B4 a person has sex with one of two persons; you decide: "What do I want.
After U start having sex with one of them; YOU HAVE ALREADY DECIDED WHAT U WANT AND NOW HAVE TO STICK TO WHAT U SAID WHEN U HAD SEX OR WHAT U SAY WHILE HAVING SEX.

20 years or so in the future, WHAT ADVICE ARE YOU GOING TO GIVE U SON WHEN HE IS IN THE SAME POSITION THAT MIKE IS IN NOW?

WHAT ADVICE ARE YOU GOING TO GIVE U DAUGHTER WHO IS IN THE SAME POSITON LIKE MIKE IS IN NOW?

At that time in the future, you will be told and would already have learnt that OLDER WOMEN IS SUPPOSED TO GIVE THE YOURGER WOMEN SOBER ADVICE. NOT LEAD THEM ASTRAY.

It is not men who don't care when they have to decide between two women. Men feel sorry. I can give stories about that. I do not have the time now. However, when a woman is ready to let go a man, HE COULD CRY BLOOD, SHE WILL DUMP HIM MERCILESSLY and she and her female friends will say: "Think about Uself and what U want!!

Read what I said again. I am talking from experience. U will end up sneaking back with Mike, if U go back with Ex.
I have been on BOTH sides of that fence. That is not easy to fight.

Morally, U have 2 leave Ex alone.

There is the WIFE MATERIAL woman; and there is the FRIENDING material woman. What is the difference? The woman who can KEEP her verbal contract. Which should U be??

You be no the rebound babygirl!!!!
Just kick the dude the the curb and go back to your ex!!!
Yep its the right thing to do!!
Its not fair to the dude your doin now!!

does the ex know about the new guy?

i think i would put the past behind me and move forward

Hi Beebee,

This is a very confusing situation to be placed in ..... as you have stated someone will be hurt either way. In all fairness you may want to take this time to deal with what you really need, want and desire from a significant other you engage in a relationship with.

You spoke of feeling used in the past and want to make sure this doesn't happen again, I wish we could see into the future and guard ourselves against this type of occurrence but we can't.

Be honest with guy A (ex) and tell him of your apprehensions and Please be honest with guy B about your confusion then if you take some alone time to figure out what you need and expect from a relationship then you will not have such a difficult time in selecting a mate.

You will then seek out the ones that suit your wants and needs and desires, and it most likely won't be a hard decision once you know who you are and what you want and deserve in a mate....and that should be no less than respect, dignity, love and admiration and the biggest one......Honesty.

I wish you the best of luck in your decisions.

Benzy

The person who CAUSED you to have the NEED to seek another, is the One to stay away from.

In other words, if Janet took a chance on me, lie down and give me her body, when my Ex Delilah comes crying blood for us to reconcile, Delilah is the one to stay away from.

I am not going to dump the one who was good to me when I most needed someone.

What would you do out there JSH?

Some peopoe are TOO INTELLIGENT and SMART to realize that whatever comments you make here, TELLS everyone whether they are ones to avoid like the plagues in Egypt or to embrace in ecstasy.

If they advise people to selfishly DUMP who has been good to them, when they were in need, well then, as a woman will say: "He MUST get an erection again and come for a NEXT screw." Another will say: "Is not one time bottom will want to schitt!"

^^^^Beebee dont listin to this hogwash..........


BeeBee I read only the first two lines of Your post......

Your not over Your Ex what else is there to know...obviously it is painfully true that this new guy your dating is what is called the "Transition Guy".....stop wasting his and your time test the waters see what comes up about your ex with this guy....and then give him the boot why delay the misery........

good luck......

Women! TAKE NOTE of what Quake will do to you if you give him a couple screws after he came crying HOW much he needed you.

He will DUMP YOU FOR HIS EX, AS SOON AS SHE SNAP HER FINGERS BECAUSE HE IS NOT OVER HER YET.

MEN!!! Take note of all the women who will take this smart man's advice. These women will dump you when their Ex smiles at them or their Ex will pick them up, beat life out of their poohsie, then drop them back home for Stupidy to take the left overs and you will have to use the condom. Not the Ex.

TAKE NOTE.

Some people have a hard time letting go, but you got to follow your heart and your head, maybe take a breather from all men and get to know you and see who BeeBee is by herself without being so damned dependent on a man to justify your definition of womanhood.... difference between NEED and WANT....... and remember the actions and decisions you make right now...they effect tomorrow.

Good Luck......

^^^TAKE NOTE......just say NO to drugs...........


BeeBee this is the Transition Guy.........a lot of Women go through it You wouldn't be the first.....

You've realized your not over Your Ex...deal with it and move on.......you'll thank Me later....

Very sound advice Brains..............

well posted.

If she is NOT over her Ex, what she using THE TRANSITION GUY FOR? That is a joke?

Any TRANSITION ladies out there? Quake needs a few.
Any DEDICATED wife material ladies out there? Quake wants to 'turn you out' INTO A TRANSITION LADY.

So PLEASE line up. He wants to pimp you into A TRANSITION LADY.
Then COLLECT your certificate so that you can SHOW it around for the rest of you life.

Greiving I'd like to see Your point of view concerning the thread but I can't ram my head as far up my azz you can.... I tire quickly of Your dismal schoolyard out look of pontification fuyck You've spent over half your life as a transition guy you should know more than anybody what I'm talking about....

Please quit while you ahead....

I agree, It's getting to be sour milk

Thanks for the CONFESSION and COMPLIMENT that Greiving is FAR AHEAD Quake. Thank you. Thank you.
While I am bending my head there, you are too far behind for me to see you far more to hold the certificate.
If I wait here, you think you can reach me by next Christmas?

You can never go home again.....stay with current guy

Dump them both, focus on you and see how you feel in a few months. Don't talk to either of them or anyone else for that matter. You don't care about guy number one enough or you wouldn't be with number 2. You don't care about guy number 2 enough or you wouldn't be considering going back to guy number 1. Work on being happy on your own and guy number 3 will find your comfort/security/happiness attractive.

Whatever she does, I hope there would be NO murder/suicide or grave/electric chair.

Some VERY QUIET people that get mercilessly dumped, after being 'great, sweet guy, cooks & cleans,' SHOOT UP DE PLACE,
Dumper and dumping advisors. Then they call him criminal.

Is not the Dumper really THE criminal, even though Dumpee should not exterminate, Dumper & Associates?

Greiving just when I think You can't be any more of a bigger Hypocrite than You already are .........You go and prove me wrong....

Yes shooting up the place is the best answer..........WOW! so very intelligent...........

God I'm glad there are at least some gun laws...