I received a private message from a young man earlier today.... I looked at the page but was unable to reply at that time... So I come back to the site to find a message from the same man telling me "so you would just visit my profil and ignore my message??? Thanks for that. I don't need people like that."

Woah!!! I am sooo sorry that wasn't my main priority at the time...

So my question is..... Would you guys really respond in this way?


I mean who does that?

Who does that?

My guess would be a young man who is frustrated and angry at the world!
I think he did you a big favor in revealing his impatience and anger!
Truthfully, it is YOU who doesn't need that in your life!

When first I started on Mingle, I would try to reply
to all emails, politely.

Then I thought, I better get right at it and tell them
I had no interest, as the forums seemed to indicate
that is what men might appreciate.

Uh uh honey, they got downright mean, "So you think you
are too good for me?"

And no matter what I said, they just got meaner.

So I stopped altogether, replying, damned if you do,
damned if you don't.

As a learning tool though, I will say this, you learn
a LOT more about their character when you turn someone
down than if you keep it all light and fluffy.

This!!!!... ignore and delete...if your not interested ..I like
Soufie learned the hard way... No answer is the answer;)

I couldn't believe it.. I ended up blocking him... I'm sorry I LOVE this site and I refuse to let immature idiots like this one mess it up!!

that sucks..

Psychology...Or social conditioning, take your pick.

Ten dudes in one room with one chick ultimately means it is going to be a really, really long road for that one chick...Rush, get it out of the way quick, and move on if it doesn't work out just as quick.

It's like one f*ed up game of Russian Roulette.

Try to look at it from his point of view. The guy has almost certainly been mailing loads of women on here that looked at his profile without replying and he's fed up with it. That doesn't excuse his behaviour but you asked who does that and that's your answer. He feels like crap because of all of the rejection and bitterness sometimes drives such people to say, "Well, screw you then" because it makes them feel better about themselves to say, "Who does that?" to you when you don't reply to them.

Personally, I wouldn't waste my time any further if someone doesn't reply to me but it can be annoying and it can also be annoying when they do reply but only to say that you aren't their type, even if they say that they like you enough to be friends. In fact, that can be even worse. There was a woman on here that said that she thought that I'm a great guy but that she only goes out with younger men but it seemed to me that she was giving me mixed messages about that and it ended up with us falling out.

Here is the problem..some times you get lots of emails every day. You don't like to be rude but who can really email everyone back? Plus why would we mail 18 year old boys back who says that want to have a relationship with us? I know I don't like being rude but yesterday I told an 18 year old that I was old enough to be his mom. He said I like older women, and he kept emailing me...so that is what happens when you try to be nice.
Some times you just have to say NOPE and just keep going!!!

BUMMER !
I don't seem to have that problem
But i agree if they are rude or can't take no for an answer
Just delete their mail and block them

Yeah, I had some ladies look at my profile, and not contact
me. I just leave it as it is. I felt flattered enough that
they looked in the first place.

Luckily, I have had some contacts. Thing is, they
don't live anywhere near where I do. I did have one
lady who lived not far from me in contact for a week
or so. She decided not to get back, for what reason
I'm not sure. Found somebody else I guess?

I completely understand both sides.... I've been rejected plenty of times and it's not best feeling... but it still does not justify his reaction.... Honestly, I had every intention of replying and getting to know him...... enough said

No, it isnt a nice feeling at all. Awful really. Makes
you feel self conscious. Can also hurt your self-esteem
if you let it.

A part of life for everyone I would think

I don't understand why someone would be compelled to be and instant a$$ over something so minuscule. You are NOT required to reply to any one at any time period, let alone within a specific time period. The end.

Agree. Nobody, man or woman should feel guilty into getting
back to someone they are not interested in.

And I am not trying to be rude Barrie when I say this:

Even if I am interested in someone , I talk to them and exchange my msgs at my own pace...if someone is bothered by that as well they have the ability just to move along.

I dont blame you one bit, Edy! Some people are obviously
way too pushy. Whether they are men or women, they should
try to stay patient, and maybe they will get lucky and
find someone, eventually.

Don't have to tell me twice..