Yes it is possible..
It can be a very strong bond indeed.

Jmo

Yes it is better to take your time that to rush everything.

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ir maybe there was....else how would he know??

hehehe its like testing the depth of the water before diving into it... however it should be done responsibly.

OP there are people who fall in love and get married without having sex first and that is fine. Often the wait is due to religious or cultural reasons.

But sex is easy to learn. (Barring the bizarre that Fox can relate to..lol)

commmunication is much more challenging to hone than sex. communication during sex is vital for it to become a better experience. so I'd advise working on communication while waiting awhile to have sex.

if a man told me he wanted to "test drive" me, I would tell him to go buy a car and lose his number.

I believe it's completely possible!
For me it's completely impossible...we've got to be sexually compatible! If I duck and you dip.. then I dip and you duck.... We will have problems

Of course it is possible. People have been doing it for years and continue to do so to this day for numerous reasons. It blows my mind when people pretend these individuals do not exist.

although I see no reason why people cannot have sex before marriage, it should be something desired and agreed upon by both. No one should feel forced or manipulated.

people who "pretend" that others do not exist are fabricating that pretention for their own reasons, and it sounds like either they need the external validation or they are being manipulative. Either way, it's reality check time...lol

This reasoning always knocks me out because how someone "makes Love" to you in the romance stage is often very different than when you are married. And that goes for both sides of the coin.

You think, Pacific? I feel if he's good or bad....he will always be. Which is why you "test" the compatibility for lack of a better word.

I am not going to sleep with someone to "test " them. and I would not sleep with someone who held that wrong belief. it's too important a difference.
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I think what happens is people will use that reasoning because they want to have an "out" in case sex is not initially great, and/or they want to have sex early because if they become attached emotionally after a time, and the sex subsequently does not work out, they will be confused and face difficulties.

The one challenge such folk do not want to face apparently is the communication, patience, and giving/taking that is learned overtime with ones partner. When two people love each other that is not going to be a problem, difficulty, or challenge most of the time. But it will be a necessary joy.

We are all human (so far as I know anyway lol)....so....compatability should not be an issue as long as both want to genuinely please the other. sex is no place for selfish.

the only time I see it being a valid issue is if one partner has an extreme aversion to sexual contact, but if there is communication you will know about that in time to make choices.

And this is why this is a to each his own type subject. I've been with someone sexually incompatible. It is not fun.
For Those who say sex isn't the only thing..... That is very true. However, if you are ever in a relationship where everything is great BUT the sex. It becomes the only thing you think about.

I editted my post above to share my reasoning, but the topic is whether people wait. So that is what I am responding to generally, that yes people, many people wait.

(and many do not, but that wasn't the question).

it would be a challenge for me because I am not planning to marry..lol

it was not a comment meant to judge those who have premarital sex. that I could care less about and see as an individual choice. so nothing to disagree on there. I simply do not like the test drive philosophy as a personal philosophy because I beleive the premise to be wrong thinking. And quite! I cannot expect everyone to agree with me.


and were I in the situation you describe and the man was not willing to please me, I also would leave that, but in my experience with such man "everything else" was not great....

Isn't that how it use to be? You never had sex until you got married. Our whole moral values have really changed. I can't believe how people just meet up and do not really date any more.
What is this world coming to???

I don't really understand this. I think if everything else truly is great, then for me personally the sexual side of it can be fixed. All it takes is open communication and the willingness to experiment and find things that work. Just as with the relationship side of things, so to is there a learning curve in the sexual side of it... learning how to please your partner, discovering not only what works, but how you can ramp it up and drive them wild. No part of it usually comes in a pre-made package ready to eat, there has to be some effort put into it... unless of course you run into that one of a kind person whom just clicks with you in every way.

totally agree with both kartagne and unsure

only time it's a problem, I would think, is when you find someone not willing to actively learn and participate...but not many I know would want to skip that class

You would not think so, but then again, so many people already think they know it all and are the worlds greatest lover.

Personally, I think knowing it all would be dull as hell. Learning is just as much fun as teaching.

if youre not having sex youre not in love

amen !!