I have a question for any girls who feel so inclined to help me about sending that first message to someone online.

When I send a girl a message, I never immediately ask for a date because I'm under the assumption that that would freak them out. Instead, I introduce myself and ask her name if it's not specified on her profile and ask her about herself to try and engage her in a conversation about something she likes. What kind of music she likes, what she likes to do in her free time, etc... Or I'll mention or ask her about something that she talks about on her profile. If she has an interesting sounding job or interests or something, I'll ask her about it.

I almost never get a response back, and on the rare occasion that I do, it's always incredibly short and I never hear anything after that.

Am I doing something wrong, here? I can't tell if my messages are off putting or if it's something in my profile or if it's just as simple as me being unattractive. I'd love some help and input if anyone's willing to help me out. I would be greatly appreciative.

I winder if i'll be helpful...?

I personally don't see anything wrong in how you're breaking the ice. Considering that you don't really know much about the person that you're trying to interact with, you only have what's written on their profile to start the conversation, just as you're doing.

Suppose we just have to respect people's decisions wiether they ambrace or reject, but you're doing well as far as you have said.

With time a suitable mate will come along,
You won't have to put much effort to keep the conversation flowing, it will automatically happen.

Wishing you the very best on your seach dear!!

I wonder...

Correction on my first sentance.

It's a crap shoot dude.
Some woman have very specific things they are looking for in a guy.
And most times no reply is a reply.

Don't ask for her name at first. Usernames are used for a reason. If she and you do make friends, it is up to her to let you know if she is up for meeting in person and revealing to you who she is.

While you don't want to rush it, neither do you want to waste time with game players who don't ever intend to meet you in person. If you want to meet in person, it is probably worth finding someone in your area not someone across an ocean.

Don't just say "HI" Ask a question or comment on something she wrote in her profile or a common interest.

Hang out in the forums and get to know people.