After moving out he said he made a mistake in needing space and wanted us to work but this was after us moving into our seperate places. I was still upset & hurt and told him we already did the move n would have to work on communicating & possibly speaking to someone but he still constantly goes out which isnt what I want my partner im devoted to doing and he gets upset when I go out and seems like he wants me to have no friends. But we love each other or the love is still somewhat there and we love out child but we keep going back & forth within thoughts of trying again and I think he is sleeping with other people and Im not but did but thought we were working on us but IDK are we crazy or an I dumb for still being in the situation?> Help!

Hi Sexy4

I was like well....maybe....until I saw the sleeping part. This tells me that the fundamentals are not in place. You need to be totally you and him totally him. If that can not be put together with "not sleeping around" chances are this is a very compromised setup. Is that what you want?

I think you'll find the answer simple (may hurt). Look at what you want, look at what he is without changing anything he does. Is that what you want, cause that's what you have. Relationships are not play-doh. Don't we wish they were cause we could just shape them the way we want but that is not really the way it works most of the time.

move on ds ship is sinkn

so what's this" I'm not but did"? you slept with someone but its over ? is that why you wanted
separate places?

well I went through the same same thing after our son was born I got sick of been propriety 0
and having her slep with her back to me, but she was the one that wanted separate places
for me I can not do that, that's the beginning of the end, like I said that's fine if
you never lived together maybee taking a small step back but not moving out.
then she seemed to push me away more then she did end up with someone
that wined her & dined her, but technically we weren't together, so our son was
a product of our love & that changed everything for me, the bond was broken
but I still was trying, with her pushing me away, a selpt with a woman in Alaska
then came back for a week but she would never give herself to me fully anymore
even when she droped me off at the ferries and I'm leaving Countries again
she wouldn't kiss me properly, just emotionless pouty lips.
as soon as I got to Alaska and J... saw me, she just ran into my arms.

guess who pages me 2days later with a no found attitude & love.

to late, then when a went back she just got down on her knees in a hotel parking lot

where I was staying with my new girlfriend and cryed her eyes out and begged me.

saying we're your family. so she was in hysterics and I picked her up and put her

on her seat freaking out with my 18 month old son in the car seat I left them with

her feet hanging out the door and the door wide open in the middle of the parking lot

and left them for good that would of been in aug 98

so if you can make it work then make it happen, if he's going out then that's because he's

hurting, and maybee your limiting the time he can spend with you.

like "you can't stay over" or "you were over lastnight, you don't need to be here tonight,

its hard for me to be fair to you. The best thing I ever did was leave her crying in the car

that august day.

what do you think, its you?

And here you are looking for sex.

Problems, lots of problems...And you are no less to blame than him.

sleep with others asap

he sounds like an immature control freak...run

It's already on the bottom.

Hold your breath and swim as hard as you can for the surface.

the only thing the OP is to blame for in all of this is simply not getting out sooner. A man who tries to prevent u from having other friends is unstable

run, or swim it matters not - just get out

and break all contact with him (he will try to manipulate you if you stay in contact at all I know the type)

Check out OP's profile...Fanning the flames makes one just as guilty as the one pouring the gasoline.

the thing is with the new friend thing when there's problems

at "home" will just amplify the problems, more problems! there's a new family and

they need to clean up there own back yard first.

its normal for people to have a lot of jealousy and insecurity in this situation.

as you're still together but have taken a giant step backwards.

I've been there, I've lived it!

I think you need to get your advice from a professional and don't listen

to the BS from people, it dosent meen ****.

its your story & you can tell it the way you like, I've meet 2000 woman just like
you I'm sure.

tell it your way, get your intended positive feed back and throw it in his face
next time the opportunity presents itself! QUITE POSIBLY WHATS GOING ON HERE!

you are on a dating site you slept with somebody (that's how it reads) but your
still working on it !

there's communication proplems, professional help Only!

cuz there's three sides to this story:

YOUR SIDE HIS SIDE & THE TRUTH!!!!

you can fool all of the people none off the time, some of the people some of the time, but YOU will

will fool me none of the time.

ya can't fool an old fool!!
seek help
very best

Oh you poor thing. Its so confusing. Must say though if you get the gut feeling he is cheating he probably is. Just ask him. I hope one way or the other you find love and fun.