cols is warm for novemebr. I didn;t make it to Tenn this year - want to go to roan mtn. if u get to cols drop me a line :)

yes {{Leigh & Suntita}} have this one figured out,
Our ideal likes are just a concept,nothing
more than an idea, & I think more people need to
realize that.
I think its the other way around, every time they
are asked this question & write this list & set
these filters they are instilling ,cementing a match & and anything short of perfect can be dismissed as "your not my type".
This needs to be more 'give in take'.
my preferences constantly change as a single person
but never dose it alter from the one I love.
I will always tend to mirror my next love interest
off of my last even if she wasn't my initial desire
at first.
We have the ability to form but we DON'T mold
but forever change.
"time changes all" and if you don't believe me then
just look what happens in the Penitentiaries in
time.

I think ur opinion is valid and smart.

...SHEER GENIUS ?

lol

Well it isn't a 12" pianist. Even if they are playing chopan.

yes,thanks,I think its just our nature and we
lust for our desire and spent too much time making
ourselves unhappy,no different than addiction,IMO
its our body's response to a chemical release in
the brain,you win at gambling and a chemical is
released,you get a smile from that pretty girl
that you desire then same thing happens..just
different chemicals. if the man/woman doesn't
do that at first site, then we are fooled
to believe that that's not the person.
The woman that I loved the most by far was just
a convenience thing at first; I thought for both
of use, so I moved in with her & kids in Alaska
where I was working.
I didn't think we would ever be each others type and thought it was sex only.
Well 6 years latter, marriage, the 'whole 9',and
another six years to get over her.
All on a one night stand,but a one night stand in
the AK is 6 months in the winter

Biotch! She had me on a technicality so I got her
back as I married her on Oct. 31st which is a made
up day,as it was stolen from February by Caesar's
jealous Nefew and the first Roman Emperor Agustus.
and put it in the month that was named after him
to equal Julius's month (July) So I married her
in Canada and in the Old book of Law that holds
up for an annulment,also children out of wedlock
are in there referred to as "Bast*rds of the King"
and is an old law.
"It just takes money..a hole lot of spendin' money"
Fact? or fiction? I'll let y'all decided.

Well then if its not "roses on a piano" then its
twolips on a organ

i guess some women are sometimes attracted to this type of guy who can be honest and specific about things!

it's good to know and learn what other women or anyone has to say,
but to use their opinions to change who you are just to please someone you want [to get your attention] is not right. Be yourself w/out being too scary

To most people (men and women) romance has two general aspects:

1. For someone to have romantic feelings for another there has to be some sort of physical attraction. Not perfect mind you, but there has to be some.

2. Once there is physical attraction (and the two meet) they begin probing each other to perceive if their personalities and character traits match.

On dating web sites it's fashionable to say physical attraction is shallow. Shallow or not it's part of the romance experience.

Both have to be present or they are just acquaintances.

Ah, the hope people like you offer to our kind. *sniffle* Oh, it warms the heart. xD

I am not so much drawn by the physical as I am the mental and spiritual or emotional vibes I get from a man. I love very compassionate, caring and patient men and men who can really speak from their heart. That's what moves me! I am totally turned off by uncaring, conceited and arrogant men, no matter if they are the best looking hunk on the planet. That's pretty much it in a nutshell.

I still think of myself as an odd-ball...but I'd like to hold at least an intelligent conversation first with a guy. Even still, that's not a sure-fire guarantee for a relationship but at least I know you can string together more than 3-4 words in a proper sentence. (Now that's without allowing myself to mentally start dissecting and correcting grammar and/or punctuation.) Don't call me babe or sweetie or ask for my number or how far you get to go with me or think it'll be cute to drop me a pick-up line...that kind of approach doesn't make me inclined to talk with you.

Sure physical attraction is part of the equation at some point, but everyone has different perspectives on what's attractive. If you indirectly call me fat saying you like a heavy girl I'm going to just block you and try to control the instant impulse to digitally slap you for calling me fat. That might be someone else's preference, but where's that leave me when I get back into my prime shape? Does that mean I'm ugly? If there's no connection or attraction to the individual on any level but physical then I don't think it'll be a long lasting relationship.

What I look for (which may be a bit of a pipe dream or too idealistic) is a man that's:

honest (maybe even almost to a fault)

sweet with a touch of the romantic (doesn't have to be over dramatic, simplicity is best)

intellectually engaging (not asking for a scientist, politician or activist - just someone that can view and explore the world around them and carry on a conversation about it)

adventurous (not looking for the "bad boy" just someone willing to view and explore the world differently...not looking for the weekend warrior to go sky-diving or such either yet at the same time curious about things like that but not feeling they have something to prove...I hope that rambling made sense)

stable (by this I mean well grounded enough to know better that food and bills need to come first before buying that car they really want when they know they can't afford it - loan or not)

thoughtful (you'd think this goes hand-in-hand with another aspect, but oftentimes it doesn't and really what I mean by this is taking the time to show you care by doing the small almost unnoticed actions to show you're thinking of them or being considerate)

genuine (this one's probably the most difficult, I don't want a mask - I want the individual for who they are and I'm not under the illusion of changing a person to being something or someone they're not)

My list is probably a bit too idealistic, but like I said...I think I'm odd.

“Any man who thinks he knows the mind of a woman is a man who knows nothing.”

i like your post.

I'm glad to see missy and kat here. nice answers

Hormones :D

I like to have an intelligent conversation first with a guy. Even that's not a sure-fire guarantee for a relationship, but at least I know you can string together more than 5-6 words in a proper sentence, without the use of a curse word. That's without allowing myself to mentally start dissecting and correcting grammar and/or punctuation. Don't call me babe or sweetie or ask for my number or how far you get to go with me or think it'll be cute to drop me a pick-up line (unless you have a unique, creative one that has humor embedded in it)...that kind of approach doesn't make me inclined to talk with you.

Sure physical attraction is part of the equation at some point, but everyone has different perspectives on what's attractive. A relationship based solely on physical appearances will not last.
I want to connect with a man spiritually after some outward appearance(s) attracted me to them.
What I look for (which may be a bit of a pipe dream or too idealistic) is a man that's:

honest, trustworthy and faithful

sweet with a touch of the romantic (doesn't have to be over dramatic, simplicity is best)

intellectually engaging (not asking for a scientist, politician or activist - just someone that can view and explore the world around them and carry on a conversation about it).

adventurous (not looking for the "bad boy" just someone willing to view and explore the world differently...not looking for the weekend warrior to go sky-diving or such either yet at the same time curious about things like that, but not feeling they have something to prove.

stable (by this I mean well grounded enough to know better that food and bills need to come first before buying that car they really want when they know they can't afford it - loan or not)

thoughtful (you'd think this goes hand-in-hand with another aspect, but oftentimes it doesn't and really what I mean by this is taking the time to show you care by doing the small almost unnoticed actions to show you're thinking of them or being considerate)

genuine (this one's probably the most difficult, I don't want a mask - I want the individual for who they are and I'm not under the illusion of changing a person to being something or someone they're not)

My list is probably a bit too idealistic, but it is important to me.

(I stole this list from another mingler, Katl80 and revamped it to fit my style because it was too much to type on my mobile)

I'm glad to know I'm not the only one with this thought process.

pretty much

Intellince- because it might come in handy
compassion - so he's not a total ***
strength - so he can fix things
humor -so he can make me laugh

yeah its never been much more than walking into
a bar in my work gear smelling of red & yellow
cedar and sweat.

I walk in a bar and ask for a beer
the bartender will say "are you new around here"
always seems it easy to meet her
when it after work & you smell of sweat & the cedar
something about it..seems to never fail
Its been many of years..I have many of tails
Most every time they get a little sniff
they'll grab your collar
and pull you in for big wiff
the smell seems to makes them stagger and wobble
but why 23 years
and I still ain't got that sh_t in a bottle.