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| Topic: Now that you have cheated; should I give you another chance? | |
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I assumed a phone convo was discovered by accident when using the phone or checking the time...whatever. When I'm dating someone it always seems like we just use each others phones when one of us has a low battery, so it wouldn't be odd for him to see the last message I sent someone if he picked it up. Otherwise, I have to agree with many here that if the person in this scenario is monitoring their sig other's phone or using it without a previous understanding that they are free to do so whenever, then there were already trust issues in this relationship. 
right hey I'm prepaid on minutes use my minutes and I'll pull out a chest hair for each one...lol You don't scare me Sweet. I had that strange little hair removed years ago.  
lol I was thinking more about MALE chest hair 
Gues if there is any chance of us meeting I'll start shaving my chest. hahaha right and I'll be glad to shave the backs of my hands |
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Edited by
Jeanniebean
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Wed 07/17/13 10:06 PM
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I am starting this forum to see people's thoughts. I have asked friends and family and I get all types of answers. So the question in detail is, we have been dating for over a year and we never really fight, get along great and we on both sides have met the family. This is not very specific. Dating? Does that mean regular hot sex? ... or any sex? If you never fight... perhaps there is no passion. Perhaps its too boring.. perhaps nothing is going on. Do you discuss anything? Do you agree on everything? Too vague. So he/she goes through your phone and sees that you have been with another man/woman. So what do you do? What constitutes giving that person another chance? Will you ever get over that hurt and be willing to move forward?
I don't know what you keep on your phone, but all I have there are a few phone numbers. What did you find on the phone? Dirty pictures? Hot text messages? Why were you snooping on their phone in the first place??? Hurt? Over what? I don't see any evidence. Where promises of exclusivity made or just assumed? A question like this can't be answered. UNLESS YOU ARE MARRIED OR HAVE MADE PROMISES, you have no reason to be upset. and... Unless you have proof of infidelity, you should never jump to any conclusions. Not to mention the invasion of privacy snooping on the other person's phone... |
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That's my story and I'm stickin' to it 
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In all HONESTY, I my self have been the victom of a cheater, I loved him very much and gave him another chance,there is a saying "Love concours all" I beleaved that to be true. But no, love does not concoure all....If you or a friend is being cheated on? GET OUT!!! That person will take the chance an do it again, with the thoughts "I did it before and she/he forgave me she/he will forgive me again...after all...she/he LOVES me" Don;t let love blind you. There is always some one else out there that WONT cheat and will actualy be happy to be with you fully and hole heartedly, it will take time to heal, and find some one new, but your inner happyness will shine through and be well worth it in the end :D
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now dt u v cheated on me i wldnt gv u anor chance cos i ll never trust u
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I am starting this forum to see people's thoughts. I have asked friends and family and I get all types of answers. So the question in detail is, we have been dating for over a year and we never really fight, get along great and we on both sides have met the family. This is not very specific. Dating? Does that mean regular hot sex? ... or any sex? If you never fight... perhaps there is no passion. Perhaps its too boring.. perhaps nothing is going on. Do you discuss anything? Do you agree on everything? Too vague. So he/she goes through your phone and sees that you have been with another man/woman. So what do you do? What constitutes giving that person another chance? Will you ever get over that hurt and be willing to move forward?
I don't know what you keep on your phone, but all I have there are a few phone numbers. What did you find on the phone? Dirty pictures? Hot text messages? Why were you snooping on their phone in the first place??? Hurt? Over what? I don't see any evidence. Where promises of exclusivity made or just assumed? A question like this can't be answered. UNLESS YOU ARE MARRIED OR HAVE MADE PROMISES, you have no reason to be upset. and... Unless you have proof of infidelity, you should never jump to any conclusions. Not to mention the invasion of privacy snooping on the other person's phone... I think you and I basically had the same thought dude. |
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It's a matter of choice and trust. Do you think he/she will never do it again after saying sorry?,do you share something so intimate?. If the chemistry between you both is so high then you may consider giving him/her a second chance. Most relationships get stronger after one party has erred and ask for forgiveness. Note,the devil you know is better than the angel you dont know.
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Let's be real if cheating occurs in a relationship there is a reason, that does not necessarily justify the cheating by any means. Both parties need to closely examine why it happened to begin with rather than pointing fingers and placing blame.
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So thanks to all the replies! In a general consensus it appears the main issue would be the trust issue, can you trust they wouldn't do it again! My personal opinion is if you love them enough to trust and rebuild it then yes I would say don't give up, maybe there are issues that this can bring out and the couples can talk and even build a stronger bond than before. But, and I mean but if you know you will revisit the issue over and over and bring it up constantly then I would say it is better that the two should move one, the saying "it's better to have loved than to have never loved at all"
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