Alright, let me know what message my profile sends you.
I've already read through some of the rate threads on here and added a tiny bit of positivity.

I also have a strange situation with people in my region. I find very few of them to be attractive, and I'm going to venture a guess that few of them find me attractive. What are your thoughts on that? Are there people who are similar to me clustered in one part of the country?

I've been joining as many dating sites as possible in order to counteract this, but it can only help so much, right?

I think you have a good profile and nice pictures. I think you could add a bit about what you are actually looking for in a woman? I mean you put down specific thing but you did not put down anything that you really are attracted to in women. Plus there are a lot of people that will not go to another web site to check out your other profile.
So if you really want people to know what is on that site, just copy and paste it to your site here.
I do hope you find what you are looking for. Good Luck

Thanks, I will probably get everything together over the weekend.

Oh dear,
you really want to know?
1. Pic number 2 is better for your profil
2. Why pic number 3? House and car will not help finding a good heart
3. Too much information! It sounds as if you will be the rueler in the house.
Sorry dear, the more informations about you, the less of interest. There is nothing more to find out about you. You want to write a doctor exams about yourself? Dear, is there any space for a wonderful sweet and warm hearted girl in your life?
How do you define attractivity? I tell you, only the heart counts!
I pray that God will lead you to the right person, so that both of you may grow and bloom in personality.

Thanks for the well-meaning(?) yet misguided advice, Winterkind.
I'm not here for fishing, I'm not here to delude a woman into falling into my trap. A proper man offers romantic gestures when he is sufficiently inspired and motivated to do so, and no sooner.

Too much information? Are you kidding me?
I had put very little information about myself on the profile when you checked it. I have since more than doubled it. It is only fair to explain why I am 10 years behind in life experience, and I expect the courtesy to be returned by a prospective partner, or she will only get a wink.

Offering only positivity and cheer on a profile displays an imbalance of character, a lack of honesty, or no genuine interest in attracting a life partner. Any person of quality is prepared to take a partner, with all of their lumps, from the start. You lose interest only because we are not a compatible match.

Well, anyways, I am not trying to offend you, and thank you for the kind sentiments. I'll post a better profile picture than all of those soon enough. It's difficult because I'm not very photogenic, everyone from dating sites said I looked better in person.

Honestly? I think you may be giving out crib sheets to the final exam.

How will you know if a woman you're talking to is not just portraying what she already knows will yield good results?

1Cynderella, are you talking about the physical exam? If so, then we don't have a problem, since my relationship preferences differ completely from yours. Tactics have to be crafted to fit the goals, and my goal is a lifetime commitment. There is no final exam here.

I only value attractiveness because it partially demonstrates a form of intelligence that I value: self control.

I might have figured you for a literal thinker.

Crib sheet for the final exam was just a metaphor for...you are giving women who might try to impress you all the tips they need to portray exactly what they know you want to hear.

I'm just suggesting that you could waste a lot of time figuring out who really possesses the qualities you seek and who is only using all the specifics you've provided to gain your attention.

You seem like a nice enough fella, but I was not suggesting myself. I stick to men of my generation generally.

I know what you mean about cheesy profiles mate but the way yours is written, I don't think that you really come across as either a romantic or a fun sort of guy. I mean, it is very clinical and that may be your personality and you may be looking for someone very serious as well but even still, the whole "Let's not have too many expectations" thing is a bit boring and you are saying that you just want someone to share a bed and the rent.

That profile is going to attract all sorts of scammers, as Cinderella says and although it's good to let them know what your intentions are, there are a lot of nutcases that propose marriage or expect proposals by email on these sites and that can be as bad as just wanting sex to a lot of people.

Just my opinion and you can take it or leave it. Good luck.

Dear,
I was writing for you to have better chances. You try your best. I think it is still too much. Either you'll get spammers or ladies with helping syndrom.

We are all looking for love. But love is not Mathematics,
love is a Miracle!

As written in my profile I was looking for a good friend, not for matches. God did it and even more. Now we are the most happy people on this planet. He sits in India and me in Germany. We are best friends and even godson & godmother - forever and ever. God surprised us with deep family love. This love is more then I expected. Love is a Miracle!

Thank God for who you are and how you are, dear. And please think better about yourself: your lateness in life may not be a handycap but the right quality for the other. Keep cool and always take the other person more important than yourself.
Looking forward to hearing some good news about your heart. God bless you, Revd. Vera

Sweetheart, I hadn't even gotten to reading your profile--I was still looking at this thread--and I already know you are doing it right. Just the fact that you know enough not to immediately start turning on the romance shows me you're on the right track.

You're a sensible man who sees yourself clearly and has a lot to offer the right woman. You'll do fine, honey. Good luck!

Mmmm well good luck to you mate..

I rarely look at men's profiles but after reading some (later all) of this thread, I got curious. I don't think you are going to land the right woman with that profile. Ten year loss from illness at your age leaves you stunted.

I think you should make yourself known in the forums and see what happens. You are fishing with the wrong bait.

I think being specific is a very good thing but honestly, I never read the profiles that went on for days. And mentioning other dating sites makes it seem like you are a seasoned online dater which is not the most attractive thing. I think there are ways you could shorten your profile to make it more readable without losing content. For example, under your physical description of the woman you could just put "Fit" or "Active" or "takes care of her self physically and mentally". You don't want someone to get lost in your words. You want to just leave an impression that makes them want to get to know you. And no from my experience, this is not the best site to meet high concentrations of people in every specific area of the country. I met my boyfriend on another site but stay here for the forums and friends.

@ 1Cynderella & TawtStrat
Oh, I get it, not to worry though, I avoid considering a person to be real until I've actually met them, in person, and even then, a lot of people are full of b.o.l.o.g.n.a. I understand legal contracts well enough. My dad and I even had to move in with my grandma to protect her from those crazy phone scammers, but the wall street scammers got to most of her money first. I don't mind attracting 'certain kinds' of people though, as long as they're real people...
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What a way to describe honesty and logical thinking:
Autistic Personality Style. Like it's a disease or something. Ridiculous.
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@ Winterkind
It's nice to know that things have turned out well for you on this site. :) Best wishes

@ SenseOfWonder
Thanks for the kind remarks. Certainly you must have gone through many trials in life to learn such wisdom. I have studied relationships for my entire life.

@ Tifalockheart
Thanks :)

@ metalwing
You are probably right. I'm not well enough to go out frequently and mingle yet, but I'm definitely headed that way.

@ teadipper
Heh yeah, well I'd have to say that I'm not the most ideal partner for the typical woman my age, so I am shooting for the rarer breed instead, but I get the feeling that "my type" is not on any dating site, she's probably quietly mixing chemicals in beakers (for her own amusement) somewhere. I just haven't been able to go look for her because I've been sick.
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Well, thanks for the input everyone, if anyone else wants to pitch in, feel free... I'm taking every bit of advice that anyone will give me. :D

I don't understand what you mean by, "Anyone that chooses to be with me now is definetely a quality person". It does sound pushy though and as much as the time wasters are annoying, you have to understand that you have to build up a friendship with someone before they will ever agree to meet you and that can take time.

"I'm looking for a wife but I want to retain my independence and live mostly seperate lives" seems rather odd and only adds to the impression that you haven't got a romantic bone in your body.

As stated before, the whole thing is extremely dry and clinical. I do think that it's important to get your personality across in these things and if this is yours, then go for it. You do come across as a rather judgmental and uncompromising person and it isn't ridiculous to say to you that there's about as much charm or humour our profile as a sledgehammer.

Alright, it's a little bit updated and streamlined. Are free members able to format text? I tried the bbcode tags, not sure if I did it right, but it didn't work.

@ TawtStrat, are you sure you're not being the least bit biased yourself? I didn't say that I wanted to keep MY independence, I am reassuring her that she can keep hers. In this transitional period in time, women often aren't sure whether their guy wants to be the "head of household" or if they can keep their job and bank account. I would prefer that we be open with our commitment and get married, but if she doesn't like the marriage concept, and a lot of women my age really hate marriage, then I'm willing to accept it.
You're right that it doesn't sound too romantic. I don't want a relationship based on sex and lies, which is what my generation understands to be romance, so I am purposefully telling my true story, and it's true that I would consider any woman who can accept me at this point to be the best quality person who exists. I am, however, a romantic soul, but I've seen too much "real life" to allow my desires to consume me.
I've been tested a lot, and I know that I'm in the top 1% of quality in personality and intelligence, and I know that I am going to earn billions of dollars very soon. That is why I offer that statement. The risk is just too high that someone like myself would attract a lot of gold diggers and other unsavory types, and that's not what I am interested in.

OK maybe I wrote too much, hehehehe

After all of the back & forth arguing with people from whom you asked for advice, I took a look at your profile. I skimmed it as it was just way too much information. I honestly think your girl is at a local church & too shy to say that she has had a crush on you for about 5 years now & instead of you noticing her, you've been chasing web dreams..... Good Luck

@ eyemaflirt247

Hehe, arguing? Okay.
You may very well be right.
Thanks :)

Honestly man, I think that your profile blurb needs a TL;DR version for everyone that's going to just skim it or be unable to decipher it. Here's what I would suggest:

"I'll take anybody that's going to believe that I'm a genius that's going to be a billionaire as long as they are good looking and I'm neither a deluded fantasist or a player because if you look nice that merely shows me that you aren't a fat lazy slob".

Best, "I can give you the moon on a stick and I'm not just looking for sex" profile that I've read in a long time. Personality tests are worthless and prove nothing. You sound like a scammer and this is all reverse psychology or total BS.

On the other hand, when I was your age I had some pretty crazy dreams as well and I understand that when life has dealt you a rough hand you need those fantasies to make you feel good about yourself. "Let's not have too many expectations"? Yeah, right.