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I have never been one to try to control the actions of another so wouldn't feel the need to tell him what he is allowed to do or how long he can be out. I look at time apart as time to miss one another ... and possibly to build some sexual fire.... ...it is quite delicious to imagine him trying to keep a straight face while I am texting all the things I am going to do to him when he gets home...or all the things I am having to do to myself in his absence...the latter usually has him in a quite a lather 
And not in an annoying constant contact whatcha doin kind of way that feels like stalking or control ...in a playful flirty way ... one liner ... every so often. Or maybe a pic 
(((Sherrie)))     
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I have never been one to try to control the actions of another so wouldn't feel the need to tell him what he is allowed to do or how long he can be out. I look at time apart as time to miss one another ... and possibly to build some sexual fire.... ...it is quite delicious to imagine him trying to keep a straight face while I am texting all the things I am going to do to him when he gets home...or all the things I am having to do to myself in his absence...the latter usually has him in a quite a lather
And not in an annoying constant contact whatcha doin kind of way that feels like stalking or control ...in a playful flirty way ... one liner ... every so often. Or maybe a pic
(((Sherrie)))
ahhhh ((((Steven))))
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I have never been one to try to control the actions of another so wouldn't feel the need to tell him what he is allowed to do or how long he can be out. I look at time apart as time to miss one another ... and possibly to build some sexual fire.... ...it is quite delicious to imagine him trying to keep a straight face while I am texting all the things I am going to do to him when he gets home...or all the things I am having to do to myself in his absence...the latter usually has him in a quite a lather
And not in an annoying constant contact whatcha doin kind of way that feels like stalking or control ...in a playful flirty way ... one liner ... every so often. Or maybe a pic
(((Sherrie)))
ahhhh ((((Steven))))
Oh!(((Sherrie)))Spoken with French accent.Muuuagh!  
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I have never been one to try to control the actions of another so wouldn't feel the need to tell him what he is allowed to do or how long he can be out. I look at time apart as time to miss one another ... and possibly to build some sexual fire.... ...it is quite delicious to imagine him trying to keep a straight face while I am texting all the things I am going to do to him when he gets home...or all the things I am having to do to myself in his absence...the latter usually has him in a quite a lather
And not in an annoying constant contact whatcha doin kind of way that feels like stalking or control ...in a playful flirty way ... one liner ... every so often. Or maybe a pic
(((Sherrie)))
ahhhh ((((Steven))))
Oh!(((Sherrie)))Spoken with French accent.Muuuagh!
ohhh la la
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They don't want you coming with them and even if you did go out and pamper yourself for a while how long is acceptable for them to be out? Three hours? Four hours? Six hours? Ten or more hours???? 3 hours is good.that would get me enough time to clear all the porn sites that i've watched while they're gone to clear from my browser history 
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Edited by
sweetestgirl11
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Wed 08/14/13 05:53 AM
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They don't want you coming with them and even if you did go out and pamper yourself for a while how long is acceptable for them to be out? Three hours? Four hours? Six hours? Ten or more hours???? Why should there be a time limit? I'm big on both people keeping their friends and still getting together with them. If the other person isn't joining them, but doesn't want to wait at home, why not go out with their own friends? freat suggestion. I think that is also fine - my issue is with the idea that there is no communication. I think couples have t oset their own standard. the same parameters are not going to be for all couples. |
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Edited by
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Wed 08/14/13 05:58 AM
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I disagree wtih motown I think calling to give your partner an idea of where you are and when to expect you is a responsible choice that shows consideration. I'd be concerned about the maturity level of someone who chafes at touching base to let me know what's up. Actually I would not date someone who has a bad attitude about that to begin with. I would certainly do that if the shoe was on the other foot. Something is seriously wrong with the relationship if you have a problem behaving with manners and consideration toward your partner I think couples should go out together anyway. Men who insist on their boy's nights are usually pretty immature...or up to no good. IME it's usually the latter. For long long time kimosabe have I been the single chick ya been hittin' on when your out without Wilma can't fool and old fool :) I disagree. Calling and checking in because the other person worries, is impatient or gets jealous world get old quickly. It's not immature to go out with your friends once in a while without the other person. yes it is immature - especially to chafe at the idea like a spolied child - as I said tho - these are preferences where compatability comes into play. in my epxerience the guys I have dated who have chafed at calling have been cheating or involved in "barely legal" activity and those relationships did not work out....actually I have never asked a guy to call at a certain time for this reason (out with the boys) most have done so on their own. |
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I have never been one to try to control the actions of another so wouldn't feel the need to tell him what he is allowed to do or how long he can be out. I look at time apart as time to miss one another ... and possibly to build some sexual fire.... ...it is quite delicious to imagine him trying to keep a straight face while I am texting all the things I am going to do to him when he gets home...or all the things I am having to do to myself in his absence...the latter usually has him in a quite a lather
And not in an annoying constant contact whatcha doin kind of way that feels like stalking or control ...in a playful flirty way ... one liner ... every so often. Or maybe a pic
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Trust is important, too. If you have to set time limits and demand check in phone calls, perhaps you don't trust them as much as you should. or perhaps you have good reason not to trust. in which case it's probably time to end things anyway... |
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I disagree wtih motown I think calling to give your partner an idea of where you are and when to expect you is a responsible choice that shows consideration. I'd be concerned about the maturity level of someone who chafes at touching base to let me know what's up. Actually I would not date someone who has a bad attitude about that to begin with. I would certainly do that if the shoe was on the other foot. Something is seriously wrong with the relationship if you have a problem behaving with manners and consideration toward your partner I think couples should go out together anyway. Men who insist on their boy's nights are usually pretty immature...or up to no good. IME it's usually the latter. For long long time kimosabe have I been the single chick ya been hittin' on when your out without Wilma can't fool and old fool :) I disagree. Calling and checking in because the other person worries, is impatient or gets jealous world get old quickly. It's not immature to go out with your friends once in a while without the other person. yes it is immature - especially to chafe at the idea like a spolied child We'll have to agree to disagree. I still get together with my friends whether I'm dating someone or not. I don't feel that's immature in any way, so I wouldn't feel he's being immature when doing the same. I actually think its pretty healthy to keep up friendships when dating. I never want to be that person who only spends time with my boyfriend and no one else. |
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Trust is important, too. If you have to set time limits and demand check in phone calls, perhaps you don't trust them as much as you should. or perhaps you have good reason not to trust. in which case it's probably time to end things anyway... If I don't trust them, something is wrong with the relationship and it should probably end. |
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I disagree wtih motown I think calling to give your partner an idea of where you are and when to expect you is a responsible choice that shows consideration. I'd be concerned about the maturity level of someone who chafes at touching base to let me know what's up. Actually I would not date someone who has a bad attitude about that to begin with. I would certainly do that if the shoe was on the other foot. Something is seriously wrong with the relationship if you have a problem behaving with manners and consideration toward your partner I think couples should go out together anyway. Men who insist on their boy's nights are usually pretty immature...or up to no good. IME it's usually the latter. For long long time kimosabe have I been the single chick ya been hittin' on when your out without Wilma can't fool and old fool :) I disagree. Calling and checking in because the other person worries, is impatient or gets jealous world get old quickly. It's not immature to go out with your friends once in a while without the other person. yes it is immature - especially to chafe at the idea like a spolied child We'll have to agree to disagree. I still get together with my friends whether I'm dating someone or not. I don't feel that's immature in any way, so I wouldn't feel he's being immature when doing the same. I actually think its pretty healthy to keep up friendships when dating. I never want to be that person who only spends time with my boyfriend and no one else. you might want to reread. I am not sure how what you are saying relates to the statement I made above that this is a preferences regarding compatabilty. As in most things there is no right or wrong simply what works best with an indiividual couple. most guys I have known both as part of a married couple and as a singlet call their partners pretty regularly when we are out as a group and their partner is not there, I've seem this. I was also not saying that calling someone should be "required" I agree that no one should feel "forced" to call but for me, if he chooses not to...things probably will not work out. Whe nI am just dating someone I would not expect that, but in a relationship or marriage I would. I also am the type that likes to spend a lot of time with my partner and our families. |
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They don't want you coming with them and even if you did go out and pamper yourself for a while how long is acceptable for them to be out? Three hours? Four hours? Six hours? Ten or more hours???? 3 hours is good.that would get me enough time to clear all the porn sites that i've watched while they're gone to clear from my browser history
 Echo8 this is Foxtrot24.Do you have a solid track on JT's ISP? Roger that we have him bouncing from AdultFinder.com to Am I Hot.com to Mingle as of this morn.printout.Copy that...
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Trust is important, too. If you have to set time limits and demand check in phone calls, perhaps you don't trust them as much as you should. or perhaps you have good reason not to trust. in which case it's probably time to end things anyway... If I don't trust them, something is wrong with the relationship and it should probably end. there is trust unless I have been given reason not to...it's not just that the trust is not there - something has happened to break it....sorry but Ima long timer and barfly....I can tatoo both arms and legs with the names of guys out in the bars cheating. Fortunately with one exception they were not mine. And the one exception did get the boot lol |
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Edited by
singmesweet
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Wed 08/14/13 06:15 AM
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Trust is important, too. If you have to set time limits and demand check in phone calls, perhaps you don't trust them as much as you should. or perhaps you have good reason not to trust. in which case it's probably time to end things anyway... If I don't trust them, something is wrong with the relationship and it should probably end. there is trust unless I have been given reason not to...it's not just that the trust is not there - something has happened to break it....sorry but Ima long timer and barfly....I can tatoo both arms and legs with the names of guys out in the bars cheating. Fortunately with one exception they were not mine. And the one exception did get the boot lol Like I said, if I don't trust them, there is someone wrong with the relationship. We're saying the same thing. But, I'm not going to just assume I can't trust him, so I won't treat someone I'm dating someone like that for no reason. |
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Trust is important, too. If you have to set time limits and demand check in phone calls, perhaps you don't trust them as much as you should. or perhaps you have good reason not to trust. in which case it's probably time to end things anyway... If I don't trust them, something is wrong with the relationship and it should probably end. there is trust unless I have been given reason not to...it's not just that the trust is not there - something has happened to break it....sorry but Ima long timer and barfly....I can tatoo both arms and legs with the names of guys out in the bars cheating. Fortunately with one exception they were not mine. And the one exception did get the boot lol Like I said, if I don't trust them, there is someone wrong with the relationship. We're saying the same thing. But, I'm not going to just assume I can't trust him, so I won't treat someone I'm dating someone like that for no reason. right, probably so
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I like going out with my guy and his buds on occassion because it's fun to see him letting loose and being immature, and out with friends is a good time for that since they will look out for each other. But I do think him spending that time away from me is important for his personal sense of balance as well as the balance of our relationship.
There will be times I'll want to do things independently or with my own group of friends too. Now if I'm usually home from bowling before midnight, but a friend got a promotion so we decide to take her out to celebrate after knocking down pins, he will definitely be getting a call or text instead of finding out when I drag my drunk butt home at 3 am. That's what I do...because I was raised to feel this is the courteous thing to do and because he knows it's not like me to be out until 3 am without a heads up, so the one time I don't call, he will know I have a dead phone and car trouble...or am in jail for serving a justified right hook to the creep at the bar who grabbed my azz for the second time. It IS justified if you warned him the first time. 
Anyway...I don't EXPECT him to do the same...but really appreciate it if he does, cause I want him to have his fun but WILL worry if I wake up, look at the clock and his side is still cold at 4 am. 
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I was asking about being told "going to lunch" at around noon and not coming home until 3:30am...
Yes, there was a few texts after seven hours, and then nothing for seven or eight hours. I am not implying anything about not wanting them to go out with their friends, but as some others have said, about having consideration for the partner. |
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I do what I want and he does what he wants. All I care about is that he gets home safely and doesn't flake on me if we had plans. The rest is just details. I've been the girl who cares to much about what my man is doing and it never works out well.
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A few times we did have plans/emergency
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