Honesty can be extremely subjective.

For instance....

She asks the "Do these jeans make my butt look big?" question.

Now, you like her butt.

The jeans in question DO actually make her butt look a little bigger than YOU know SHE would like it to look.

You could tell her..."You're butt looks just fine dear."

Or you could say..."You're butt does look a little bigger in those than in others."

Both of which are perfectly honest answers. Yes, one answers the question more directly, while the other just states your honest opinion.

But the first answer will get you to dinner on time and make her smile through a delicious desert, and return home happy.

The second one will result in a change of clothing....or 12. (Well, you did just make her overly sensitive about her huge azz, after all.) Now both of you are cranky and arriving late for dinner, after which she will grumble while watching YOU plow through HER favorite desert...SOLO, (Hey, I don't blame you...YOUR butt is HOT!) and return home shooting daggers at your HOT butt to sleep on the couch...again SOLO...after a heated argument about how you forgot to put the trash out LAST WEEK!

But...it's your relationship.

Hmmmmm. Slightly wary of people whose honesty has got them into trouble. It always makes me feel they did something really dodgy. Other who are honest, fair enough. It's kinda downhill thinking everyone is lying on a dating site. I smell a rat soon enough :)

Sure, next time should I just keep my criminal past to myself and hope for the best?

It would be nicer if people were more apt to judge a person based on their present rather than resenting them in past-tense.

From my own personal experience of being 100% honest...you can't be...later down the line it get thrown back up again and everyone can't just except honesty...some things you have to keep to yourself or change the story up a little. But I don't think anyone is 100% honest...they would be telling a lie if the did.

I always try to say what I feel is the truth, and I believe others when they tell me something too. Unless I find out they're liars.

Do you think this poor guy is insane?

His better call in my opinion is going with the "You're butt looks just fine dear."

Oh please...none of us want total 100% honesty.

Would any of you people be happy with honest answers like...

"No...it ain't the jeans...your big butt and tiny head is what makes you look fat "

Or for the guys....

"It ain't the smallest penis I have had...but, it's pretty close "

Or for just anyone....

"You are a crappy lover "

You people are just like me.

You love it when people lie to you...

"It's so big "
"I have never done that before "
"Your opinion on God /politics is absolute truth "

We all love lies....you are only kidding yourself if you think you want the truth.

So what about age because I'm looking for permission giving thoughts from with in.

I'll give the variables:

I don't come on to much younger woman but will make my self avalible, like sit by them the usual, smile
say hi,and if she wants it to happen it will.
It happend 2 days ago and things were going great, she's 24 Im 46 and It comes up "so how old are you anyways? keep in mind that I'm not looking for a girlfriend and especially not one 24. If I look young,
dress young act young & they like me for the "now", do they want to here i'm 87, for argument sakes???
because there not asking with any kind of conviction. sometimes i'll try and throw them off
like say its not polite to ask a gentleman is age..lol or the prep cook in camp I didn't give her a straight
answer, I told her to " go ask the medic she knows" so that was the end of that I just couldn't lie
my buddy said a was 28 cuz he was trying to help cuz he's the one that triggerd her on the subject.
but she said " are you" ? then I said "yes and then said no immediately. this one did care because we
were getting close ,like friends and getting touchie. what do you do?

Well the one would have not liked it, by the sounds of it, it was four years ago and she was 23 a I wasn't
used to thinking about it, she caught me off gaurd.

but if its going to be a once or twice thing and mabyee she sees it as the same and mabyee
she doesn't want to know, not thinking I'm that old.
so about 2 times I've said a was one year younger & the other
day I said I was 44, two years younger
I'm just not very good at it or I would say I'm 6 years youngs

so it can stop me from getting lucky, just might be enough to stop her in her track.
I realty check ... I could be older than her dad?? its a dilemma for me.
something I'm going to wrestle with for a while

It is wise to know the difference between what issues need complete honesty and when you can tell little white lies. If your girlfriend asks you who is more attractive to you, her or some model in a magazine, you have to say it is her. Why say the model even if it's true. The model is not the one your sleeping with. BUT things like cheating, your girlfriend has a right to know.

I would love some honesty for once.

Is it not a bit ironic that the right to honesty holds precedence over the right to fidelity here.

If you're going to defend a lady's rights in a relationship, you could have started a smidge sooner in this scenario?

not to mention hte $75 down the toilet for the new jeans that she'll never wear again....

they cost HOW much???


ya ya - they make u look like Cindy Crawford (translated I want my money's worth...lol)

In short, sometimes a person can't handle the complete truth.

and the truth can also be subjective

also make sure you really do know the truth before blurting out something and end up looking the idiot (that is directed at myself as much as anyone)

restraint, tact and brevity are an art form....best to be learned IMO

That's what I always say.

Luckily we live in a world where we can lie if we so choose.

Most people lie. Being honest while still being tactful is an art form.

No one is ever 100% honest all of the time and if someone says that they are, they're lying! Everyone lies! I mean you don't lie about the big stuff but we all pretend to be cooler, or smarter, or a bad boy, ect... from time to time. If a man isn't willing to cheat or lie a little to get a women then he don't want her bad enough.

I have never lied in my life. I am 100% pure diamond

I did not have to cheat or lie to get my late wife to become my wife.