Are you happy with how your life is right this minute? RIGHT NOW? Or do you feel you will never be happy until you meet someone? Do you believe you can choose to be happy or at least content? What if you never meet anyone? Will your life still have meaning if you live it without a mate?

I am happy whether I'm with someone or not. I prefer others who are that way, too.. those who are happy and complete, rather than those who are waiting for someone to complete them to make them happy.

I find that no one can complete you. You have to complete yourself. You cannot live to make others happy. You have to make decisions that make you happy. I find that if you want to attract the right kind of people, even just as friends, you need to take care of yourself and your needs first.

I agree.

good morning tea. how did you sleep? well, I hope.

I dont agree I think everyone in there heart feels like they arn't complete no matter how much they try to convince overs they are happy alone cose when a person says they are complete on there own why would they look for a relationship or talk about it? cose realy they are craving the feeling of true love from someone again!

I was quite happy before I met Leigh, but I'm much happier now

I disagree with this. I don't believe people need someone to complete them. There are some who think that way, but they are just unhappy and are hoping that finding someone to be with will change that. It doesn't, though. They usually remain unhappy in some way.

Happiness is an emotional response to pleasant external circumstances, and those circumstances can be taken away in an instant.

Joy, however, is not dependent on external circumstances.

I used to experience plenty of times of happiness with my late wife when she was still with me. Those times of happiness ended when she died. Yet, I still experience joy.

Dont take this the wrong way!
I feel sorry that knowones made you feel like life is better when you are with them the blokes or girls you were with oviusly never showed you what it can be like and just cose a person feels complete with a partner dosen't mean these an underlieing unhappyness its cose they love the feeling of living and building a
life with someone and going through the journey of life and seeing them forfilling there dreams.

I can only depend on myself to make me happy, so I agree. It would be awful to think I needed a man to be happy. I don't need one to complete me. I'm always easily pleased in life, so it kinda just shows.

Hi Rob

I think that it's easy to be on a forum and sound independent. I would even buy the independent talk if it was not a dating site (maybe). I think many here have learned to be independent to a degree, but I see way too many people talking about relationships to buy that they are not hopeful of finding love. On this thread I see people riding that thin line of being right on the edge of that little white lie.

I think anyone who has had the taste of true love hungers for more, and those who haven't had the joy of tasting it are sitting there fork in hand. I'll now put on my monk outfit and move along.

I am happy and content and my life is meaningful. I have met a man and more than one, so I am not desperate to meet a man. I am talking to a nice gentleman now. Not sure where it is going, but I am still content.

Still looking for the right job that I can truly be happy with; other than that life is good. A relationship will never define who I am as that is something I must do on my own. Of course my life has meaning without a mate. I have done some wonderful things with my community and especially my navy cadets. I was so proud of my 9 to 12 year old kids when they played the modified Star Wars, and Bad Romance songs like pros. Seeing those kids smile has given my life meaning much more than any partner could ever do.

I disagree. There is way more to life than being paired up. I stopped looking for a relationship but I certainly enjoy the friendships I have here on Mingles. As others have said; only we can make ourselves happy and if one can find a relationship; it would be icing on the cake but one can have their cake quite happily without the icing. Maybe you feel the need to have a partner but please don't speak for us; you haven't got a clue about how we deal with life. I have true love from my family and friends who will always stand by me no matter what other than a partner who I am sure will leave when things get tough.

Well said!

Excellent point.

Not really. But I have some happy moments from the past to get me through to the future.

I agree for the most of what you have said. I think it's fruitless to obssess over realtionship status, and much healthier to live a full life that accepts both a partner and being single. So that however things turn out you will still be contented. it would be great to have a romantic partner but my life is not going to stop unless that happens. I am also not going to obssess over finding someone to the extent that the rest of my life gets put on hold.

Also some of us found having a partner stressful. being single is means not having relationship dramas and issues to worry about. right now that sounds pretty good to me

I've always been a happy type, and though I've been in a few relationships, a couple of which were serious, the majority of my life I've been single. So I suppose I'm perfectly happy without a partner. But....

...I'm a different kind of happy when in a relationship with someone I care for, and if given a GOOD choice, I prefer this kind of happiness.