Ok... I need help to get me startedon this site. I just want to know what I can do to get some response/interest on this site. Please be honest with me...Is it the photos or the profile or how I present myself or is it just what I am looking for? Any & all help will be greatly appreciated! Thanks so much, Stacey

Your photos are very good (photo 6 might be a bit iffy) and you have a nice written profile. There are a few grammar and punctuation errors in your written profile but I don't think it makes a difference. Change advise to advice.

Thank you so very much! I greatly appreciate your help! Have an amazing day!

I think I'd start off with mentioning your bi and wish to explore this. You can do that in a lighthearted way.
I'm not sure what you're hoping to find? One female to explore and/or have a F/F relationship with NEXT to your M/F relationship? Or more interested in dating several women? How far do you intend to go with that F/F relationship? Emotional attachment? Sex only? Is it okay if she's got a M/F relationship herself?
Etc. I think you should make that a bit clearer.

As for the chronic disease, not sure how relevant that is. If you were looking for a long-term relationship & commitment, fair enough. But you got that with your man. So I feel this info is not really relevant.

The "NO DRAMA! NO GAMES NO BS!": usually works as a repellent, as it's not positive. And has no function as no one wants games, bs or drama. And it won't ward of scammers, so kinda pointless.
You could rephrase positively, i.e. I'm looking for a woman with a positive attitude to life who's serious about ...
Or whatever, just an example.
Keep it positive though

Welcome and good luck

Hi Crystal thank you I will def look into changing some of that. The reason I have about my chronic illness is because it does effect my life, I'm in a lot if meds, it can restrict certain things I do at times, I cannot drive due to it. Also to be honest I don't know what I'm looking for but if I met someone & we clicked & it turned into a relationship that I had along side my male relationship I am open to that so I'm not quite sure exactly how to phrase that. Also how do I say well sure I can have a male relationship but you can't so of course there are no restrictions just as long as everyone knows about the other party & no one is kept in the dark so how do I phrase that? That's been my hardest part trying to put things into words lol so any help would be greatly appreciated!

Hi Raven! I like your profile a lot!...To me it rings true ... You're pictures are awesome!...Some cute, some sweet, some sincere, all very pretty ... Sorry to hear about the illnesses...Chronic pain is a tough one

Welcome to Mingle, luck, love, and happiness!

This is the part I liked most about your written profile. You seemed open, honest and straight forward.

Not too difficult, you're doing a good job here, haha.
If the main reason for mentioning your disability is transport, you can easily circumvent that. The details of your disability is something you could address once you get in touch with someone.

Let's see, maybe something like this:
I'm a ...... (positive, happy, serious, blabla) woman looking for another woman to explore my bi-sexual feelings. I'm new to the scene so I'd like to take it slow and see where it goes.
I am in a committed relationship with a man. He knows I'm bi-sexual and is totally okay about me exploring this side of me.

Now assuming this is true, you could add something like this to it:
My (male) partner is important to me, so I prefer to get in touch with a woman who's also involved with a man (someone else), to avoid pressure on my own committed relationship.
I'm looking for someone in my area (.... miles) as I have no own means of transportation.

Well, not complete, but it could be a start to get you going.

Thank you guys so much! I just want to be as honest & straight forward as I can be about myself & my life.
I have met one or two people allready which is really great. I'm very fortunate to have such ananda zing man in my life & he will always be there.
Crystal thank you for the ideas I will def think about it & see where I can't week my profile a bit thank you so much for your ideas & help.
Thank you everyone for welcoming me here! It means a lot! If I can ever return your kindness or you need a friend please don't hesitate to call on me!
~ Stacey

I made a few changes I think it's for the better! Thanks again. If you could tell me what you think of the changes? Are they ok or should I have left it the way I had it? Thanks
Stacey

Welcome to Mingle.

I get a good vibe about you and think if you join the forums and fine tune just a little more you will do well with the profile how ever you decide to write it.

I would try to punch up the self confidence in who you are and own it but not beat it to death. You are a person way before you are either bi-curious or disabled so that still needs to be your lead in a profile. The sentence about your interests is good, makes you appear personable, fun, and generous hearted. Expand at least one sentence with a specific interest but don't get too gabby.

My experience is addressing any disability is way better than in person rejection later if people are not willing to deal. Addressing the disability by nor wasting disproportional profile real estate in is usually the way to go. You started out right "I LIVE with RSD/CRPS & Fibromyaligia, chronic pain and migraines. I know how to pace my energy and manage my symptoms and still put new and interesting experiences on my agenda." Here is where story pictures not just of your pretty face but actually doing something are priceless. Stop with further explanations. If they don't know the alphabet soup or anything about it let them Google it. Dating is not disability advocacy. Your real relationships are not about a disease buddy, or a caregiver, or being one, or the freaks that want to be a voyeur. You may get a empathetic remark but if someone has questions refer them to a web site and keep the personal details off the net. I am not saying be ashamed of your disability. I have been advocating for the able disabled and inclusion for 45 years just staying short, sweet, and upbeat is a profile gold star format.

I would not get hung up on warding off the creepo men. Something all women any orientation have to endure. You can ignore, block, report, or even only friend guys. Many men have loved ones and are actually more tolerant and supportive of Bi-sexual women than you may have encountered so far. Many long term members on Mingle are good guys regardless of their orientation.

Claiming your in a committed relationship with a man may be a bit of a hard sell but non-traditional relationships are not uncommon on line and real life. I think I would keep it simple and state "Happy in a 7 year committed relationship with a man is primary but I am bi-curious/bisexual and would consider dating or a dual relationship with bisexual woman." If you are only looking for intimate encounters with a bi-curious female I would be honest about it. If you want friendship and dating with only bi-sexual women keep saying that. My guess is what you are looking for first is a Person who is a personality type and has some shared interests which I would name specifically and add bi-sexual as a factor? If you are also open to female friendship that is about fellowship and not orientation you could add that. The most later might just be being overly politically correct.

Your photos are exceptionally flattering. I would rotate them for more views

Hope this is helpful

Thank you so much! I love all your advise & I will def work on your suggestions! Thank you so much. Yes I am looking for both friends & a dating relationship w/ a woman so I will def look to re word some of that thank you again so very much for your thoughts & input it means a great deal to me!
Stacey

I think I liked the original one a bit more. It seemed a bit more free. Second one works also though. It's more organized and definitely clear. Both profiles have some thing the other doesn't. There are some good parts in both. Either one works.

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Thank David I know I'm having the same issue lol! Thank you very much.i have a profile that I'm using in a different site that I'm getting a better response to but it also set up alittle differently lol! Ugh oh well I guess it pretty much just put yourself out there as best as you can & hope for the best! Have a great night!