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Edited by
Toodygirl5
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Mon 06/24/13 02:45 PM
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I'd recommend honesty. put them at arm's length and tell them why I agree with this^^^^ Sometimes men just play games and say same thing to many women, Online and offline is one big game to some. |
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I have a stalker on Facebook...may have to block him. |
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What to say when he comes on too strong? 
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I would like to get both the male and female perspective on this. We all know guys generally like to cut to the chase. So it's understandable when it happens, but what do you say when you like him and you don't want to totally shut him down, you just want him to ease up a little?  When subtle hints don't work, that tells me a lot about a guy...If he can't pick up on my body language or read between the lines during our conversations, he's probably not the guy for me anyway...Keeping that in mind, I would just spell it out nicely and with honesty and let the chips fall where they may... Welcome CC!... Luck, love, and happiness!  I was thinking you might tell us your choice of weapons...lol |
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What to say when he comes on too strong?  that does come fairly close to my usual terminology....just haven't had to use it in awhile 
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Basically I just want to be friends first and always say so...I want to take time to get to know and trust someone. And see if we're compatible...When I put a pan of cold water on the stove the water doesn't start "boiling" right away...It takes time to bake cookies or lasagna, etc...And this is how I feel when it comes to love too. I don't want to be pushed in a corner or "rushed" into anything. (Right off the bat.)
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Be straight forward...and tell him to ease off a little..the right guy will respect your demand...cause you should be worth waiting for right? ..
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Soooooo.....
You ladies are saying I shouldn't knock on the door with my pants around my ankles with a dozen roses in one hand and a bottle of tequila in the other? Okay....But....ask yourself..."how did he knock?" :) |
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Tell him to go rub one off in the bathroom you'll wait for him to come back.
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Takes me forever to figure out if a guy wants to date me. But I'm pretty direct once I'm actually dating someone, so if a guy is coming on strong in a sexual direction on one of our first few dates and I'm interested but I want him to slow down, I've been known to come right out and say something like, "I have every intention of sleeping with you when I feel the circumstances are right, but please let's take some time to get to the point where I can say, 'okay, it's time'."
It makes my intentions clear, opens the door for conversation about HIS intentions and my expectations, and we don't have to play games around the subject. It also weeds out the ones who can't handle feminine directness. Now, if we're talking strictly online stuff... well, I've never really seen the point of cybersex, so if a guy starts going in that direction and we've never met and/or aren't likely to, I'll flat-out tell him that. |
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Soooooo..... You ladies are saying I shouldn't knock on the door with my pants around my ankles with a dozen roses in one hand and a bottle of tequila in the other? Okay....But....ask yourself..."how did he knock?" :) Funny! Must a bin that big "knuckle" you speak of! like a tree branch in the storm..lol |
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Thank you guys! Excellent feedback!
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hit him in the head with the potato you carry for such purposes
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I would like to get both the male and female perspective on this. We all know guys generally like to cut to the chase. So it's understandable when it happens, but what do you say when you like him and you don't want to totally shut him down, you just want him to ease up a little? I'm gonna be honest...it never worked for me no matter how much I tried ...it backfires and Lose him anyway...which brought to my mind that all he wanted was to get in My pants. Didn't care about me or my feelings! Better of with out them...if they can't value your stance on things he's not worthy it! Plain and simple. |
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Soooooo..... You ladies are saying I shouldn't knock on the door with my pants around my ankles with a dozen roses in one hand and a bottle of tequila in the other? Okay....But....ask yourself..."how did he knock?" :) actually I think would like that...I'll be over if it's cuervo :) |
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