Are you serious about finding "The One?"
If so how hard do you try? Do you sit around and wait for someone to notice your profile? Or do you actively message people? Do you get out of the house and socialize in person, have real contact with other singles? What steps are your taking to find your one?

I will be the first to admit, I am guilty of just sitting behind a computer screen, but Then I realized, it was because I was not really ready for a relationship. In the last year, I have ventured out of my "Bubble" and tried to be more proactive in finding dates, meeting and socializing with others. It has been a learning experience. But nothing ventured . . nothing gained. . Right?

After I got divorced, I could not care less
about the opposite sex.
I could pass by people on the street and not
know if they were male or female, so little
was I interested.

I recognized this, and kept to myself.
I knew I was not ready for anything at all.
I had not the heart for it.

Then, one day, 4 years later, I was at a store
and as I looked down an aisle, a guy was
loading stuff onto shelves.
I recall smiling.
I was thinking, now THERE'S a man.

Whoa.
Shocked me.
I was back, ready, if the opportunity presented itself.
And..it did.

Methinks if you cannot give a free and open heart,
no strings attached, to another human, you should wait.

Until you can.

I do socialize with others where I live. "Nothing ventured, nothing gained" is often true. I make first contact if I see a profile to my liking by just saying hello. Often works for me! I am ready to date, have been for some years. Mingle moves a bit slow in that area thou.

I socialize in my area, but don't really care for the options in my area anymore. I have met a few here on mingle, but no one worth being the one so far. I have been messaged by a few men that I find interesting, but they are not in my area or state. I guess the adventure I've been wanting in my life is about to begin.....Gotta love the fall season and the opportunities it bring

I wasn't ready for a long time. I wasn't even on any dating sites up until here recently. I had people ask me out, or offer to help ,e in exchange for things. I turned them all down.I just did some soul searching, and found who I was again. I went back to school, and just concentrated on my kids. Now I'm slowly stepping back into the dating scene, but cautiously. Only because I'm weeding out the fakes, pigs, and losers.... if it happens it happens, if not its for a reason.

great attitude to have . . . good luck.

Mingle does move slow at times, but I love the forums here.

I live in a large city, and I still have problems finding quality guys to date. But i don't do long distance relationships. So I keep myself content doing things I like, keep my options open.
To Fall

I am sooooo ready to date! I've actually been on a few dates and it's been so exciting and heartbreaking!

It's been a long time for me and my heart is aching to find a special someone to give all my love to! Unfortunately I do wear my heart on my sleeve and have been disappointed and hurt! People are not who they say they are - I don't understand why that is - you're going to meet them and see that they are not who they pretend to be!I am usually a good judge of character but things sure are different here in cyberspace!

I'll keep reading this thread Penny, hoping that perhaps I will learn something that may help me! Thank you.

I had been dateless for over 8 years and when I tried again; it didn't work out. I think you hit a point in your life that you just can't date anymore; or more that you are set in your ways, so you just can't be bothered anymore. Well; at least that is how I feel. I don't miss dating or being in a relationship as I like my quiet time and doing what I want when I want. Just can't see me being accountable to anyone as I just don't enjoy it. Too controlling for me.