i am not the type of person to let my true feelings show very often, so
this is difficult for me... i just dont know what to do. i was engaged
this summer to the man i thought was the right one for me, we were
together for three years. and i loved him completely... something i
thought would never happen, and then all of a sudden, he decided to move
back to ohio, and i decided i wanted to go to schoolat osu, one of the
branch campuses, and he broke my heart... i wont say what he said. but
now i cant stop thinking about him, i love him, and my heart is hurting,
like i said, im not one to show feelings very often, yet i find myself
crying myself to sleep. and i dont know. i want to tell him that i love
him, and he broke my heart, but i cant find the guts.i want to tell him
that i will always love him and every inch of my heart is telling me to
be with him. i wanted to see him last time i went down to where he lives
(to visit an old friend) but i was still holding onto the anger. i
really dont know what to do... am i insane? cause it sure feels like im
getting there. please help.

its a hard thing but if it hits you that hard dont you think you ought
to talk to him about it

Samantha honey,

You are not insane. You loved him and you were engadged. Its only
normal that you still have feelings for him. I think you are wonderful.
Do you think you are going to tell him that you still love him?

i dont know if i can do it without crying, i want to, but last time i
tried to talk to him, he was drunk and being an arrogant jerk... i know
he was doing that just cause he was around his friends... but i know
him, and i know he probably would have cried also

think about what is best for you girl use your brain not just your heart

i normally do, but in this situation my head is yelling at me to tell
him, and my heart is telling me to move on, yet it puts him on a
pedistil, and no one is good enough. in another post somewhere i said
that looks matter, but i fell in love with him before he gained his
weight, and avan now... i dont know, i want to call him,but i dont want
to be the first to give in, and now im thinking i should be... its
really complicated... i know, i apologize, and thank you all

if he said something directly to you that indicated he didn't want to be
with you then you have to get over him. it isn't easy but you can't
spend your time chasing someone who doesn't want to be with you. your
time would be better spent healing your heart because if you neglect to
do that and continue to go after him it will make it worse for you in
the long run. i don't know the whole situation but if he made a direct
statement about the future of the relationship, you should quit
torchering yourself.

OK THIS IS COMING FROM ME I SPEAK MY MIND. WELL NO YOU ARE NOT INSANE
AND WHAT HE DID TO YOU WAS WRONG WHAT EVER IT WAS IT WAS JUST WRONG I
DONT KNOW ANYTHING ABOUT YOU OR HIM BUT I WILL TELL YOU THIS IF HE CANT
HANDLE HIMSELF THAN HE WASNT WORTH IT SORRY TO SAY THAT BUT HE IS JUST
NOT I KNOW YOU CARE ABOUT HIM AND LOVE HIM BUT MAYBE IT WAS NOT MEANT TO
BE SO JUST HANG IN THERE AND ONE DAY YOU WILL MEET YOUR PRINCE CHARMING
IAM SURE OF IT

there was no direct statement but i know we were both drinking that
night, and he met my brother last week, and kept talking about me, and i
dont know what was said, cause my brother doesnt interfere with that
part of my life, but all he said was that he had to leave cause he
wouldnt leave him alone about me.

then maybe your brother was right

then i think you should call him and talk about what happened between
the two.

ill try tomorrow, but i dont know if ill get through it strongly, but
ill let yall know on here... just keep a lookout

now look here...you had a man who you loved with all your heart...right?
but he said something that broke your heart? right?I say kick th dog to
th curb and move on...will only hurt a lil while 'till you find a real
good man to be with that will treat you like you needs...because if he
loved you as much as you loved him...he would have not said whatever he
said...right?
KICK HIM TO TH CURB! GET OVER HIM,HE'S A DOG THAT HURT A GOOD HEARTED
WOMAN,WITHOUT REMORSE,THOUGHT,OR FEELINGS ABOUT YOU!!!

there isn't anything wrong with being the first to give in but if that
is the way things are going to go it won't ever change..

if both of you are playin games by not wanting to be the first to give
in then i don't see a healthy relationship anywhere on the horizon. i
leave girls for doing that shit.

honey, you are the strongest hearted woman. and the most bullheaded.
what i say, is call him, just to say hi, and let him do the talking, if
k*** cant tell you how hes feeling, i go with them... find someone
else,and you know im always here for you... i mean i live down the
street... yes, i ***'d out his name. i love you and i know him, he shows
his feelings more than you, and i also know you two talk shit when you
drink, remember, ive known him for about 10 years, but ive known you for
anout 20... good luck, call if you need me. ill probably be there anyway
later tomorrow night.

Which hurts worse...

the initial broken heart...or your heart now?

girl love hurt. but think about, what if you marry him and he walk away
and left you, and say that he was not in love with you anymore,and
things were going good and you didnt see it coming.that a hurt you cant
get over in a week or two. sometimes God let you see the person as they
are.and give you choice to leave or get hurt. dont jump into something
that can cause you a life of pain. get a good cry pull yourself up and
get ready for your real king, peace.

Listen to the guys on this one. Most of what they said is exactly
right. You sound like you want to justify every action he takes. You
and him had 3 years and your comment about, he was drinking and around
people is why he acted the way he did, is an example of what I'm saying
to you. You said you "know him" well, apparently, you didnt know he
was capable of doing this to your relationship. We NEVER really know
what another is thinking or what another is going to do. The answers to
everything your feeling, are in everything you chose to share with
everyone. Whoever it was that coined the phrase, LOVE HURTS, wasnt the
first broken heart and of course you wont be the last, these things take
time. We sometimes just think in our minds too much about what we can
no longer have and the things that are real, we somehow manage to put a
haze over. Find something to do when you begin to feel sad or think
about what you once had. Change the channel on the radio staion or t.v.
when something reminds you of what you once had. Stop entertaining the
thought, your creating an unhealthy emotion for yourself, depression is
sure to follow any break up, but you don't have to embrace it as a
substitute for your loss. Just MY opinion....lol.

iam a guy who just speaks my mind but to me u dont need him he just dont
know what he wants he has still got a lot of growing up to do. so like
ive alwayz heard there is still alot of fish out there to catch just
dont beat urself up over it.i was once in ur shoes with a girl an she
did about the same an i said ur lost u will regret it in the long run.
there is alwayz sum one out there for everyone u just have to look an it
takes time so hang in there