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Topic: Why does bullying make African kids stronger but kills Ameri
sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Mon 11/04/13 07:32 PM
Why does bullying make African kids stronger but kills the American kids? This the most ridiculous thing I think I have read. Bullying, the dominance of one over another because or size, power, or strength is wrong wherever it happens. It is not constructive and does nothing to inspire, motivate, or protect a poorer or weaker person at the time or later in life. All bullying does is injure the child physically and emotionally and teach them the only alternative is using a weapon that makes them a criminal and puts them at even greater risk or become submissive and usually discouraged even depressed or submissive aggressive. I don't buy this is a language barrier. What I do buy this is thug/racist rhetoric that may or may not be the words of any African but highly doubt it. The very limited exposure I have had to educated African's they would find this kind of thinking as reprehensible. I agree. the africans I would be mortified....

msharmony Joined Mon 08/31/09 Posts: 61041	Mon 11/04/13 10:50 PM
Exercising "TOUGH LOVE" has absolutely nothing to do with bullying and everything to do with reasonable and consistent consequences to prepare a child to live in the real world so they can learn how to cope with difficult situations not be dominated by them. tough love has nothing to do with bullying it does have something to do with teaching coping skills it is not THE ONLY WAY,, but it is a common way in many homes that keeps people from turning into an adult who needs to shoot up schools or kill themselves when things get tough,,

boredinaz06 Joined Sun 10/15/06 Posts: 22764	Tue 11/05/13 02:04 PM
Kids today are sissies compared to kids growing up pre 1980. Everything today is considered bullying and that is such ********. Ifg a kid is fat and someone says he or she is fat, it is not bullying but rather a fact. To me bullying is reserved for some jackass picking on someone who is physically or mentally handicapped. If you agree with this awesome. If not, piss off.

uche9aa Joined Mon 08/15/11 Posts: 1986	Thu 11/07/13 04:20 AM
Exercising "TOUGH LOVE" has absolutely nothing to do with bullying and everything to do with reasonable and consistent consequences to prepare a child to live in the real world so they can learn how to cope with difficult situations not be dominated by them. tough love has nothing to do with bullying it does have something to do with teaching coping skills it is not THE ONLY WAY,, but it is a common way in many homes that keeps people from turning into an adult who needs to shoot up schools or kill themselves when things get tough,,

shinanie10 Joined Mon 11/04/13 Posts: 5	Fri 11/15/13 07:34 AM
In all of this,bullying may not necessarily means evil. If bullying is what makes a child feel your love for him or her,go ahead and bully. Albeit,one of the many adverse effects of bullying is making the child grow up believing he has to be aggressive. Don't bully a child for bullying sake buh if bully is the language or expression to make the him realize your love,then bully and quickly draw such child closer and explain the reason behind the bully. An african adage says: if you chastise a child using right hand,hug him with left hand.

uche9aa Joined Mon 08/15/11 Posts: 1986	Mon 11/18/13 01:15 AM
In all of this,bullying may not necessarily means evil. If bullying is what makes a child feel your love for him or her,go ahead and bully. Albeit,one of the many adverse effects of bullying is making the child grow up believing he has to be aggressive. Don't bully a child for bullying sake buh if bully is the language or expression to make the him realize your love,then bully and quickly draw such child closer and explain the reason behind the bully. An african adage says: if you chastise a child using right hand,hug him with left hand.

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Mon 11/18/13 06:13 PM
In all of this,bullying may not necessarily means evil. If bullying is what makes a child feel your love for him or her,go ahead and bully. Albeit,one of the many adverse effects of bullying is making the child grow up believing he has to be aggressive. Don't bully a child for bullying sake buh if bully is the language or expression to make the him realize your love,then bully and quickly draw such child closer and explain the reason behind the bully. An african adage says: if you chastise a child using right hand,hug him with left hand. this makes no sense to me.. the only thing bullying a child will accomplish is to raise another bully to perpetuate a cycle of violence

northenlights1 Joined Sat 06/02/12 Posts: 66	Sun 12/01/13 03:12 AM
You REAL? confucius says... you are out of your ever loving mind This phenomena is so because the African societies are mared with lots of hardship.Considering the socio economics and political system and also the animalism of the leaders builds the resistence or makes an African child more resilient than the American counterparts. Without that so called "bullying",it would be very hard for the kids whose parents are either dead because of wars or extreme poverty or cant cope with the hard economic reality occasioned by corrupt leaders.Its not strange to see kids of twelve years old in Africa living alone unaided,paying house rents,going to school,etc."Bullying" here doesnt really mean maltreatment or child abuse,It implies tough training for tough time ahead in life

teebee79 Joined Wed 11/07/12 Posts: 2179	Sun 12/01/13 05:15 PM
I've never heard this?? If I had to guess a reason..... African kids and their families have a different dynamic, such as being responsible a lot sooner. American kids have leeway to be children longer. African kids don't have time to worry about someone bullying them. IMO

larsson71 Joined Fri 09/20/13 Posts: 2204	Mon 12/02/13 01:18 AM
I used to love bullying a bully at school and give them a taste of their own medicine. Nothing better than calling a bully out and seeing him be scared, instead of a quiet guy who won't hit him back!

msharmony Joined Mon 08/31/09 Posts: 61041	Mon 12/02/13 01:27 AM
what doesn't kill us makes us stronger,, perhaps some cultures just have had such hardships in their lives that they prepare their children for the reality of their experience by trying to make them 'stronger' from an earlier age,,,

spanishfly46 Joined Tue 11/19/13 Posts: 1	Tue 12/03/13 08:46 PM
This is exactly why I tell my son whos 7 is African american per his dad and puerto rican per me his mom . Unfortunately to kick a bully's * if he gets bully . I will not have my son being bully by any one . He is a good kid who loves everyone but because people like you all on this page that is why bully's get there * whoop . Then when **** flips the wrong side and the bully gets killed then parents cry . Why cry your raising them to be violent and bully's . Maybe you need to evaluate your self . Bullying is wrong .I hate bully's and its wrong . Kids learn this from the parents . I am anti bullying .

Finnest734 Joined Sun 12/01/13 Posts: 15	Thu 12/12/13 06:27 PM
Bully does no good to any child,he or she looses self esteem and a wall of fear and uncertainty built around him.

uche9aa Joined Mon 08/15/11 Posts: 1986	Thu 12/12/13 11:24 PM Edited by uche9aa on Thu 12/12/13 11:33 PM
Bully does no good to any child,he or she looses self esteem and a wall of fear and uncertainty built around him. I agree with you because American concept of bullying is different from how Africans 'train' their kids.Hence you hardly hear that African kids shoot their fellow kids,rape teachers,street shooting,suicide,etc which are almost daily occurances in America where kids are not "bullied"