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| Topic: Has society's obsession with youth hindered maturity? | |
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Two sides to the coin. I think it's good we are now free to choose how to behave and to dress. A newly acquired freedom, in the past you were supposed to dress and look your age and the image was filled in by society, you didn't have much of a choice. So in that sense I feel it's good we have freedom of choice, but we shouldn't go to extremes as in being 60 en fooling yourself to believe you're 20. You still got to be realistic and certainly not fear a wrinkle or grey hair. The biggest issue with this trend is that it burdens our youth: how are they supposed to rebel when their (grand)parents look and behave like them? For instance, when I was a teen, my parents totally hated my fave music. So music was one of the ways to rebel, to work on my own individuality etc etc. These days parents love the same music their kids listen to, they dress the same, they understand what it's like to come home (too) late, they behave like friends of their kids' friends and so on. How are teens supposed to break free from their parents when they are totally cool? In a way we force our kids to go to extremes. This is more the point of this post, I'm not saying that you can't have fun at any age, but there is a difference between having fun, and trying to be "perpetually young". If we as a society are spending all our efforts on looking back, and "fighting aging" it seems we are sending the message that being old is a bad thing, and if everyone thinks that being old is a bad thing, than everyone is going to try to act as young as possible, if this happens than when someone want's to be a responsible adult who do they as an example to look up to? I have a friend who just turned 50, she looks in her early 30's, however, and has spent the last 3 decades trying to act 20 as well, going to clubs and "keeping up with" the younger kids. She now regrets those decisions because she didn't prepare for retirement(that's for old people), she didn't save her money(only old people do that) she doesn't have kids(that's for old people) she never got married(that's for old people) she said she spent all of her time trying to be, and act young, and by the time she really realized she wasn't that young, she felt really far behind and regretted her choices, and wishes she would have just accepted the age she was all along, and grew in both maturity and life experience. It seems that if we put our worth in just our youthfulness and all our efforts go towards that goal, that we are going to miss out on life in general. |
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I take no issue with those who want to look and act young but as your friend learned there are repercussions if not done right. Being young at heart does not mean dismissing your duties as an adult. I find that the more responsible I become the more silly I can allow myself to be at the same time (balance)
ie: I buy a house and dedicate an entire room in it to nerderies :D Without the balance you're just a kid who refused to grow up instead of a productive member of society. |
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I take no issue with those who want to look and act young but as your friend learned there are repercussions if not done right. Being young at heart does not mean dismissing your duties as an adult. I find that the more responsible I become the more silly I can allow myself to be at the same time (balance) ie: I buy a house and dedicate an entire room in it to nerderies :D Without the balance you're just a kid who refused to grow up instead of a productive member of society. This. |
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Edited by
isaac_dede
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Mon 11/18/13 04:11 PM
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I take no issue with those who want to look and act young but as your friend learned there are repercussions if not done right. Being young at heart does not mean dismissing your duties as an adult. I find that the more responsible I become the more silly I can allow myself to be at the same time (balance) ie: I buy a house and dedicate an entire room in it to nerderies :D Without the balance you're just a kid who refused to grow up instead of a productive member of society. I agree with this, but if society continues down this path, how will one will a younger generation know what the "duties of an adult" are if generations keep dismissing these duties in favor of being "perpetually young"? The point is it seems we used to value being a productive member of society, but now it seems all we value is "how you look" Why would someone(in the newer generation) even strive to be a productive member of society? after all that isn't what our culture says to value, instead it says value youth and beauty. |
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I still have faith that there are those of us who want to be productive and successful. As much as it seems we are backsliding we have also made great progress (ie women being highly successful in the work place)
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I still have faith that there are those of us who want to be productive and successful. As much as it seems we are backsliding we have also made great progress (ie women being highly successful in the work place) faith is good..... women being successful in the workforce..... I'm not so sure that's progress 
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Television is to blame. Every other show is a makeover.
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People look at me and say that I am "too young" to know what they are talking about. I look young for a 35 year old. It is not something I did. I just take care of myself. It is the assumptions people make on how youthful you look. Some people have thought I was about 12 or 13 when I had kids based on my appearance. I think it is funny. I think the communication/social media has taken away the ability to mature in a healthy manner. Proper socialization is being hindered because people do not need to use logic and reasoning because "there is an app for that."
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