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Topic: No sex before marriage, can it work?
SDSCFof2 Joined Sun 10/02/11 Posts: 21324	Wed 09/04/13 12:10 PM
maybe back in the early part of the 1900s. not any more

lovebrowser Joined Mon 07/08/13 Posts: 13	Wed 09/04/13 12:15 PM
I am a strong Christian woman and my faith and beliefs are very important to me. I am 32 years old. I've never been in a relationship and never had sex. I don't intend to have sex until I'm married. I believe that God created sex to be between a man and a wife. I think if a man or woman (whatever the case may be) values your relationship and has respect for you, then they will love you enough to wait for you so yes it is possible to wait to have sex until you're married. The way to go. Marriage is about companionship, not sex.

SparklingCrystal 💖💎 Joined Mon 05/20/13 Posts: 33395	Wed 09/04/13 12:35 PM
I'm quite sure it can work, but it wouldn't be for me. I don't think it's smart, reasons for this are what Cynderella mentioned. It wouldn't work for me: I would absolutely not get married on a whim. Meaning I could be in a relationship for years, not married, and would have to abstain for years? Pfff ... not really me. I don't get intimate with whomever, that's not me either, but if me and my partner really click, I also want to be intimate, married or not. To be honest, I really don't see the point of waiting ... Abstinence is an invention of the church that we were forced to take on board centuries ago. I prefer to think for myself about what's right and what's not right, other than have an ancient institution tell me what to do. Don't mean any disrespect to anyone btw. Everyone's entitled to their own believes and the above is how I feel. If you feel different, I respect that. So yes, I do think it can work. Whether it's feasible or even healthy (suppressing your sexuality for a longer period of time has an effect), is another issue.

willing2 Joined Sun 06/08/08 Posts: 20221	Wed 09/04/13 12:42 PM
I'd at least have to make sure she was a real woman and not a tranny. That would be damn nasty!

switnie Joined Wed 09/04/13 Posts: 1	Wed 09/04/13 12:57 PM
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KinBarrie Joined Fri 08/16/13 Posts: 1752	Wed 09/04/13 01:06 PM Edited by KinBarrie on Wed 09/04/13 01:11 PM
It's a tough one. There's a difference between sex and making love I believe. Sex is to satisfy your own urge whereas making love is the ultimate way to show your love towards your partner. Sex is like bang, done finished I'm satisfied then there is making love which Is full of emotion and to prove your dedication to do whatever it takes to satisfy your partner. I believe you should at least once to get a feel for each other. Precisely, Edward! Sex or masturbation is like a drug. It's a quick fix. Marriage, making love etc is supposed to be long term thing. I allude once again to the Bible, but that's what's important. The message of finding the right person, and not getting that quick lay to satisfy our lustful desires. One mistake and bam, you're a father. And then there are men who aren't smart enough to keep themselves under control, until they get another two or three more women pregnant. There are way too many single moms today. We see the result of people doing the wrong things, and getting the wrong results from their actions. I don't blame the children. It's not their faults. Children always suffer for the sins of the parents. And I mean every single child ever born.

KinBarrie Joined Fri 08/16/13 Posts: 1752	Wed 09/04/13 01:09 PM
maybe back in the early part of the 1900s. not any more It was better back then. Much simpler time. Now we have too many selfish men and women who make it "all about them" and don't want to grow up.