So far two people have said something about flying or getting on a jet.That's all well and good if that's how you feel. But, Wouldn't it be one great big pisser offer if you paid,I'm just pulling this one out of the air, (No pun intended) Lets say you paid 350 bucks of your hard earned money to fly from, Lets say, For the sake of argument, New York to California to meet this person that you have only talked to on the internet,phone,txt.

You're a "straight" female or male, When you get there and you finally have your chance to meet. And when you do, You find out it's a "man wannabe" or a "woman wannabe" if you follow my drift here. So, You find out that you just spent 700 bucks of your hard earned money on a round trip flight just to find out that the person is not what they seemed to be. He's really a "she" OR, she is really a "he".

I think I would be very pissed myself. I know in one sense of the word all this sounds funny. But, It has happened, Many times. And worse things have been known to happen.

Oh the beauty of modern technology and the fast life. Gomer Pyle ...
"Surprise, surprise, surprise!!!"

Long distance relationships works sometimes and certainly isn't for everyone. Many prefer to stick close to the home plate.

Internet love = fantasy, only my opinion, since men are more visual and physically oriented, thin k it would be harder for us without seeing the person face to face.

Charles u are to funny. It's a shame u don't like women from out of state or over 55 lol

Pam you are so right!
On a more serious in regards Charles thread I see his point but on the other I think if both people spend the money and meet half way there is less if a chance they would be fake. I would never travel out of the country but would stay in states and give it a try. No jets for me

If you really feel the true love,,distance cannot be the reason why you can't,,, love is love even you are not the same country but we are the same human can feel the same to LOVE... So no distance can fall apart,,,

To what ends would you go to meet someone for love? Travel yes, provided that you had the means to do so. Why not? Life is too short for people to pass up that opportunity. We all want to be needed, loved, thought well of, and accepted for whatever reason. Its human nature. Life sometimes throws you a curve ball, and you can't hit it out of the park. You deal with everyday life, and something that would add to your day or life is worth millions. There is a saying, for every person you meet there is a reason. for they could bring you enrichment into your life, or you learn from them, and also you can learn from your mistakes. Maybe that person is to tell you what you need to change in yourself or your life.

Love is a beutiful thing,that we can't do any thing with it,love is a real fillings created by god.we can not do any thing without love.I love to be

love is a beautiful thing. But true complete, unconditional love is hard to find. Would you give up that because you would not take a chance and travel?

I've been thinking about this. Their is one thing that I left out that maybe I shouldn't have.

Another reason I'm the way I am about traveling, I CAN'T travel at all because of a medical condition. One of the other posters said something about not being able to travel because of a medical condition. I meant to say something about it in my last post. But, Forgot it. The one I spoke about that I traveled 250 mile round trip for was the last one before this condition got worse.

So, All in all with that one being such a big turnoff and disappointment,Plus, This condition getting worse, Traveling went out the window.

So far in all the time I have been doing the on line dating thing, I have met only one woman that was willing to travel to see someone she was interested in. Most all the women that I have met over the years,besides her,Are not willing to travel. All the ones I have ever come across,besides her,Think that's the mans place. He should make the first move at seeing her.

I guess that maybe in a way they are right. If a man is interested enough he should make the first move. But what happens when you come across someone like me? That can't travel because of a medical condition? The great majority that I have seen,Turn up there nose. That's the last you hear from her.

Between what I already met,This condition and the ones I've spoken to, It pretty well sealed the deal with me and no longer wanting to try traveling. You see, I can turn my above statement about men making the first move around, It works this way to. If for some reason the man can't travel,If the woman is interested enough and his reason for not traveling is good,She should be willing to travel to him. But most, At least the ones I've come across,aren't. I'm not saying all are this way,But many are. Just saying you have a medical condition is enough to run off some of them.

I'm sorry to hear about your condition and I can perfectly understand that. In the four years I was in the ldr I made every trip to see him and paid my own way I might add my choice though. He never came to see me which I could never understand nothing prevented him from doing so. Was it scary going to meet him the first time yes I was terrified. But it did take a lot of hard work to make it last four years. He made some choices that ended it for me. Would I do it again, yes

Yep, then there's whether one or both of you can afford the air fare, or sea fair, however you travel. I can't just expect someone in another country to be able to afford to fly/sail to where I am, and no-one should expect me to do the same, because not all of us can afford it. I can just about get by, paying for rent, food, bills, clothes. So how on earth I'd be expected to be rich enough to, is beyond me. I'm still dubious about ldr's. Logic tells me it wouldn't be worth it, because why date a guy who is far away, when I can date one who is right next to me who is available for cuddles on the sofa, etc? And if we ended up having children (just if, not when. lol), I'd find it silly that their father was living in another country. I could date someone in the armed forces if I wanted a ldr.

Sorry to hear about your medical condition Charles. I know what that feels like as I am dealing with something myself right now. It does prevent me from traveling out of the country which I wouldn't do anyhow but I agree that if a woman is just as interested in a man she could travel to see him. If I really clicked with someone and was intrigued enough by him I would travel. I would first have to get to know that person pretty well and feel a strong connection thru talking on the phone once I felt comfortable I'd try it.
You never know what is just a click away!
I'm very new to all this online dating and am learning a lot from being in the forums and reading all these interesting things.
Have a great day everyone and don't forget to smile!!!

Love is big word,u must have patience,patience is a virtue!

At the moment, not far at all. My daughter lives with me and shes about to start high school. I'm not about to uproot her and make her start all over. But after that, its a possibility

{{{ Hi joe }}}

good post, If I knew you knew that much English I wouldn't have started and ended
our last conversation with "you need to send me naked pictures" I just figured you would
have been taught that one, as its traditional & polite in my culture, that's all.
so I'm giving you another chance, that's right ! that's what I'm willing to do for you. jk..lol

so your saying don't hate the game, hate the player. I agree!

yes, and "I love you" should never cross your mind based on an on line relationship solely.

ps ..I never did get those naked pics on my B-day????? must have been some kind of mistake???

hope your well

WHAAAAAAT?!!!....
YOU DIDN'T GET THOSE PICTURES?!!!...
O.....MY......GOD!!!...
WHO GOT THEM?!!!
JAMIE....OWN UP....YOU GOT THEM,RIGHT?...
;-D ...jk!
Am fine...hope you are too..and tone down a bit,ok..you're scaring your fans...
(sorry,off topic!)

No problems Jo--dirt off your shoulder, girl!

(was wondering the same)

I have traveled, and even moved for someone before. But right now I don't have a car, and my finances are tight, so traveling is difficult. As for moving, it would take someone very special to convince me to move.

BEFORE I SAY WHAT'S ON MY MIND THIS TIME I WANT TO SAY LOUD AND CLEAR,YOU "HONEST" LADIES FROM OTHER COUNTRIES BESIDES THE USA WHO ARE FOLLOWING THIS THREAD,WHAT I AM ABOUT TO SAY ISN'T AIMED AT YOU.


Besides the fact that right now,even if I wanted to,I can't travel,another thing that scares the bejebus out of me are the rampant scammers that haunt dating and social networking sites. Right now on two different sites, I'm playing with two of them. One,She "If it is a she" is trying her best to convince me to help her come to this country. She thinks I have mucho bucks. She is constantly telling me how "well" she will treat me if I will just send her 5 thousand dollars. That will get her over here. "She" is 23 yrs old. You wouldn't believe the things this person has told me she would do to me if I will send her the money.

The other, Oh man, She is Russian. I can tell it by the broken English. She sent me a picture of herself. She tried her best to convince me that she is here in America. When I downloaded the picture,I could tell she was not in America. They don't have buildings like that in America. In her picture, I could tell she was somewhere in her 20's. But was trying her best to convince me she is in her 40's.

I've had scammers from all over the world try to convince me of some bull **** one way or the other. So, Everytime someone from another country tries to contact me,It usually goes ignored. Unless I'm in a playing mood.

I've had women from the Phillipines and China to try to talk to me. It isn't personal, Most I think are pretty good looking. But common sense says ignore them because, You never know who you're dealing with on the net. And I tell you, If I were the type that allowed myself to get involved with someone from another country,just to find out to late that I was a sucker, I would feel like I was the dumbest person I ever met. (:O)