i know what you're sayin jwaddy. at least you have a way of identifying a unworkable relationship. hopefully it helps you to find an ideal one for you.

As MANY types of relationships as there are people.
The one true test of good if BOTH have the ability to give and take, and open to talk about any and everything, THEN, THATS a hell of a start, but w/o THAT, you might KEEP on going..

thanks king. it's been helping, and i've found a handfull of really awesome girls that fit into the mutual chemistry role. i like that.

casual sex isn't a stable relationship, but it's technically a relationship, because you continue interaction with the person. it doesn't work in my book, but it does for some people.

i also agree iam4u. i'm trying to keep it as broad as possible in a big picture sense, to try to accommodate all of the infinite possiblities. you're talking about chemistry there though. you have specific deep qualities you want in a woman, and want her to share that with you.

I don't know if I would say DEEP,lol,lol a shallow woman is VERY GOOD to,wink,wink,lol...I wouldn't want to get LOST,,lol
But yes, chemistry is a must to even smile while together..

Theres all kinds of accommodating relationships out there.!
You just have to pick the one you want.And if god willing the other person is too.

One day I hope to have that spiritual love that seems so elusive. The kind of love where two people FEELS the other; knows the next move. Hey BC...

hmm, now that i've actually verbalized this, it's pretty nice to have it broken down. i'm getting a much better sense of who my best matches are, based on what i really want. i've been rejecting quite a few smokin hot women who were simply lust --> functional... i've fallen back on that too many times in the past, and i'd never identified it until months into the relationship.

i think i've got it narrowed down to two girls i have real mutual chemistry with, based on my current friends list. this is after narrowing down other sources that sparked attraction in either direction. i'm very attracted to them both, but in a "she's my kind of girl" way, not "she's the kind of girl who'd impress my friends" way. i don't want a girl who wants me for any reason other pure deep harmonious feelings after talking with her for a few weeks.

for some of you, complimenting relationships will have that same feeling of perfection. i have a friend who just got married in a compliment (opposite) relationship. my parents are also in one. it works great in both of these relationships - both sides help each other out in ways they could never achieve on their own.

Its a shame that its so hard to find a real Person!!!
Now a days its player this and player that!!
Most of the time you got to take a aids test to make sure you
dont get what you dont want.!
Now lets talk clubs!
What a joke!!!On both sides guys and girls,to many drugs,to much
girl on girl and guy on guy.O but its natural!(BULLSH!T)
Then you got the wanna be pimps!!!And then you got the wanna be
Hookers!Think if they shake there ass in front of you your gonna
jump like the 2 million other guys!!!!
Now im in to haveing fun,but theres whats called
self accountability.Have a little respect for your self.
If you think dressing up like a slut will get you attention
It will just the wrong kind!!
If you think sleeping around will get you somewhere!
It will(the doctors office.!!
Just step back and look at what you want.
If its love then it will be a hard road.
If you just want to get layed then just walk out your front door.
People do what they watch on tv.To many bad things out there
for young kids to deal with.And when they grow up they think that its the way of life!
I talk to all kinds of people here,young and old.
And im amazed to find what they think.
About 75% of people here are looking for love,but just dont know how to find it.
The others are just out of touch with real life.
A relationship should be taken seriously.
Trust is the main thing!!!
Honesty is the other!!!
If you have those two things your on your way to being happy!
Bigsexy....

Thats VERY TRUE B&S but "THOSE" TWO things are "REAL" hard to find in "ONE" woman.lol
Well my choices anyway.....

Hehe!!
Tell me about it iam4u!!
But have faith bro!!!
Your time is comeing!!
One day she will just walk into your life just like the wind!!
And youll be so blown away that everything youve gone through to get to that point will
just disappear!!!!

Wow Big........normally your posts are all lightness, and fun..........it was great to see you open your heart and thoughts about this topic............

I want the chemistry my self as it has been said Trust, Respect and being Honest is very important without those things you have nothing.

absolutely right txs