I have been dealing with a person who intimidates me. She has been a real challenge. If I react it causes me to get agressive and if I act it causes me to get intimidated. I have had to interact assertively and making some headway with it. I find it validates her and me both at the same time. It seems like communication. Just wondering if anybody else has gone through this while dating?

WOW, do YOU have a way with words,,,,

SO, you BOTH give and take in conversations, and you FEEL that you BOTH need to do THIS, all the time? I call THIS, "human.


I believe that to talk, the other should REALLY lesten, BEFORE they speak back!!!

Sounds like you two are getting alone FINE,wink,lol..

Have fun...

I do believe that is why the good Lord put 2 ears on us and one mouth... so shut up and listen... let it process in that gray matter between em and then open your mouth to talk...

ahhhhh the power struggle...lol

i guess it's about listening to the signals and not exploiting them.

as we come to learn about each other, we are bound to cross boundaries, sometimes we can listen and find out where they are and why they are there before we act ,and become intimidated by the consequences. lol

I am intimidated by all men, i have to say in all honesty. However i am still able to act and assert myself and even defend myself physically. So what intimidates me? you ask?

i've looked at this so many times...lots of things but mostly it's primal...

an instinctive scent, the best word i can come up with is predator, but i mean that in a broad sense just as primal man was a hunter, and predator of the jungle...

this has been driven home by the madness i've seen thru my work.

the politics of medicine, and the brutality of war

that's most likely why i am not relationship material...it is ludicrous to imagine anyone would not be intimidated by my defense mechanisms...

most people that have been in more than one relationship have a labyrinth of mechanisms to get thru as it is....the testing period.

the thing is there's no PDF FILE anywhere to download that's reliable

I love these situations!

Someday I hope to be in one again.

They can be so much fun if you can just step outside of it.

You’re reactions to the situation are just that,…your reactions.

Let go of them. Watch as they dissipate into the void.

And then see what rushes in to take their place.

Pick and choose from the ever-flowing river of judgment.

But be careful to choose wisely my friend.

I tend to not want to be around people who intimidate me.....I dont like being intimidated and it sounds like its very one sided to me.

Well gypsy.... we need to grow you some balls girlfriend so you don't feel frickin intimidated by NO one...........

Intimidation is power....control....and manipulation and that belongs in no one true committed relationship........

Balls on a kitty??? ..... that would turn BOB on lol we'll just disquise them with more fur.......

Thanks friends. Having always been the strong silent type this new type of interacting for me is not easy. It takes me a while to process information so and I have always had had trouble being spontaneous because of it. Oh sure I can spontaneous combust and go into a fit but being social without the mindgames is really freeing me to just be myself. It is helping me to be honest in my dealings with people and to get through some of my shyness. It is helping me to deal with some unresolved issues that I have had. It does feel like a give and take.

That is called stepping outside of your comfort zone and I am here to push ya all out LOL

You are scarying me. I like being comfortable.

Trust me, you'll be comfortable stepping outside that zone, look back, breathe a sigh of relief and wonder why you wasted all those flipping years ...... ((stuck))....

Plus I don't bite..... at first..... LOL

Women intimidate me, Alex because they are more verbal. My defensive mechanism is through physical strength. What is physical strenth on the Internet though when all you have is the written word? My verbal strength is weak. I have been trying to strengthen my verbal skills and rely less on my physical strength. Usually all my physical strength did for me is to get me into fights. I find it different in dealing with members of the opposite sex sometimes but not always. Sometimes I can relate better with the opposite sex in some cases.

My job gives me a chance to get out of the comfort zone. It is a learning process because nightly I have to deal outside of the comfort zone. It forces me to communicate with people I would not normally communicate with. You might say I feel uncomfortable a lot. But it is getting more comfortable. It isn't to stage of being not just quite natural but less of a problem. Am I ever shy.

Hill

be yourself.

In the end that is what anyone will respect.

do not compromise yourself if She finds out She will lose interest.

Ahhh, the Human Ego

Myself gets scared in social situations especially if there is any drama involved. I have had to be assertive with people older than myself; Deal with the opposite sex in a working environment and people who are over me that are younger. The situation is unique to me. Yup, there is a challenge in being respectul to myself and towards others.

Hill.....I am never intimidated when it comes to men. Work, and you know where Im coming from, is a different story. I am most intimidated by people in power, who I am not able to voice my opinion to because of losing a job. And you know that happens in all types of work.

I grew up in a family where I was able to voice my opinion and no one yelled at me for it. In the real world though...I am forced to bite my tongue, sit on my hands so to speak, and that is pure intimidation to me. Not being able to be myself!!!

HUH???? You are intimidating me???