I tried to message Wolf in private, but he's doesn't accept people under certain criteria, so I'm going to be brave and post it here.

Hi Wolf,

I read your post and appreciate what you had to say, but I wanted to have a bit of a conversation about it in private.

I'm not a money grubber, or looking to meet even, I'm just looking for some insight and a bit of honesty.

I know what you mean about the generations getting lazier as time goes on. I do see that too, even though I also agree that it is more difficult to find employment these days, and that there are more obstacles.

My issue is that I am just recovering from a long term illness, on top of other past traumatic incidents that left me with low sense of ability to achieve. I am looking for a job now, but because of long periods of unemployment, have little hope of finding a decent job.

Having said that, I think I have much to offer in a relationship, but I'm afraid of telling people on here what my situation is. For one, it's embarrassing, for two, I don't want to rely on a man to pay for me or want him to pity me, and for three, it's making me feel less valuable as a person.

Maybe I'm not on here at the right time, I don't know. I think I've answered my own questions with that last paragraph. I think I need to focus on myself for the time being.

Well this was helpful! lol

Thanks for your post, it really helped.