I get some of the appeal, but it is really worth it? Our frontal lobes aren't finished developing until we're like, 25, and even then most of us tend to be complete idiots anyway, following the popular trend to pretend we know a lot about something we know nothing about.

So you get serious with one of us you get some endurance (if you're lucky), a different perspective (if the man can talk sense at all), and maybe someone who stays committed. These things at the cost of an obnoxious generation gap, a partner who will most likely view you as a trophy, a financially insecure upstart full of ambition and empty of sound reasoning, etc etc. It just doesn't seem worth the effort, call me out if I'm wrong.

Hmm, no one? I guess I did already answer my own question. I'll take the silence as a token of my supreme and undeniable logic.

age is not always indicative of emotional or intellectual maturity

I think people find interest in those at the same level of maturity they are at,,, quite simply

some 20 year olds are at the EXACT Same level of emotional maturity as some 40 and 50 year olds,, so they attract one another,,

Oh I whole-heartedly agree. But to do that in spite of the stigma? The massive generation gap? I've been in this sort of relationship before, and the challenges associated with communication in the long term due to hugely varied interests and memories is daunting. It's possible, but damn, it's laborious work at best. I'm not saying same-age couples have it easy, every relationship takes work, but it seems unnecessarily challenging where there are other, more logical options.

Moreover, it's far less likely for these relationships to survive in the long term than a more traditional pairing is. And the funny thing is the love is just a potent in generation gap marriages as in normal ones, but the latter is likelier to persist.

ANSWER is VERY SIMPLE.




THEY WANT TO! Just as older men, like to indulge in younger women.


That good enough?

Can't help it, that was funny...and correct!

Oh, well certainly, that's true enough. Although the reasons for wanting to are varied (ish. Studies show it's mostly for sex on either side of this particular aisle).

I guess I should've re-formatted the question as follows:

How can it be worth the accompanying stigma, long-term social problems, and implied sacrifices frankly on both sides that would have to be made for the relationship (provided it somehow went that far) to be perpetuated beyond a few months? To be developed beyond more than a curious fling?

Love conquers all maybe?

Some famous May December relationships that worked...

Bogart and Bacall...25 year gap

Eastwood and Ruiz-Eastwood...35 year gap

Celine Dion and Rene Angelil...26 year gap

Charlie Chaplin and OOna O'Neill...36 year gap

Warren Beatty and Annett Benning...21 year gap

AHHH YOUTH

Asking the same questions that have been asked for years.

Think all tha answers are complicated.

Haven't learned how the BEST/TRUEST answers are SIMPLE.

We are ALL different.

EVERYTHING we do, is because WE WANT TO.

SOME DO, SOME DON'T, WE ALL MIGHT.

PERSONAL CHOICE.

WE all learn with age.

YOU WILL LEARN.

Old Sage.

And that, I can't deny is true. You're spot on Leigh, there's the core of the matter. The truth in almost any relationship that I've seen is that if both people are willing to make *all* the sacrifices necessary to make it work, it will work in spite of the differences. ALL the differences. It's remarkable what we can do, the bridges we can gap the love that can be established between what seem to some to be the most unlikely pairings.


That said, I went on a date yesterday with a bright lady who recently served in Denmark's army. I began to sense over the course of the discussion that it would be very easy to maintain a good, strong friendship with this person who I quickly realized I had some emotional compatibility with.

Delving into the hypothetical, she brought up some of our more distinct differences and the difficulties they would present in anything long-term. While she didn't mention culture, my strong religious ties came up and the subsequent lifestyle differences, etc.

And it led me to think, as I often have, that relationships are already great challenges by themselves when they're traditional. Dealing with finances, balancing time between family, work, recreation, and other responsibilities can be trying. There's always some chink to sort out, but it has to be done at the right time and in the best way possible so that partners are encouraged to grow and not depressed by their flaws. And that there is a lifetime of work, of effort, no day ought to be wasted when there's someone to be loved.

My next natural thought is- perhaps strong feelings of affection for a person shouldn't be the deciding factor in committing to a person. Perhaps when I'm considering putting my life into someone else's hands and promising to do the same for them, it is wiser to consider if it's in my best interests to date them in the long haul, to see if- in all honesty -I'm really willing to sacrifice as much as it would take on my end to make a relationship work, and to see if I trust the other person to do the same.

Maybe that's selfish, but when I feel so much affection for so many people, it's the only thing that makes sense.

But, you know. I could be TOTALLY wrong and I expect time to reveal all. So we'll see.

nah you gotta point but....yano...the 'nads rule

is my guess to the answer of your qustion lol

Oh gosh, bahahahah! xD

Being with a way younger man would be weird. I Know I couldn't do it, nope!

what about a little older, white haired, SAGE??

Simply put, it makes them feel young and wanted again.

Nah .. I think it is their penis

The older gals just like us young bucks.

watch it


Personally OP... I have never looked at the age of a man with in reason. I Have dated 20 years younger and my first husband was 24 years older than I was.
Age doesn't really matter what matters is the person. How do I relate to them and how do they relate to me and my friends etc...

I could care less who has a relationship with who or who is havng sex with who. enjoy life.

Exactly how many senior women proposed a long term relationship with you?