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He's got the prettiest eyes!

Bag o kid???? I think not........he is 6 ft tall and still growing!!!!

I have heard the term baggage over the years but never realized that people were referring to children. For some reason I always thought it meant holding on to whatever was bad with the old partner, alcohol or drug problems.......things like that. Guess I am more naive than I realized.........my children are part of my life........even though almost grown they will always be part of my life.......so until I die, I am a package deal........because no matter how old they become I will always be MOM.

Kids are definitely a blessing, never baggage. I, too, thought of baggage as old problems and such that we bring with us from bad experiences or relationships. So snuggles you are not alone!

You GO GIRL!! anyone who refers to "baggage" generally has so much JUNK IN THE TRUNK......just rolling my eyes!!!!

kids are just one more person to spoil in a relationship

Yeah, kids need love too.

Like in my situation. My daughter lost her dad just short of

her 12th birthday, and I really think she misses having a

father figure around. She has uncles and a good friend that

treats her as good as a father, but to really find somebody

who will be a part of both of our lives a lot, it helps for

her to be as acceptable as accepting me into his life also.

I feel blessed to know that for a fact, I really believe she

will have that true relationship eventually as time goes on.

But, make them a part of both lives as much as possible and do

fun things together, then all involved will be happy.

It is tough getting bringing another family into thier lives,

I know, but it can happen peacefully. Good wishes to everyone

trying that. Our kids are not baggage, they are our future

and family unity is a big part of that.

Thsnk you all for your replies!! Im glad to see that most agree with me....

Personally..I am a kid at heart and love kids. I am always the one on the floor wrestling with them or taking them for rides on the mower or Sea Doo. Kids are wonderful and need someone to help them on the way to being an up-standing adult!

Im thinking that people who say kids are baggage are people looking for someone who has none.
If they see a hot lady and get all flusterd and then find out
she has kids they get butt hurt!
I love kids have a kid and never said he was baggage
And if someone told me he was!
Kiss my F!CKIN ass.

i dont have baggage just my pride and joy

never thought of children as baggage & never will. when i was dating & someone i wanted to date had children i tried to find a way to get them involved in the as we say 1'st & or 2'nd date. meetin at the fair or at a ballgame or such. always made things alot easier for everybody to get to know each other with no pressure.

as for other " baggage " we all carry some to some extent.

Hawaiigurl

this is my biggest pet peeve..

Tell me some one who so called doesn't have baggage..and I will tell them they are full of $hit..

Bagage..u r right complete insult..I hit delete..

Although I have had many men write back..saying what we feel...

Children and family are not bagage..there will always be something comming up..so we deal with it..simple..

ex husbands or ex wives..well..sometimes there are a lot of issues..then sometimes there are those issues that come and go..thats life..

Bagage..I say DELETE< DELETE...get real..

Great post

My best to u in finding a wonderful man who can support ur highs and lows in life...and deal with kid issues and parents getting old..that we all have..

I say the ones who say no bagage are just self absorbed individuals..

Not needed in my life..

Been there..

Never again..



Z

Barbiebigsister..u hit it right on the head...I agree 100%



My best to u

Zanne

I was thinking...

At sometime in my life some one referred things to bagage...

Some may mean children..even when they have their own..

Some may referr to haven't ex's..

I have to wonder if it doesn't mean more..

My feeling with some experience is..male and females alike..want someone just to themselves...

They want perfection...there is no such thing..

I used to tell this 1 man I was with for 6 yrs..who loved my kids..so it had nothing to do with them..

He wanted a robot..someone to meet all his needs..to be able to keep up with his unrealistic needs..in business etc.

I told him go find perfect and good luck...

He left me for his greedyness..due to business..that she was better equipt to make his business grow that neither one of us had no idea what to do..we ..I was willing to go all the way and learn and ask questions..

She was a very bad unfortunate Alcoholic drug addict..he felt he would clean her up and because she had experience in her past..he would succeed..it lasted 6 months..loltrue..

He expected me to take care of my 2 sons..him..the house..the work I already was doing on my own and work 84 hours in his ?our so called business...

Ya right..If I could walk on water..maybe...

Well it ended with police issues and all..

He told me he still loved me..but he now is with a 22 yr old..he is 43...one day he may feel what the trade in is all about..oh well..

We are still friends..he spent a lot of time with my son and was here when he left for the marines...

but..I am cutting the ties..now..

You know, everytime I come across a profile that says no baggage, no drama, no whatever, I just pass it by. Everyone has baggage, and no matter how great you're relationship is, there will sometimes be "drama," it's just the nature of people to have conflict occasionally. I think it sounds so hostile and why would anyone want to get involved with that. I agree, those are the people who have such unrealistic expectations that no one could possibly hope to meet them and I'm certainly not going to waste my time.

I agree Suz...!!!! I concur!!!

I could gives a rats ars what they say, The number one princess in my heart is my 15 year old baby girl, all others can eat sh*t if they don't like it!

besides, she saved my life!

she saved your life???