is there any one out there who just wants to be friends with a girl no expectations I mean most girls think a guy is trying to do one thing ( get in those pants ) but some guys actually want to get to know a girl first not just bone the same day they meet I mean think about it if the girl sleeps with you the first day and you were thinking of dating her how many other guys did she sleep with the same day she met them? do you think you are special? idk you tell me?

Wondering the same thing, feel free to share the answer once you find out

then those are the girls walking around not understanding why they're not taken seriously

I agree and when some one finally does take them seriously they don't give that guy the time of day lol

I know what you mean and quite honestly, I've had just about enough of fast women that only seem to want one thing from me. On the other hand, just because you take it slowly and build that friendship first, things tend to change once you become romantically involved.

I'm not daft and I know that if a woman sleeps with me straight away she's almost certainly done the same with a lot of other men but I don't really judge them for that and it takes two to tango. I don't really want to end up in the dreaded "friends zone" after all unless I decide that I really do only want to be friends with them.

One thing that I don't do though is to do that "I just want to be friends" thing that a lot of guys do because it's BS most of the time when they do that I think. Men just don't like to take no for an answer and I've had gay guys trying that crap on with me. If I say to a woman that I only want to be friends I mean it and it's not because I'm hoping that it's going to lead to more than that.

I don't know man....

I have attended several Mingle meets...met plenty of guys and gals.

ALL OF THEM just wanted to hang out and socialize with no sexual overtones.

Flirting and innuendo on the Internet happens all the time...it is pretty safe and easy.

When it comes to actually meeting them....for me...it has always ended up being a casual event that was actually focused on friendship and just enjoying each others company.

Seemed like it was that way for all the other folks I met too.

Bit of a tricky question ...
It could be a shame to skip the getting-to-know each other bit, the build up.
On the other hand side, if you do end up in the sack the first day, you have your part in that too. Don't think a man would get dragged in the bedroom by his hair if he didn't want to. So how did it get that far to begin with? After all, both have control over what happens or not. If things got that hot, both got carried away. Maybe she's also wondering how special she is, cos he didn't take the time to get to know her?
Always two sides to a coin. I don't think there's one default answer to this question

I agree.... there are two sides to look at... but I guess my way of thinking is that the woman should be the one to control how soon they get to that point. Personally... whenever I meet a guy and I'm interested... it takes a while to get there

Uh, excuse me, but we male Melmacians never try to get into a female's pants on a first date.

Into her refrigerator? Yes. Into her pants? No.