Yep. Once they've made you feel "special", they then abandon you, to go for their NEXT victim. Those types are very insecure. I just lauugh it off. It's amazing they can add up.

lol love can generaly start from anywhere i believe in love thats why am searching for it what about you

I have always thought when it comes to communicating men and women are pretty much the same the only real difference is we have outies and they have innies.

If I may offer a different perspective.

Why are we (I speak of the female gender) so hard on the men we are interested in? Why must we make it so difficult for communication to happen? We say we want one thing but mentally we want something else. We set our male counterparts up for failure. It's unfair. I've had many conversations with amazingly intelligent men and when the conversation turns to "what is it that women really want out of a man?" they are completely clueless. I offer no solutions. I don't have an answer for why this happens. All I offer is hope that I don't set a potential friend up to fail.

Thank you

I love sex well and **** harder as woman love most

that is not an honest answer it is a rude & disrespectful reply. of course she will not remain with someone who is rude I wouldn't

please consider tht honesty is possible without rudeness

it was rude & disrespectful- whether it's honest is always going to be secondary to that, and NO that does not mean it is OK to be polite and dishonest either.

I'd say insecure is too kind. that's some pretty sociopathic behavior you are describing there....

Oh my... Tell us you're not projecting your life experiences onto others who are looking for compatibility and love? You may be right, or wrong... but to label us all is just weird.

Some are really good at predicting the immediate future... people thoughts, actions and final outcome. Applying their science in any scenario possible and justifying it somehow.

Proper communication can be achieved, I don't care what anybody says. First ingredient would be, not to project your thoughts of the future by dwelling on the past... like some roadmap to hell.

There's no Science to talking to women , its simple Laugh with her : Listen to her : Love her . In other words just pay attention & be honest & treat her like a lady. Always be a gentleman :)

I don't see it as men and women.

I see it as individuals.

Yeah...some guys aren't good at dealing with the ladies.

Some women make it hard as hell to deal with them.

The whole "all guys only want sex" is as wrong as "all women are gold diggers".

We can all gripe about how men can't communicate.

We can all gripe about women being borderline crazy.

The thing we should all remember.....

You women are settling for the sex crazed losers with a speech impediment.

Us guys settle for neurotic chicks who put out at the drop of a hat then flip out when you can't read their mind.

The guys ain't the problem.
The girls ain't the problem.

The guys and gals who settled for losers then don't understand that they are the common denominator in their failed love life.....

Those people are the problem.

For me talking to anyone is a matter of confidence in who I am as a person. Having good manners is also a lot more helpful than people realize. I can't stress it enough to my son. You dont have to be the coolest,strongest,fastest..ect but if you have good manners you can make friends with just about anyone.

Amen. Manners are key. Not only for men...for humans in general. Civility goes a LONG way.

Part of it, I think comes from the chase aspect some women want. They want to feel needed. If they don't act somewhat alouf, then it's a sign of being unattractive, or desperate. Now men, the persueor can get frustrated, and can feel just as desperate. Rather than coming off looking like that, we cut our losses and move on. I suspect that some men aren't as tough minded as women think we are.

*chokes on her iced tea*

Wait, what? "the chase aspect some women want"...? Seriously? Did I miss a turn and end up in Backwards World?

Here's the straight skinny:

It isn't women who want the chase. It's almost always men, when it's anyone at all. We women are taught from the damn cradle that men would rather chase a woman than catch her, and that we're supposed to play hard-to-get and act aloof so that men will want to chase us. We're taught that if we act interested in a guy, he will LOSE interest in us immediately because the thrill of the chase is what turns men on.

Seriously. This is what women, at least in my generation (I'm one of the last-born Boomers) learned at our mother's knees. And some of us, such as myself, always thought it was a bunch of bull$hit and that any guy who held that attitude was an immature azz whom we'd be better off without.

And then we grew up and started dating and discovered that there really ARE men like that, and our suspicions were confirmed: We really ARE better off without guys like that.

Some of us never had the mindset or patience for those kinds of headgames anyway. I know sure as hell never have.

But the problem is, for every one of us who recognizes gameplaying and refuses to participate, there are a dozen women who, for whatever reason, internalized the teaching and have practiced it ever since (and probably taught it to their daughters). Most of them probably hate it as much as a lot of you guys do, but until someone or something comes along and breaks the cycle, it's likely to continue.

Let me go on record here and now as saying I do not enjoy headgames, I would far rather have an honest and loving mutual relationship than be pursued, and I really wish the human race as a whole -- BOTH genders -- would grow the hell up.

Okay, who else wants the soapbox? I think I'm done for the moment.

agree!