Topic: Age gaps... opinions
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Wed 07/10/13 05:55 PM


My thoughts about it are that I've had it with so-called "mature women", with all of their baggage and pickiness. You try to be a nice guy but all you get is negativity because of stuff that happened long before you even met them.

Tawt, I am really sorry that that kind of relationship and abuse happened to you. I really am, and there is no "but" coming here!
Simply put, to paint us all with the same brush is unfair. I have never been "that type" of person with the excess baggage, negativity and pickiness as you say! And I think there are many women like me!


Well perhaps but how many older women on here are actually on here for dating and don't want the moon on a stick? I can get dates with younger women just by being a not bad looking fun guy and turning on a bit of charm.

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Wed 07/10/13 05:57 PM

So just curious on what others think about age gaps in relationships/ encounters. For example I believe the age of the two people becomes irrelevant if both are over the age of 18


I disagree. Age is completely relevant, especially when there is a large age gap. I wouldn't have much in common with an 18 year old, nor would I have much in common with someone my father's age.

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Wed 07/10/13 05:57 PM

Well it does help if you have some money for dating.


:thumbsup: :thumbsup: I hear You. laugh
I don't date cheap men, I like to spend money myself, so I do not need a cheap man. Most dates I have like to spend money on a gal.
I am not YOUNG either ...and no gold digger.

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Wed 07/10/13 06:26 PM

Well perhaps but how many older women on here are actually on here for dating and don't want the moon on a stick? I can get dates with younger women just by being a not bad looking fun guy and turning on a bit of charm.

Tawt, You would be a better judge of what older women on here are looking for. All I can attest to is who I am and what I'm looking for. And I seriously don't think I'm all that unique, special yes, but unique probably not! Hahaha! Moon on a stick is a term I've never hear however I would think that by now, more mature ladies would be a tad more realistic in their expectations.
JMO flowerforyou

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Wed 07/10/13 06:54 PM
I think the most important thing is emotional intelligence and emotional compatibility. I've dated girls that are older than me and haven't had nearly the same amount of life experience I've had. I've also dated girls younger than me that make me feel like a judgmental kid.

s1owhand's photo
Wed 07/10/13 07:38 PM
I like women of all ages pretty much. I've dated women who were
40% older than me and women who were 50% younger than me. For
serious multiyear relationships, I have had 3. Two of them were
more than 10 years younger than me. One of them was 1 year younger
than me.

It is scandalous but what you gonna do?

I was happy to find out that one of my older friends has a new
roommate/relationship who happens to be 36 years younger. But I
won't hold it against her. Told her yesterday, If he makes you
happy then I don't give a rats tushy how much younger he is than
you!

As long as it stays objectionable. That's all I want.
:smile:

Tulareman's photo
Thu 07/11/13 02:48 AM

my consistent belief

AGE correlates largely with MATURITY,, not absolutely, but generally

so,, a compatible person at a copatible level of maturity should not be an issue


for example

when I see old men with young women,, I either figure they are mature for their age(the woman) or he is immature for his (the man)...


compatibility lines up more with maturity than with actual age,,,

and age is no absolute guarantee of how mature or immature a person is,,,


I think if there are children involved,, it is the MATURE thing though, to consider them and what their relationship will be with this partner,,,and why I would never consider involvement with anyone not AT LEAST 15 years older than my oldest(who is 20)
Nicely put

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Thu 07/11/13 03:06 AM
it is a matter best left up to the individuals involved. the happiest people I know are those who do not close doors completely but at the same time have well defined personal boundaries that are communicated with wisdom and kindness.

If I meet a man I do not first think "Oh how old is he?" As we get to know each other we may or may not be compatible and that may or may not be based on age. it is just a piece of information on someone

I will say that I met a couple men who mentioned my age and seemed fixated on an age difference - I declined to continue dating them both.

I am less likely to be compatible with a lawyer or a republican than with someone who is much older or younger than I am...lol

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Sat 07/13/13 01:05 PM
Dont care what others think..just do what makes you happy. You go have fun now ;]

freda888's photo
Sat 07/13/13 01:09 PM
Age doesnt matter if u love each other then.. U hv to takecare his heart

Shy_Emo_chick's photo
Sat 07/13/13 01:20 PM
Oh dude. What's worse? Losing the one you wanted, because you were too afraid of being judged? Or, going with your gut instinct and ask her, yet have them judge you? Sometimes one person's company can outweigh the company of about fifty. And WHY are you scared of their opinion's? Why? What exactly are THEY gonna do to put a stop to it? They sound immature. Sorry to say, but they do. Love yourself first ;)

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Sat 07/13/13 01:20 PM

My thoughts about it are that I've had it with so-called "mature women", with all of their baggage and pickiness. You try to be a nice guy but all you get is negativity because of stuff that happened long before you even met them.

It is too bad that we do that..but glad I dont have to relive those nasty experiences with those nasty men [blah blah and blah]

Shy_Emo_chick's photo
Sat 07/13/13 01:20 PM
Edited by Shy_Emo_chick on Sat 07/13/13 01:32 PM
I understand why single people develop negativity about dating sites. They think they may never find a nice person, so they have a point. They wouldn't trust just anyone. After all, our parents taught us to never trust strangers when we were younger, so yeah.

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Sat 07/13/13 01:40 PM
Edited by KiK2me on Sat 07/13/13 01:53 PM


hehehe...




Toodygirl5's photo
Sat 07/13/13 01:52 PM

Well it does help if you have some money for dating.


:thumbsup: :thumbsup: laugh

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Sat 07/13/13 02:02 PM


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ridewytepony's photo
Sat 07/13/13 02:25 PM
she needs to be ______tall and a ____kg to go on this pony ridenoway :wink:

susanj62's photo
Sat 07/13/13 02:38 PM
I wouldn't date anyone younger than me, did before and in the beginning no problem then suddenly it was a problem. Talk about feeling like a jerk!

Duttoneer's photo
Sat 07/13/13 02:40 PM

So just curious on what others think about age gaps in relationships/ encounters. For example I believe the age of the two people becomes irrelevant if both are over the age of 18


I don't have age as a dating criteria, but I respect those who do have an age preference, there are more important chracteristics in my opinion.

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Sat 07/13/13 10:03 PM
Edited by navygirl on Sat 07/13/13 10:04 PM

My thoughts about it are that I've had it with so-called "mature women", with all of their baggage and pickiness. You try to be a nice guy but all you get is negativity because of stuff that happened long before you even met them.


You think older women have baggage and are picky; you should have met some of the negative divorced older guys I dated. They were women haters and I could never figure out why they even were dating. You see its a two way street. There is negativity in both genders mature and younger. That is just life so there is no point in complaining about it as nothing will change. As for the topic on hand; no more than 10 years either side of my age as one lady here said; maturity is based on life experience so what experience is an 18 year old going to have that equals a 50 year old?