Hi all , i have a question , why is it that when you ask a member of the opposite sex just to be friends and share what could be a great social life , enjoying shared interests they all seem to look at you as if ( in my case )im some kind of freak because its not the norm but would not mind starting a relationship so it would be in some way ok , i have good mates who i rock climb with , wild swimming , wild camping ,mountain bike rides indeed anything outside , but to be honest i think women are far more interesting in their views and outlook not to mention sense of humour . wish i could meet that special women could be my soulmate but why dont they seem to want get to be really great friends before you both want to become an item . has anyone else have this problem

That's all I have is friends~and one Bff~

Anything built to last, takes time and patience.

Hey I agree friends firt then an item 100% behind your view

"I WALK ALONE"
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We're a society of instant gratification. You're right we SHOULD get to know people before we even start to think about becoming couples. That's why divorce is so common now a days, that and no one wants to fight for relationships.

I think it's a really bad idea to be someone's friend, based off having a crush on them. As the friend they have a crush on, may end up dating someone else. You can never predict what will happen. If you want to be their friend, that's fine. As long as you're upfront about what you want. I don't think it's a good way to live, when a friend stalks another who they try to coax into getting into a relationship with. And yeah I've been there. ;)

I always like to start as friends.That was things can build in a positive way!