I just wanted to know whether single ladies view a child living with his daddy is a turn off to ladies and if so, why?

no

and there is no why....it is not a turn off. you shouldn't even worry about it. your baby is is far more important than the weight of the worry.

cheer up ...children are god's gifts. soemone who doesn;t understand that is not going to be good enough for you :)

welcome

no it is not. seeing a man good whith children is very attractive..

Not at all.

A woman who is turned off by your child...you don't want around your child anyway.

i believe its attractive... shows a women how much of a man you are by taking caare of your child, if u didnt take care of ur child then i would definetly think thats not attractive at all

No way I LOVE kids!!

I tottaly agree!

i have also a 5 years old son and im single .. most love kids and would love to take the daddy part .. and who dont want it or accept it because its not biology theirs are just not grown enought in life ;)

I think if someone can not accept anyone's child, they are not worth your time. You are always going to have your children so the other person has to realize that kids will always be a part of your life.
Just keep going and being a good parent, the right one will come a long.

I don't think its a turn off or a turn on; it just is what it is. Some people just aren't attracted to single parents as its just a preference; much like preferring someone younger/older, thinner/curvy, etc.

I think it depends on the age.
To me it is an absolute no-go. My own children are adults, I'm not willing to go through the whole young-family scene again. Been there, done that. Twice, as my ex had children of his own at home as well. I've learnt that it is very very difficult to combine families, different backgrounds and so on. Even with an open mind, positive attitude and so on, it's a very difficult situation.
Apart from that, I've reached that phase in life where you get to enjoy your freedom again, children old enough to look after themselves (my kids have their own place). No way I'm going to give up that freedom to look after young children, go through puberty problems again and be in a relationship where a man never has time because he has to look after his children.
I'm looking for someone who's in that same phase of life, has the space and freedom to start afresh.
Amazingly enough I often see men my age (47) with very young children. They must have been in their late thirties or early forties when becoming a dad for the first time?? (I find that a bit weird)
Apart from all that, the stuff you're busy with, things that interest you etc, usually are very different when you got young kids from when you're kids are adults. I can and am investing time in myself, personal growth, I can do all them things I didn't or couldn't do when I had a young family.
So it just wouldn't match anyway with a dad-with-young-kids.

I don't mean any disrespect btw. I respect a man who invests in his children, that's the way it should be. But a man with young children/children at home is simply not for me. Been there, done that.

Don't get me wrong and i know alot of us like to share our opinion on this, but this is just a forum. Outside this most tend to go the other way because of the understand of what could actually come of it because of the other. Knowing this is the net and anyone can be anything they want on the net... Although there are some, but very few that are willing to take something like this on. I have a 5 year old so i know how it actually goes.

Oh, dear. I'm weird.

Don't worry, as long as you're happy, it's okay to be weird, haha.
And don't take it personal, didn't mean it judgmental or anything. I just find it peculiar to see that many men over 40, even pushing 50, with very young kids. Kind of makes me wonder what the h*ck they've been doing the previous 20, 30 years of their life. Was it cos of money? Work? Not being able to get a partner (which is where I wanna know why not!) and so on.
For me it felt like "bummer!" cos I really don't want to get involved in the young-family-scene again, but I would like a man my age. If ...% of men my age have young kids, it leaves less available men, lol.

Don't mean for you to explain yourself as to how and what, just being a bit more elaborate, as I do know it ain't black & white.

TheShadow, yeah, you're right. It's like people instantly want to prove they're the perfect citizen or something, by all means wanna make clear they would do the right thing! as opposed to simply being honest, so the topic starter would get the info he seeks.

Answers like "then she isn't worthy of your child" illustrate the 'problem': it's immediately about the child! However, I don't think the emphasis of single ladies is "I'm seeking a child!", but "I'm looking for Mr Right, a partner".
Chances of finding a partner who's willing to take this on are probably higher when she's got a young child of her own. At least then interests should be the same.

Some will and some won't...It depends on so many things Legend....Age, career objectives, maturity level, finances, if she has children, if she wants children, what part (if any) the mother plays in raising the child...So many variables, so many things to consider..It's really up to you to weed out those women who would not be good step mom material by making your child the priority...If I had to guess, I would say there are more women who would consider it a turn on though...

The funny thing is, if we look at it more and more people these days at least have one child by this age. Me personally i would date someone with a child whether or not i had my son. At the same time though it does change your life stile as far as things tour may do or places you may go. Being a single parent has changed my life...

Well I get along great with children, so I could definitely accept someone who has a child. That might be because I have a naturally playful nature. I don't think moody people are as willing to date parents, because they're always full of baggage, and hardly like THEIR OWN children (the type you see smacking their children in the street, who are also neglecting their needs). I've seen those angry types. They nag at their child for nothing. And I can't help wondering why they bothered having children, if they can't even take basic care of them. I witness these children not getting a decent meal. And it stinks to the core. What impact are they hoping to make? YOU'RE probably nowhere near as bad as that other type. Just that I can't stand NEGLECTFUL parents. If I ever have a child, it will be the most precious thing to me. I will treat it like it was a piece of gold.

yeah, I get that, children and parenthood indeed do change your life, views etc.
Thing for me is, my kids are 22 and 20. (I was 24 when I had my first).
As a parent you grow up, change, along with your children. Basically from the moment they're born, the process of letting go kicks in. By the time your children have reached adolescence, both child and parent are ready to let go completely, so the child can live its own life as an adult.
That's the point I (and my kids) have reached. So for me getting involved with a man who has young kids, would mean peddling back in time to where I was some 15 years ago. Back to the life-style that goes with that. I don't want that life-style anymore. The difference with where I'm at, is quite substantial. I don't have to be home on time cos my kids need to go to bed, don't need to pick up my kids from clubs or school, don't have to worry about them being home late, getting drunk, going to school or not, hanging out with the wrong friends and so on. I can literally do my own thing. Of course I'm still there when they need me, like I sometimes still turn to my mum or dad for advice or a good moan.
My girl (20) recently moved to the US and got married. My boy (22) has his job, girlfriend, mates. For me the step back in time to a kid age 5 is way too big.

Yep, and i have a long ways to go. Things i have to look forward too lol