now that may be because we had older wife's with the same age spread of 4 1/2 years,

I believe I'm quoting you actually,

I don't know about you, but when mine turned 40 it felt like I tuned 40.

so when actually turned 40, It was like I turned this age five years ago.

I felt like crap when I turned forty. None of my ridiculous unrealistic youthful ambitions had amounted to anything apart from daydreams and due to my misspent youth and inability to just be a normal person and stick at things I found myself at forty with no relationship, no children, still a student and I have a disability that is hard to cope with and I am quite isolated and somewhat alienated from society.

Now here I am, on the internet, trying to get a girlfriend and chatting with you lot out of boredom and loneliness. Birthdays and things like that tend to just make me feel that I am stuck in a rut and that life is passing me by. I had a good christmas for once because I met someone on here but unfortunately that didn't work out. Was looking forward to the new year because I had a woman in my life and I'm actually happy to be finally doing my masters degree. I may not have achieved all of my career ambitions but there's still time and it's just this not having a girlfriend business that's bothering me. I don't want to end up a lonely old man and I'm definetely at a stage in my life where I'm ready for a serious relationship.

My health isn't bad but I don't have the energy that I had when I was in my twenties. Years of drinking and smoking and eating crappy food and not doing a lot to keep fit hasn't helped.

My ex girlfriend turned fifty last year and when I talk to her she goes on about how we aren't young and fit and healthy anymore but at least I'm slim. She said the other day that I was looking much better and that I am mature now and seem content with my life. I'm getting out and I'm dating again.

TL; Dr Didn't enjoy turning forty at all but hoping that fifty will be better.

DK - never thought about any of it - been doing the math to remember how old I am since my mid 30s...lol

what age matter, heart will be must in working condition

I'm not even sure how old I was when I had to really start trying to figure out how old I was when someone asked. It's really tempting to just tell people my birth date and then say "You figure it out."

exactly. it is kind of a stupid question

Hi hi hiiiiiii......

I agree!

Oh yeah? Tell that to Peter Pan.

Is this patented?? Because,i'd like to borrow it for some time!

I've been doing manual labor since my teens. At 33 I can feel the effects of life up to now. I don't feel like an old man yet but there are definitely aches and pains when I get up.

I never turned 40. I've been 30 for 31 years now.

I felt the same as when I turned 50, just accepted the reality and was grateful for my health and the wisdom that goes with this. Life is good!

Why would increase age produce pressure?

Because of all the knowledge you have in your head trying to get out?

Not so much pressure, I think it's gas.

Then try this:

It would increase self pressure if ones dreams are still very much alive,

but no closer to reaching them. also there would be higher expectations

in society or amongst peers to have significant purchases.

It matters to many people!

So, there is pressure on a person who wants to conform to the World.

What about those of us who don't give diddly about conforming? Do we implode?

Any alleged "age pressure" is self-generated.

That is why I haven't felt pressure with increasing age.