I was in a 9yrs relationship,and after 5 yrs everything changed,and ever since then its been fighting to keep.june this year I realized being in love is supposed to make you happy and I wasn't.and I tried to see what was I holding on too and it was actually nothing.please give advises,cause this time I really wanna move on .and get over it.

Get over it first, then move on. Otherwise you may end up finding yourself in a situation you didn't plan, or you may jump into something else too fast. Ending a relationship, especially a long one, is like losing a loved one. You need time to heal. If you don't give yourself time for that it isn't fair to yourself or whoever you move on with. jmho

It's so hard to move on if u still love him, that's what im facing right now. Though, we have different situation i can also relate on how long uve been together. Letting go of someone u still love makes us crazy on someways. :(

The other times I felt like I still loved him,and that was the reason I stayed and held on.but I realized now its not love its rather getting used so much to be with him,and thinking I won't be complete if I don't have this relationship.its so hard sometimes to feel like you deserve better,u start personalizing a situation n making it to you.like u were born to live n be treated in that certain way even if you know deep down its not normal.coz I once reach a point were I even made myself to believe heart breaks is normal for me n I should jus,rush to get over things.every one deserves to love n be loved back n be happy.and a relationship is a 50/50.