light entertainment for when im alone. I have a job and a good social life. Most girls actually offered to play when they saw it. I wont say anything else regarding the message but i respect and am grateful for your honest opinion.

PacificStar48's photo
Tue 12/17/13 07:22 PM

OUCH!
you couldnt be more wrong. And did anyone stop to think that i might always look like this naturally? Im happy and confident in the way i look and its not like ive suffered from it. And the next girl isnt paying for what the last did or didnt do. I dont hold grudges thats just stupid. The last wasnt ignored at all either. Video games and tv are light entertainment for when im alone. I have a job and a good social life. Most girls actually offered to play when they saw it. I wont say anything else regarding the message but i respect and am grateful for your honest opinion.


Good I don't waste my time telling people when they are asking for honest feed back that is candy coated perfect when they deserve a fair chance at making improvements. It takes guts to ask for input and it is such a rip off to blow smoke in someone's ear and tell someone things are the best they can be if they aren't. It is not personal.

I am glad to hear that how you present yourself is not how you really are. You did not say anything flamingly terrible but you didn't give yourself a real great tool to meet someone. Glad you got that 99% of profiles are impressions. Sorry if it hurts your feelings you are not creating the vibe that does you justice. A few good results are good but I would like to see you swamped with responses which is possible. I like to see people be able to succeed in online dating. It can be a lot of fun. I know a lot of people who have met their one and only's.

But a lot of your success is how you sell yourself. Never doubt a profile is a sales pitch. Sometimes what you don't say is as important as what you do. Sometimes it is telling something and giving it weight that doesn't deserve it that blows you out of the water.

Helps a profile a lot if you can engage and interest and jumpstart a conversation. Generics like saying music are too general and leave the person who might want to respond to you dead in the water.

You are not a bad looking guy at all but your pictures don't catch your happy confident side. A lot of it is lighting and positioning. Bad photography can sink your message. Body language is so important to women. Photos make that hard to convey. Surprised we have not moved to mini video profiles to really let people get to know us because the perception would probably be a lot different. Pictures have to appeal to the gender you are trying to attract. Often when people post it is a vibe that would appeal to same sex friends or occasionally an employer or family which is rarely a photo that connects to catch a date. Men often are way more intimidating than they think they are. Not suggesting you wuss out but it is critical to smile in at least one shot to break the ice.

Great coat but I this venue being all button up makes you look more rigid than maybe you are. Using that coat in the right photo will wow people that you have some fashion sense and clean up really good for a variety of settings.

You are smart to think grudges are stupid but you have to really be sure you edit out any vibe that suggests that is not how you feel. If women read even a little of that between the lines they will run.

Good that the videos and TV are not constant ideas of having fun probably want to make that clear because couch potatoes are really boring and younger gals don't want to have to pry the remote out of your hand to date or enjoy an evening in with you. I don't doubt that a smart female would suggest sharing a game because that is the one specific you said you liked. While you are single you don't want to sound like a bar fixture either which some make the mistake of doing but you avoided. Good for you. If you use valuable profile real estate talking about what you do alone you will be falling on your own sword and spending a lot of nights alone. Example I like needlework as a hobby but when I am trying to attract a date I list things I like that men will enjoy doing and might actually be a date suggestion. Can't tell you how many folks invite me to watch a baseball game or razz me about my team but it is fun start for a conversation back and forth.

Don't give up Great profiles are an art that takes time to fine tune. Jump in the forums and that will humanize you. Lot of people don't get it is how you get seen even if it is just saying Hi in the Best Wishes or playing one of the game threads.

Good Luck.

DanLee1981's photo
Wed 12/18/13 06:48 AM
Thank you again PacificStar48.